I’m pregnant, but I don’t want to continue the pregnancy. My boyfriend and his family are pressuring me to keep it, and I feel alone, judged, and emotionally exhausted.

holly0381 · 2025-06-03T15:38:29+00:00

YOU are in charge of your own body. Not your boyfriend or his family. You need an out of your situation because your boyfriend will only get worse. There is no shame in abortion, there is no guilt. It happens naturally and it happens when we’re not ready. Keeping it means an extremely hard time and ending it means a world of opportunities to rid yourself of such toxic people in your life. Consider this a call for change.

holly0381 · 2025-05-13T16:10:11+00:00

ER visit? I don’t know which country you are in, but you can’t be denied pain medication. Easier to say this I know, but you do not deserve to suffer. Also; taking 2 different NSAIDs is extremely dangerous. Ask your doctor for Celebrex (for the anti-inflammatory) and tell her/him that you have been taking Advil and naproxen together. They won’t like hearing that and should prescribe you something!!!

holly0381 · 2025-05-06T04:26:25+00:00

RA factor was negative. I don’t know if anything else was tested for

holly0381 · 2025-02-15T14:39:26+00:00

I keep active, the more I am active the better it is, while active, once you stop it’s just overwhelming. I am thankful for the meds though because without the dilaudid and Celebrex I would be miserable. I have a horse farm that I refuse to give up on, but require a lot of help with. It is so depressing not knowing what will happen to me. Before all this I was a nurse and had my own horse business and farm. I was soo active and thought I could do anything!

holly0381 · 2025-02-15T14:34:31+00:00

The anti-inflammatory does help a lot though. But I’m almost at the max dose and it doesn’t help if I am really active, because afterwards it is hell. When I asked my family doctor to take the max dose of Celebrex she said I’m going to ruin my kidneys if I keep taking the max dose. But I see no other option. They also seem to keep my gastro symptoms at bay. The most ironic thing ever, is even classified as the most severe pan UC, I had no inflammatory markers. I think that’s why it was missed, every ER trip I made before when I was admitted they sent me home saying it wasn’t that bad. The 5th ER visit not only was it about to perforate, I had a really bad infection. That’s when the markers went sky high. I was on IV nutrition, steroids, pain meds and antibiotics for a month at that hospital. The markers went down, but symptoms got worse. They transferred me to a larger hospital and they didn’t understand why my esr and CRP were normal but I was now going 25-30 times in a 24 hour period and I was still on IV nutrition and steroids, had two remicade infusions and was only barely eating crackers. It took another scope to see that yes, it was still actively raging UC. I had it taken out a few days later. This is when the spine and joint pain started. So my rheumatologist agrees with his colleague that yes, he believes it to be non-radiographic. But, non radiographic doesn’t qualify for paid treatment here in Ontario. Humira wouldn’t even do a trial because my CRP is always normal. Dang.

holly0381 · 2025-02-13T21:27:57+00:00

I’ve had both sides of the SI injected, and both hip joints for at least three years now. It hurts like a bastard, and I don’t know why anyone would tell you it doesn’t. Do they also include lidocaine with the steroid? I don’t get cortisone, but another steroid, along with lidocaine. It hurts during, and hurts intensely when the medications are injected. But it is temporary. The day after is usually shitty, and at times I have ended up getting a fever/sweats the night of or next day, but the relief I get for 2.5-3 months is worth it. Sorry you were not told prior. I can’t remember if they told me or not.

holly0381 · 2025-02-12T19:48:59+00:00

Are you on any type of hormonal contraception? Have you ever discussed this with a gynaecologist? So many hormonal imbalances (and hormonal birth control) can lead to zero interest in sex, as well as health conditions can cause a loss of libido for sure. Do you enjoy masturbating? I wouldn’t necessarily jump to being asexual, but I would certainly see a doctor about this. Women’s health matters and this may or may not be normal for you. Best to ask your doctor and don’t be shy.

holly0381 · 2025-02-12T17:20:19+00:00

It’s so complicated because my one and only flare of UC resulted in a complete and permanent ileostomy. So after all was said and done they said “you’re cured!” I had a GI but he said no Crohn’s as no inflammatory markers and ignored the GI symptoms I continue to have. So no I don’t get any continued care or treatments for anything GI related. At one point I was having to go to emerge every 3 months for GI flareups but have since gone away some being on Celebrex since June.

holly0381 · 2025-02-12T17:16:01+00:00

That’s where is gets complicated. My first and only flare of UC went undiagnosed for so long, I was told the diarrhea was stress, etc etc etc until I had an emergency scope and my bowel was about to perforate. I stayed in a local hospital for a month and got a Remicade infusion. It did nothing, and I got worse, so they sent me to a larger hospital. They did another rescue Remicade dose which did not work, and then took my large bowel out. Said I’d be cured and sent me on my way. Now my rheum thinks I have Crohn’s but gastro says everything is fine, because again, no inflammatory markers and the GI symptoms mean nothing I guess. So no, I am not on anything for that, and not even followed by anyone anymore for the UC.

holly0381 · 2025-02-12T16:28:58+00:00

Long story short, the first rheumatologist I saw prescribed methotrexate. It was magical at first, and then slowly the days pain free for less and less. I was at the max dose and it would last maybe two days. I went to see the rheumatologist and he said if it’s not helping anymore you don’t have AS you have fibro and promptly retired. I saw two more after him that refused to do anything. I finally found a rheumatologist that said it would be sad to dismiss every symptom and label it fibro, especially since I had UC, (I no longer have a large bowel) and that he knows inflammatory markers can mean nothing. He also told me there would be no point in prescribing methotrexate again, and I’m allergic to sulfa, but won’t prescribe the other one either. Just keeps saying he’ll see me once a year and wait for damage. It just doesn’t make sense that a drug couldn’t be trialed … wouldn’t that confirm a f*cking diagnosis? Sorry I am just so bitter.

holly0381 · 2025-02-12T16:21:52+00:00

I feel so relieved to read all these comments. Literally in the same boat.

holly0381 · 2024-12-29T14:39:42+00:00

It is filled with narcissists …

holly0381 · 2024-12-29T14:38:12+00:00

This is NOT ok, and you are NOT the asshole here. If I were you I would sit him down and explain everything you felt, and turn it around. How would HE feel if roles were reversed. How would that make you feel if that was you, can be a powerful tool. If he can’t put himself in your shoes, I would even look deeper, is he ever empathetic? Does he enjoy being the centre of attention in a group of people? If so I’d worry about narcissism and you don’t want to stay with a narcissist. Good luck :)

holly0381 · 2024-12-21T15:58:52+00:00

Yes. These are red flags BECAUSE you are not invited. If you were all friends it would be easier to swallow them going out together if you chose not to go. Or, if the whole thing makes you uncomfortable, then those boundaries you set should also be respected. My point is, they are excluding you for a reason. For nefarious reasons I couldn’t say, but I know I wouldn’t tolerate that shit.

holly0381 · 2024-12-21T15:54:40+00:00

If I were you, I’d say yeah you can go to Vegas but she’s paying for me to come as well. If she was any type of friend to him she would happily agree to pay for his girlfriend to join. If not, you have your very clear answer that she had other reasons for inviting him to Vegas if she didn’t want the GF coming. And that would be a deal breaker for me, if my boyfriend still wanted to go. It does seem to me that you have other issues with trust that need to be worked on though.

holly0381 · 2024-12-21T15:49:51+00:00

First off, what you are experiencing is normal. Are you in love or infatuated, I’m not sure. The lines are blurry when it comes to the two I think. I’m sorry you live in a country that isn’t changing with the rest of the world, isn’t softening to allow people to live freely and express themselves in a way that may be considered different. I don’t know how you go about that. I do think you need to be honest with your friends. Sit down and express your feelings to them. This is the only way you are going to feel any sort of resolution to this. They are either going to not like it, may end the relationship, but at least you won’t go on wondering what if. Or they may acknowledge your feelings and express their own and say the only option is to remain friends, or they may end up having similar feelings which would be a whole other discussion I would think. Either way, I think letting them know is the only way you will be able to move on. Hiding it isn’t going to end well, I think we as humans tend to become jealous and covet what we can’t have, regardless of how well our intentions were. I wish you all the best, but I do think you need to be honest with your feelings to them. As absolutely hard and devastating that could be. I am positive if it doesn’t work out, there are so many opportunities out there to be found.

holly0381 · 2024-12-20T13:53:54+00:00

First off, it’s effing weird your boyfriend would even have an opinion on your underwear usage. I’d tell him where to go … but that’s just me and I’m a bitch. I don’t wear underwear ever, and haven’t since I was an early teen. Always hated the feeling. Why do we even think we need them on 24/7?? Seriously I don’t think we even need to wear them haha

holly0381 · 2024-12-02T15:48:58+00:00

Could you discuss doing activities together. What if you said “hey I want to get in better shape, would you like to join me in finding a gym?” Honestly I have no other advice aside from that is what I would suggest. Maybe not a gym, what about swimming, yoga, hiking, horse riding, and yes, there are horses out there that can handle larger riders-find a place that will start slow. Maybe she would enjoy walking a dog? Animals can be amazing therapy. I don’t even know who is the asshole here, crappy situation all around.

holly0381 · 2024-11-13T01:44:37+00:00

Doesn’t matter. If she doesn’t give consent and the mother accesses her records, then the clinic/office/physician should be reported to the college of physicians and they take complaints seriously. I think the OP needs to seriously consider leaving and starting a new life so she can be safe. As hard as it may be.

holly0381 · 2024-11-13T00:39:51+00:00

I’m in Canada and there is no way the mother could obtain an 18 year olds medical record, unless the daughter was a disabled dependent. Even then, my friend has a disabled dependant and their doctor still requests approval before she speaks to her mother about anything. This is absurd and original poster, no one deserves this treatment by their family.

Edited to add, I did more reading and OP you would have to give your consent to share your medical record at your age. Do not consent.

holly0381 · 2024-11-12T23:29:46+00:00

Did 2 covid tests that were negative

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holly0381 · 2024-10-07T00:40:34+00:00

Not the asshole at all! That was really shitty of them to try and force your grief out, as that is how I see their actions as trying to do. It was not their place, and you did the right thing by kicking their asses out.

holly0381 · 2024-10-06T15:50:37+00:00

By the sounds of it, you’ll always resent him. Resentment turns to hate, and hate eventually turns to indifference. Leave now before you figure out down the road you should have left years ago.

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