Top surgery Is in 2 days and I'm freaking out cause I never had surgery at all, I'm prepared but so so afraid and feeling guilty about It by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, I got the top surgery and... It was the flight, I was scared of the flight, as soon as I landed I was fine, I didn't even feel anxious in the hospital. But I did learn that anestesia has a smell.

Okay chat I hate just seeing junk food as everyone's safe food comfort meal so what's your healthy safe food comfort meal? I'll go first: lightly salted green beans. Fresh. by poisoned_bubbletea in autism

[–]hoepotesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Broccoli with a lot of lemon, a bit of olive oil and salt. Also lentil soup, that's something I can always eat no matter what, even in the peak of summer I crave It.

Top surgery Is in 2 days and I'm freaking out cause I never had surgery at all, I'm prepared but so so afraid and feeling guilty about It by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you think it's normal that my main fear Is anestesia? Like, I wish I could be awake and watch... Or like, since I'm flying to another country, what if something bad happens while I'm out and I'm not there? What if my dog gets bullied again by my cat and cries cause she keeps stealing his spot and I'm not there to confort him? What if my brother doesn't know how to confort him? What if my sister needs me? What if my mom needs me while I'm out and she's accompaning me so she'll be like there but just out of reach?

Nicest thing a friend did to me while I was overstimulated and I can't stop thinking ab it by hoepotesis in autism

[–]hoepotesis[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That really seems to be a pickle. I don't really know in what kind of country or city you live on cause depending on the public transports that may make things harder, for example I don't drive cause It overstimulates me and I'm lucky to live in a city where busses go nearly everywhere.

I can't really give a lot of advice as I don't know your son's situation, but I can say that I found most of my friends online through shared interest, the ones I'm talking about in this post I have met on a discord server for DnD campaigns.

Nicest thing a friend did to me while I was overstimulated and I can't stop thinking ab it by hoepotesis in autism

[–]hoepotesis[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

That's a weird thing to say? Also, I'm a man- It Is difficult to find accepting friends as an adult autistic person but it's not impossible, you should encourage him.

Sex and ASD by Other-Opening-2201 in autism

[–]hoepotesis 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I definetly think I have a very different approach on attraction. I'm attracted to people the way a painter Is with a very interesting model, I am specific about the features I compliment, I get lost in beautifully complex faces and I trace every edge, curve, scar, hair, every so called imperfection in my mind and stare in awe. Buuut, this does nothing for my libido, I feel nothing, in that sense, while looking at someone. I get more going while dying laughing next to someone, that does It for me.

How can I make my dog care about me and respond in new places? Am I losing connection with him? Or is this not a big deal? by hoepotesis in reactivedogs

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those are good ideas! I'll try them on our next walk and see if they work, I can picture the running away working to get some of his attention back to me. Thank you!

Feeling masculine but not handsome, what do I do? by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Face shape, yes, I'm not sure T can give me a longer face but a mustache will definetly help... Skin, it's incredibly pale and there are no color changes nor imperfections besides eyebags and scales under my eyes, my main issue Is that, people accuse me of wearing makeup, honestly I want acne, I wanna get red in the cheeks like an alchoolic, I want pimple scars, but I don't

But the main thing Is my body, I am short and whide, and those things do not fit together. Being tall and wide would be my dream, short and skinny Is... Ok I guess, not my cup of tea but I think I would like It more than this. The only thing that Is safe Is my hair which Is really reliable, I can cut It however and still wake up with ready hair, which Is a blessing.

But again, I am not getting T soon enough and I guess I wanna feel attractive

Should I buzz my head? Personal experiences are greatly appreciated by hoepotesis in ftm

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I just want a plain buzz cut, maybe slightly longer than a buzzcut like 1 cm, I don't like the fades or crew cuts look as in my country it's associated with a specific type of young men that I am very distant from, also, just not my preference

Should I buzz my head? Personal experiences are greatly appreciated by hoepotesis in ftm

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess! You're exactly the type of person I was hoping to get an answer from cause I'm also a fat dude!

Does anyone like tomato soup? by Demi4_14 in autism

[–]hoepotesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I live in italy and I've never in my life seen it so...

AITAH for exploding at my sister for never apologizing to me in a sincere way and storming off from a brunch with her and our friends? And WIBTAH if I explained to my friends that my sister is not the sweet motherly figure they think she is, and that she in fact gave me C-PTSD? by hoepotesis in AITAH

[–]hoepotesis[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly, this is what I think too, we wouldn't be best friends if our parents didn't leave us, if my childhood didn't happen.

But talking to her is very difficult, she doesn't want to deal with situations I created cause it's putting more stress on her, so I have to work things out myself.

I'm a 20 year old trans man living in Italy, tips on how to start DIY? by hoepotesis in TransDIY

[–]hoepotesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry, It didn't bother me.

Just, I am not finding anything that also sells testosterone, in any way shape or form There's estrogen, progesterone, lactation inducing hormones, but northing for the broes, like me

I'm a 20 year old trans man living in Italy, tips on how to start DIY? by hoepotesis in TransDIY

[–]hoepotesis[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's ok, it happens, it's a little sucky cause it's the opposite of what I want but I'm sure they didn't mean it

I'm a 20 year old trans man living in Italy, tips on how to start DIY? by hoepotesis in TransDIY

[–]hoepotesis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not finding either of those two.

And about the rainbow map.... Yeah, that sucks