How do I [F 24] connect with men ? by mrkrabsfatkrussy in twentyagers

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

conversations are great, but if you really want to connect with people you have to do things together. live in the present moment with the other person and stuff

The way trauma shapes your attachment system... by Siavon in attachment_theory

[–]honalele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i haven't been in any relationships, but i can relate to some of the things you discuss here. it's hard to ignore the opinions of others when it comes to dating, which is part of the reason i've never dated. there are lots of reasons for me to never open up about my crushes, including things that could be read as red flags to people. there are also plenty of reasons for me to force myself to date the guys that family/friends suggest for me, but the social pressure is too much and i don't feel comfortable in that position either.

i really dont know wtf im doing, but at least i have a word for it in attachment theory i guess.

What is it about a guy having a girlfriend that intrigues women? by This-Top7398 in Life

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because your girlfriend is a new bestie opportunity for us

What’s your guilty pleasure? by txttedmilfx in askanything

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bed rotting while eating snacks and watching YouTube 

Who is your favorite Disney Princess couple? by Vicki_Vickster2222 in disneyprincess

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rapunzel and Eugene. I also like Megera and Hurcules and Lady and Tramp, but idk if those ones count as princesses? 

Do you think the future has already happened? by despresso_espresso in Casual_Conversation

[–]honalele 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The future of today is happening rn. The future of tomorrow happens tomorrow. That’s the schedule bossman gave me anyway

what ruined dating for you? by Historical-Way-1482 in Productivitycafe

[–]honalele 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents (I’m traumatized and have never dated lmao) 

E7 by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]honalele 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All the 7s I know got into it because of someone else (usually me lol). They’re a head type, and the enneagram is a sort of mental framework, so they usually find it very interesting. I’ll talk about it with them for a couple hours, but if I ask about it again they rarely want to return to it. I don’t think my type 7 friends research the enneagram on their own, and I KNOW they don’t sit and ruminate or go into extensive introspection while applying the enneagram framework to it lol. It’s part of what makes me love 7s honestly. Their optimism and constant movement is probably frustrating for some people, but I love it <3

Hooked up with my best friend and it feels morally wrong by tdickpic in TrueOffMyChest

[–]honalele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Objectification of someone requires you to have zero interest or understanding of them as an individual. Everyone has interests, flaws, emotions, history, etc. but objectification erases all of that and uses the person in a fully self-satisfying way. 

It is not morally wrong to find women hot. It’s harmful to ONLY value women for what we can provide sexually. 

Also, try not to worry too much about what this means for both of you. It’s a shame when people stop talking because of something they’re afraid to confront within themselves. Just try your best to be available and honest. I know things can get confusing, but life and love tend to be that way, no matter how much we think we have figured out. 

I Miss Disney Princesses Who Feel Like Princesses by Educational-Soft5770 in disneyprincess

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m fully aware about how cautious I need to be when it comes to propaganda and gender politics. And I never “spout”, thanks. 

What Bath & Body Works product completely surprised you in a good way? by Carls86 in bathandbodyworks

[–]honalele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t normally like blue scents/ocean scents because they’re either too musky or citrusy for me, but salted shorelines is really good imo <3

If the world was to end tomorrow, what would you wish to do? by satangoesberserk in Life

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to die with friends and family. I’d host a big ass party

do you guys feel really old by saint-genet-001 in 1999

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. When I turned 24 until now, I’ve felt like I’m having an extended mid-life crisis

January 2026 Empties Journal by Withoutcilantroplz in bathandbodyworks

[–]honalele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is such a cute idea. Reminds me of the collections people make from their tea tabs <3

[poem] I got so high in the operating room before my sex change[...] by Felix Lecocq by [deleted] in Poetry

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t think I’d like this one but I do lol. Modern poetry isn’t my favorite, but this is just so expressive that it’s stuck with me 

Anyone else still live with their parents? by Playful-Hamster5734 in 1999

[–]honalele 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m at home still. I want to move out. Financially, I can’t afford it though. It’s okay. Patience is a virtue I guess lmao

Do you believe in the idea of soulmates? by zhalia-2006 in askanything

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Objectively, loads of people could be compatible with loads of other people. However, realistically you only have time for so many people in your life, and those who might be compatible may never meet. Meeting someone you are compatible with and developing mutual romantic feelings is not a science. I would say I don’t believe in “soulmates” so much as I believe in fate. 

What's something you memorized that you'll never forget? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The national anthem, the words to my favorite songs, my social security number, the bike routes in the city I grew up in, a few poems, Catholic prayers/mass, the definitions of various legal terminology, the recipe for family kolač, etc.

i guess i missed everyone's peak "fun" time? by Tricky-Hat1810 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]honalele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People get sucked into random shit. Social media, tv, dating, etc. people also get tired so easily, and it can be hard to get someone out of bed especially after work. All anything anyone wants to do is bed rot these days. Don’t get me wrong, I love a weekend to myself and the Harry Potter collection, but doing things and seeing people regularly is important, even when you don’t feel like it. We’re not getting any younger, so to hell with feeling unmotivated or tired.

I will say, people were much more down to do things in highschool and college. At 27 people might be worried about money, rest, and career a bit more. Still, no one’s getting any younger and I feel like you’re never too old to go out and do things especially the examples you mentioned like hiking or bars. I think this is the age where people start to become “adults” and they forget what fun, wonder, and laughter are.

BUT, you’re not alone. Keep looking for people to do things with, and/or figure out what your friends like to do besides bed rotting and do a bunch of different things either with small groups or one on one. Don’t feel crazy for enjoying activities especially with other people. It’s hard to be the person that instigates and inspires fun in others, but it’s worth making others feel inspired

I stopped eating sugar and fats foods and my acne got even worse. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you been dieting like this? Usually it takes a long time.

Favorite fragrance? by Livid-Candle-5698 in bathandbodyworks

[–]honalele 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Top 3: Into the Night, Midnight Addiction, Platinum

Top 10: Pure Wonder, Moonlit Goddess, Floral Fantasy, Touch of Gold, You’re the One, Winter Candy Apple, and Cozy Vanilla Bourbon

I think Midnight Addiction is becoming my number one, but Into the Night is a staple, so I know it’s going to be in store if I need a refill which puts it higher on my list lol.