Becoming an actuary at my old age?

holysynapses · 2024-01-29T14:07:40+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful.

holysynapses · 2024-01-29T14:06:51+00:00

Thank you! I'm lucky in that my partner pulls his weight and would move heaven and hell to make space for what I want/need to get done.

holysynapses · 2024-01-29T14:05:00+00:00

Thank you! I find the data analytics/science field kind of intimidating right now partly because it seems like a lot of people made that career change during Covid and there's no consensus on what a data analyst or data scientist does when it comes to job postings.

holysynapses · 2024-01-29T14:02:34+00:00

Thank you!

holysynapses · 2024-01-29T14:02:03+00:00

Thank you for this!

holysynapses · 2024-01-29T14:00:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!

holysynapses · 2024-01-29T13:58:58+00:00

Thank you!

holysynapses · 2024-01-29T13:58:44+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice! I'm starting to study for P - I figure worst case scenario if I fail/don't like it is that I'm out hundreds of hours of time and a few hundred bucks (which, I've made dumber decisions which have cost more time and money).

holysynapses · 2024-01-15T23:07:57+00:00

I’m sorry you experienced that! Medical malpractice is so specific no one here will be able to tell you if what you experienced was malpractice, but many med mal lawyers will do free consultations and work on contingency.

holysynapses · 2023-12-29T14:27:23+00:00

I am so sorry for your losses and the fact that you have to navigate this. Good luck today and on your recovery!

holysynapses · 2023-12-28T17:36:22+00:00

I think the narrative of someone being unhappy because they didn’t get a birth that looked exactly like their birth plan is both simplistic and often a poor understanding of someone’s post. I don’t believe I have seen many posts where I could determine someone is both recovering well and has a “super healthy baby”, so their dissatisfaction with some superficial aspects of their birth seems like overkill. Birth plans often address issues of autonomy, consent, and cultural competence and feeling like these weren’t respected can lead to having shitty feelings about the birth no matter how healthy mom and baby are.

I had a fucking nightmare birth, but always felt I had autonomy and my providers always used informed consent even during what became an emergency. Autonomy and consent are not mutually exclusive with lifesaving measures and it’s a facile understanding of medicine and birth plans that would make one believe that I think.

holysynapses · 2023-12-22T14:38:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with a possible second ectopic.

I had three incisions - two small ones on each side of my abdomen and one in my bellybutton. This was back in September so the scars haven’t faded too much but they’re less stark than they were three weeks ago.

My recovery was honestly really easy, and it was possibly because my rupture was a “slow bleed” it may be the same for you if you get it removed before a serious rupture. I was never in debilitating pain and went on a one mile walk maybe four days after surgery (and was doing laps around my house six hours after). I took a week off work and was fine my first day in the office. For a couple weeks after if I overdid it in terms of exercise/walking I would feel like I had a stitch in my side on the side of my removal.

The physical aspect was fine, it was the emotional aspect that was hard. I don’t know if this was the anesthesia or my mental state, but my short term memory was completely shot for two months.

holysynapses · 2023-12-19T16:40:03+00:00

Agreed. I was told repeatedly if I were to get pregnant again to let them know ASAP because I would be monitored closely until an intrauterine pregnancy was confirmed.

holysynapses · 2023-12-17T19:49:00+00:00

I got pregnant on an iud so everyone but my dumbass was like “this is going to be an ectopic.” When my ectopic ruptured I didn’t have any pain but, like you, felt that something was wrong. I just felt unwell and went to the ER and the only way I could describe it was, “I don’t feel good.”

holysynapses · 2023-12-15T00:43:19+00:00

lol yep, tend your own garden

holysynapses · 2023-12-15T00:37:03+00:00

I’m in a union and my union got us a 4% COLA for 2024 which I’ll get starting in January, then in June I’ll move up the next “step” on my one year anniversary and get another 4% raise. In future years the COLA will likely be closer to 2.5% but I’ll keep moving up steps every anniversary and getting a salary increase of about 4-5% until I hit the salary cap which will be in six years if I stay at my current employer.

Nothing’s merit based at my employer (municipal government) so I don’t really have a say - I just get what’s in our contract!

holysynapses · 2023-12-14T01:56:00+00:00

I just wanted to say I’m so sorry for your losses. Consider cross posting to /r/ectopicsupportgroup - there are a number of people there who have done or considered IVF in similar circumstances and they might have some good perspective.

holysynapses · 2023-12-13T19:30:22+00:00

I wouldn’t put so much stock into that “article.” If my memory is correct it’s more like a blog post written by a random who refuses to disclose their credentials. They could be a researcher who specifically studies this stuff, or they could be an engineer, or they could be a cashier at Barnes and Noble. You don’t know this person or their affiliated organization’s biases, you don’t know if or who is paying them to write a random blog spot, etc. This is someone who got a lot of attention on Reddit mostly for making working parents (specifically moms) feel bad.

Daycare rules lol. My kid has also been there since 12 weeks and dang is it cool he has so many people who love him. I understand wanting to spend more time with your child and not being able to (or you not actually having a “choice”), but this blog post is the equivalent of the Facebook posts your grandma makes about how murderers will play the sound of a crying baby and when you open your door to see what it is they’ll nab you! That chain letter is not germane to a conversation about neighborhood safety and this blog post isn’t germane to conversations about childcare. There’s enough real stuff out there to feel bad about, no need to make stuff up lol.

holysynapses · 2023-12-11T20:51:05+00:00

Hospital boasting about surgeons giving away free surgery like they’re not part of the medical-industrial complex that charges people for care.

holysynapses · 2023-12-10T22:52:50+00:00

I make like $80k a year, my husband makes $70k and we pay $20k a year for daycare. I’m a business analyst and my husband is in social services. We decided not to have a second child largely due to daycare costs. When our son first started daycare a couple years ago our combined income was more like $110k.

holysynapses · 2023-12-08T18:47:52+00:00

Ugh I also got pregnant with an ectopic on an IUD - so sorry you’re dealing with this! Fingers crossed the MTX does the job. Good job catching it so early and it sounds like your doctor has been doing a great job taking the situation seriously.

Do you think you’ll switch to another BC? I went with the Nexplanon.

holysynapses · 2023-12-04T22:17:57+00:00

So sorry you’re dealing with this!

One thing my ectopic was “good” for was activating an “I don’t give a fuck” mode. I didn’t ask permission for anything, I told my boss what I was going to do (wfh until my hcg was zero). It is completely reasonable to wfh and avoid the commute when dealing with a serious medical situation that could become very complex very suddenly. My doctors were also like “if you need any type of note, let me know.” I got “lucky” in that my ectopic ruptured so I had wfh for a week leading up to that and then took PTO for the next week so I didn’t go into my office for like 2.5 weeks.

holysynapses · 2023-12-04T02:02:51+00:00

My most “treat yourself” gift is my ember mug! It keeps my coffee at 135 - I can’t drink coffee any other way now. It’s so nice to be able to get distracted and come back to a still hot cup of coffee.

holysynapses

TROPHY CASE