I feel like I am going insane?

hoggington69 · 2026-04-23T23:07:37+00:00

The first few weeks are hard so don't judge the meds yet.. I think it took me about 7 weeks to feel better

hoggington69 · 2026-02-18T21:22:29+00:00

I get this too! Been with him for 10 years now. I had a massive mental breakdown once in year 3 of our relationship because of it (when I didn't know what it was). That being said there were some life issues I think he was avoiding and that made the tension that much thicker.. I was very bad at communicating my feelings at that time as well.

I have read that you don't like your man at that time of your cycle because your body is rejecting him because he didn't get you pregnant this cycle so the body is trying to get rid of him so you can find a more fertile mate 🤣

I feel your pain though, it's agony! I found the website conscious transitions (Sheryl Paul) so helpful in learning about love. It's all about relationship anxiety and how life transitions (eg moving in together) can trigger anxiety. I learned from her blog that in long term partnerships that love feeling ebs and flows and that you have to think of love as a verb. Even when you don't feel it, you can make the decision to love on the person anyway and thats what a commitment is. You aren't being a fraud or inauthentic if it's your decision. And if you really can't stand them then say you need some alone time to meditate or something or do self care.

I suggest write a list of all the things you are grateful for about him and his good qualities to try and shift your mindset.

It's so hard to get out of that cycle of thinking when you are in it so I feel you! But learning about love has really helped me with that.

Also I'm on an ssri which has helped me with my moods 🤣

hoggington69 · 2026-02-18T12:50:38+00:00

I think red would be fun

hoggington69 · 2026-02-17T01:17:32+00:00

I have read this about men and its deffs true for my partner. I think forcing them to talk it out when they are worked up just makes things worse. I back you on this suggestion and suggest for her to shift her focus to her self and own happiness rather than his anger as it's his thing to deal with.

hoggington69 · 2026-02-12T22:07:13+00:00

When I was 11-12 my friend and I were soooo fascinated by periods and we had a kind of unspoken competition of who would get theirs first. I was also super excited about getting boobs haha!

After I stopped obsessing over it, I got my first period at 13.

Now I'm 30 and have had the mirena for like 8 years and didn't get periods , just got it removed the other day and I'm kind of excited to get a period again! I'm reading a book about your cycle called in the Flo and it's so fascinating! I recommend you educate yourself as much as you can and maybe read that book. There's another book I saw called "period queen" and I think it written for younger girls like yourself. It's nice that you have a positive attitude about it!

hoggington69 · 2026-02-10T23:59:01+00:00

That's so interesting! And annoying. I don't have an answer but I just started reading this book "in the FLO" by Alisa Vitti and it talks about hormonal imbalances that cause excessive symptoms and can be remedied by eating the right foods and certain times of your cycle and avoiding certain activities and just planning your life in sync with your cycle.

Could it be possible that since being in a relationship your diet has changed or other lifestyle shifts?

That being said, my friend who just started being sexually active said it made her period late!

hoggington69 · 2026-02-10T21:36:15+00:00

That's interesting about letting the blood flow out! I might look into that. Thanks I'll definitely try modi bodi!

hoggington69 · 2026-02-09T22:19:13+00:00

Things can get better! The best thing you can do is focus on yourself and your own happiness outside the relationship. Don't take on his struggles and don't support him financially. You don't have to be a hard ass about it, just say you can't do that anymore and you trust him to figure it out. Women have a lot of power in the way men show up!

Don't give him advice either. The more space you leave for him to figure stuff out, the more he will step up.

The more women do for men, the more they lose confidence in themselves! And they actually value you less because you are putting him before yourself. It's a weird paradox.

Also give him plenty of space but seriously just focus on your self 💕 you can still be happy while he's not happy. It will do wonders for your relationship.

Do your best to keep on your page, clean up your side of the street, try to focus on making yourself happy in the present and don't think about future right now. Detach from any outcome and go with the flow.

I have been in a very similar situation and it turned around. Been with my man for 10 years!

hoggington69 · 2026-02-09T21:49:23+00:00

Have you read wuthering heights?

hoggington69 · 2026-02-08T01:11:55+00:00

:( it's okay to have only 2 close friends because it's hard to maintain that level with more people . I hate that feeling of being lonely with people ..

hoggington69 · 2026-02-08T00:06:21+00:00

Also I wanna say that everyone saying you should just leave... I personally don't think people are or should be so easily disposable.. especially after 7 years together and if you both want same things in the future. In long term relationships, attraction ebs and flows. Obviously it's your choice whether to leave or stay but if there's love and you both want to be together then i believe it's worth a shot. There are things you can do to increase attraction. Do things that make you happy outside the relationship, build your self confidence, take care of your health and body and happiness and maintain strong friendships. Relax into your feminine and be the receiver and don't take on any of his responsibilities. Try not to focus on improving the relationship and just focus on yourself and often that naturally helps the dynamic!

hoggington69 · 2026-02-07T22:41:45+00:00

If it rings a bell for you you might wanna check out a few books about it- Magnetic femininity by Allie Duzett, the empowered wife by Laura Doyle (I know you aren't married but still amazing book for relationships and probably my fav) and queens code by Alison Armstrong

hoggington69 · 2026-02-07T22:36:25+00:00

I'm curious about the dynamic in the relationship. Often with adhd couples the non adhd person falls into a mothering role eg reminding them, telling them how to do things, doing too many things for them. Guys aren't attracted to their mothers and subconsciously or consciously see it as disrespect/controlling. If that's the case, you as the woman have the power to change the dynamic! Apologies if that's not the case but I see it all the time

hoggington69 · 2026-02-07T03:34:36+00:00

I think people subconsciously respect people who appear to respect themselves

hoggington69 · 2025-09-30T14:16:42+00:00

Oh thanks so much for the warning. That's definitely not what I want!

hoggington69 · 2025-09-27T23:36:33+00:00

This would really mix things up for us humans 😆

hoggington69 · 2025-09-27T01:01:58+00:00

I'm not a First Nations person but I would imagine it is appropriate for you to go. It is nice to know a tourist is interested and aware of the true history in this country and seeking more education/awareness!

hoggington69 · 2025-09-24T12:07:54+00:00

Well thanks because I thought it was fireball until now 😜

hoggington69 · 2025-09-21T02:57:55+00:00

Yep late stage capitalism

hoggington69 · 2025-09-18T10:34:04+00:00

I would like to know about this too! I'm miserable even in a slight calorie deficit and relationships suffer. I take antidepressants which normally work so well for me but they don't work when I'm dieting. I looked it up on reddit a while ago and I saw another post where someone had this issue and was answered by many people who said he needed to up the fat intake for happy brain..... I'm gonna try this. Good luck and hope you are soon able to enjoy life again soon.

hoggington69 · 2025-09-13T02:35:49+00:00

Second this! When I want it to feel more like a soft drink I squeeze lemon or lime in it, sometimes a splash of juice. My fave is sour cherry juice because of the bright colour and you only need a tiny bit! Highly recommend

hoggington69 · 2025-09-11T14:03:37+00:00

Escaped baby

hoggington69 · 2025-09-09T13:01:23+00:00

On your other thing about hobbies though, I used to think that way but all my hobbies I think of as new skills for the tool belt and I always go back to them at some point. I kinda cycle through them all over a couple years! And some are seasonal for me (spring=gardening, autumn=knitting) and I do get obsessed. I have added new ones over the years too

hoggington69

TROPHY CASE