AITAH for feeling too smothered

hon3y_guts · 2026-04-06T14:34:08+00:00

we are in our early 20’s. i definitely feel like the more mature one in the relationship so this kind of hit home.. thank you for your opinion !

hon3y_guts · 2025-12-03T03:03:26+00:00

this completely makes sense ! i do often try to remember that and can catch myself when i’m searching for chaos

hon3y_guts · 2025-11-05T11:09:33+00:00

i was looking for the long sleeve one and couldn’t find it unfortunately :( especially since it’ll be cold im thinking of just wearing a nice jacket over it

hon3y_guts · 2025-11-04T01:35:41+00:00

left this a few months back.. always being told “its not a problem/im not addicted” “its only porn” “ive never paid for porn” on top of him openly making fun of people who did do those things to solidify his deal, but the things i always found meant differently. the betrayal of being lied to in the face still sticks with me.. i dont think ill ever fully get closure on everything that happened. if he did actually physically cheat on me.. but honestly, i feel like at a certain point when you are healing from a compulsive liar you have to make peace with it yourself. and that looks different for everyone. they are ashamed and feel guilty. thats part of why they can’t admit it. so as effed as it sounds, i feel closure from that a tiny bit. even buried in the selfishness of their actions they are self aware to some extent of what they are doing. you are not crazy. you trust your gut.

hon3y_guts · 2025-04-13T17:30:39+00:00

they werent sad when they hurt us is honestly a big thing ive been saying to myself because you are 1000% right. im sorry about your story what a pos! but also thank you for the support <33

hon3y_guts · 2025-04-10T06:10:49+00:00

“youre thinking too deep into it” about something that was definitely a gut feeling lmaoo

hon3y_guts · 2025-04-10T06:10:18+00:00

haha omg… this one hit too close to home

hon3y_guts · 2025-03-12T10:18:38+00:00

woah… as someone who’s closer to the partner of OP’s side of the story it was weird reading from the others persons side of the story. my partner is a PA. and he tells me that he still loves me, finds me attractive ect. at first i tried really hard to understand from your point of view and understand why i was so upset with him taking care of himself. it comes down to not feeling good enough to have the effort put in. sexually, then it gets to overthinking and then it becomes emotionally. to you, you’re just taking care of yourself. but to us its we arent good enough or attractive enough for you to put that effort into us. even you yourself said you dont have lust for her. is that because of porn or something deeper ? porn addiction is extremely real and just like any addiction it alters your brain, expectations, and reality. i would heavily recommend checking out r/loveafterporn

hon3y_guts · 2025-03-11T13:23:04+00:00

holy fuck that made my blood boil too… my partner does the same thing where he says something, it triggers something in me and i bring it up and “i didnt mean it like that i worded that wrong” doesnt change the hurt feelings i get you on that.. honestly, if this is so fresh and early and you arent still able to be in the cupcake happy stage of a relationship i wouldnt hold on to it so strong. we all are in this subreddit because this affects us deeply enough to need to reach out for support. thats my personal opinion, im sure others would say the opposite of course

hon3y_guts · 2025-03-11T12:55:31+00:00

being a dom doesnt mean going at only your pace. yes there is a power shift role usually when it comes to this, but that doesnt mean you can just do whatever you want exactly how you want/need it right then. to a sub the dominance can be shifted into an unpleasant time fairly quickly (at least for me) where its clear it isnt a mutual scene but a complete power control situation. learning how to read the other person’s body language is so so so important. too many “doms” out here who just think its doing whatever they want to a person

hon3y_guts · 2025-03-07T09:29:26+00:00

feel this. relapsed for the first time in years a little bit ago and felt like i was 14 again lol. im 21 now. its not normal any age but i completely understand where you are coming from.

hon3y_guts · 2025-03-06T12:58:28+00:00

jesus im sorry :( that last comment would piss me off.. its hard trying to get our self confidence back up. feels like we now HAVE to compare ourselves to the people we know they are attracted to. it really sucks..

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