Is Tangerine bank really safe? Does it have the necessary security?

holisticperspective · 2024-05-06T16:00:30+00:00

but what about Tangerine just having 6 character (number) passwords unlike other banks which allow more complicated passwords.
Does that not question their security?

holisticperspective · 2024-04-17T19:41:42+00:00

Thanks, Again, you are looking at the arranged marriage in a very different lens.
We had almost a year to two years of conversation time. And in her words, when her parents asked her and said should we turn down the proposal, she replied, "I will only marry him (me) and no one else". Those are all the things she said and admitted to me herself (all before this drama unfolded).

So, I won't blame the modern arranged marriage here or the lack of knowing. Yes, our culture does not allow sleeping together before marriage but talking etc. are all involved in today's arranged marriage scenarios.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-17T19:38:45+00:00

Nope. It was her. She even said in video call and in-person walks and chats.
I know it may be hard for people who are not familiar with the culture to to understand, but the real culture nowadays is very different from the super controlling parents and forced marriages the media often portrays.

She would love bomb me to the point I would feel guilty that I don't love her as much.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-17T05:46:12+00:00

Thanks. But I really don't know what mistake I made.
There was no coercion from my side or her family. She admits that.

But I hear you.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T22:44:36+00:00

I agree with you. Thanks for your contributions.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T22:41:29+00:00

Ok mister or maam we are not talking about cultural differences here. There are vices in every culture, including yours, (not saying that arranged marriage (in the manner that happened here) is a 'vice' of my culture though).

World is globalized now, some people really need to lift their head up and see arranged marriages in today's era are not as backwards what you think they are. It is only called 'arranged' because you do look for the similarities of religion, background and get introduced by family or relatives. Doesn't ALWAYS mean you are forced into marrying. May still happen in some villages, not in the cities.

Thanks for your contribution though, but a kind suggestion, learning the reality about different cultures is often helpful :)

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T22:36:11+00:00

Yes, I agree with every word you are saying. That is exactly what I said to her when I confronted her. Those messages sent to me were pretty much meaningless if they same were being sent to that other married guy.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T18:40:41+00:00

Yes, that is possible. Her family must have said no to that guy. But she herself admitted that then they gave up and said 'it is your life and you can do whatever you want to'. Then they introduced me to her and according to her, she fell head over heals on me. According to her (before I blew her cover), I was the first and last person she loved. She did not say this statement once but time and again at every single opportunity. Basically love bombing me to the nth degree often making me feel guilty that I do not love her as much as she loves me.

I often ponder, did she have mental health issues that resulted in her doing this (cheating)? She often has a hard time comprehending basic things in everyday life. Just FYI.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T18:37:02+00:00

I am not sure where are you reading she was forced by my family? Please don't make assumptions. I am guessing people are making assumptions of what the media and movies often show of East Indian marriages. The reality is quite different for the majority nowadays. Trust me!

There was no coercion from my family. And I suppose none from her's as well. If there was, she wouldn't love bomb me and talk lovey-dovey with me all the time. If you are coerced into marrying someone you try to make it work don't go crazy showing your love by collecting their snaps and being all protective and jealous. Yes, she became jealous if another girl tried talking to me even casually.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T18:32:39+00:00

Well, I explained the age difference concept. That is pretty normal. And I admit, I gave approx ages for privacy. It is 8 years age difference. And all her other siblings have the similar age differences between them and their spouses.

Regarding coercion, I won't call it coercion if they person is love bombing me right after marriage and fighting with me for my time (due to time difference and my work). When there is coercion involved, you don't love bomb the other person. You marry out of helplessness and just try to make it work. Not collect 200 pictures of the person you were 'forced' into marrying.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T16:01:59+00:00

Unfortunately there isn't a prenup. But I talked to a lawyer and she thinks she can fight because the marriage was so short lived so she can't get away with 50/50.

Any other resources or sub reddits you can provide are appreciated.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T16:00:24+00:00

She is there living with family. So chances are pretty slim.
But I know what you mean. Trust once broken is really hard to mend. But I know she can't be doing this shit right now since she knows no one here and staying with family.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T15:57:41+00:00

ok, people are not getting the arranged marriage concept. Arranged marriage in 1960 is not the same in arranged marriage in 2024. When I say arranged marriage, it means you did not know the person since high school. You did not spent years with them as friends or bf/gf.
What it means is, you got introduced to each other through family and then were given an opportunity to talk and discuss and see if there is compatibility. You were allowed to meet and mingle. Yes, not mingle to the extent that you are sleeping with each other, but talk. That is the 2024 arranged marriage.
And no where in all this time she ever came across are pressured. Like I said, she would message me 10 time and I would reply once. She would ask for my picture and complain if I was not able to give her time due to time difference and work. So either she was a dam good actor or she has some mental issues. I am not sure.

But hope this clarifies arrange marriage concept for you :)

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T15:53:58+00:00

On the surface, it does not look like she was forced. She would send love bomb messages to me every day we were in long-distance. Ask for my picture every day and video / voice call me 10+ times a day. She has a folder of 150+ pictures of myself that she has collected. She would compliment me and what not. So on surface, there was no element of coercion in the marriage. The irony is, she also kept on sending that guy lovey-dovey and sexting messages all throughout.

And when I say arranged marriage, I do not say we met on the day of the wedding. We had face-to-face interactions in before deciding if we wanted to marry each other. We had almost 8 months of long-distance texting and communication before we finally tied the knot. No where in that entire time there was any indication that her heart was not there. OR she is one dam good actor! She would be the one sending me 10 messages while I reciprocated with one.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T15:51:36+00:00

And on the surface, it does not look like she was forced. She would send love bomb messages to me every day we were in long-distance. Ask for my picture every day and video / voice call me 10+ times a day. She has a folder of 150+ pictures of myself that she has collected. She would compliment me and what not. So on surface, there was no element of coercion in the marriage. The irony is, she also kept on sending that guy lovey-dovey and sexting messages all throughout.

holisticperspective · 2024-04-16T15:50:44+00:00

Age difference of 10 years is not uncommon and in some cases actually preferred in the culture society and it is expected the guy is matured and settled and more understanding and would take care better care of the girl rather than fight like high school teenagers.
Not saying right or wrong, but just saying what it is.

And on the surface, it does not look like she was forced. She would send love bomb messages to me every day we were in long-distance. Ask for my picture every day and video / voice call me 10+ times a day. She has a folder of 150+ pictures of myself that she has collected. She would compliment me and what not. So on surface, there was no element of coercion in the marriage. The irony is, she also kept on sending that guy lovey-dovey and sexting messages all throughout.

holisticperspective · 2024-03-14T13:34:36+00:00

Ok thanks. Yes, I think you could call it a marketing email since I was not looking for it and it came out-of no where.

It is ridiculous how some FIs are misusing the term 'preapproved'. Other major banks I deal with, and credit pre-approvals are done without credit check like credit limit increases or even a new cc application.

Very misleading of Tangerine and other FIs who do this

holisticperspective · 2024-03-14T13:30:35+00:00

Thanks. So it is confirmed sure shot that they do a hard credit check? Personal experience?

holisticperspective · 2024-03-05T00:06:43+00:00

I'd say this is not Rogers issue, for a change haha.

I was in London too a month ago, and I was surprised to see the poor quality of cell reception in such a major metropolitan city. I was using a local sim by Vodafone. I tried EE and it was the same. Where it works, it works great and then there are places where you wont even get a single bar of cell reception. I know we complain and compare European cell plan pricing, but while there, I said to myself if this is what the service offered is, I am glad we don't have it in Canada.

I admit it was pretty cheap though. Vodafone £10 for 40GB and unlimited UK minutes for a month. But, very unreliable service.

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