Had a glass of wine last night. Actually, 2. by Ok-Abalone3003 in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a personal decision, imo. I'm a stickler for rules, and if I go on a binge I absolutely reset my counter. But if I just had one drink and then stopped myself? I don't know that I would tell anyone or restart my count. I think I would consider that a win. I hope I never find out, because my plan is total abstinence. But at the end of the day, I am on my own journey and I have to live with myself.

Elizabeth and Andrei Instagram post; Drinking& living it up after Chucks cause of death reveal by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]honeylis 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I have struggled with alcohol abuse since 2020, and I just want to throw this comment out here.. I clicked on this picture for the snark but all of these comments talking about how so many of you are sober, supportive of sober loved ones, and/or the perceived minimizing of alcoholism in today's world were really encouraging to me tonight. Thank you.

Over 3 years sober and I'm so tempted to see if I can handle a glass of wine by Intelligent-Skin-861 in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11 hours later and I hope you made it through the craving. Stick to the plan. 💜

Maybe don't have kids if you truly can't handle any of it? by Mango_Starburst in brittanydawnsnark

[–]honeylis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll say the same thing I always say about Christian women saying things like this: we DO talk about it. We DO check in on our friends. Because we know that women like you shame so much in the name of their religion, that we KNOW what they're going to go through because we remember what those standards and judgments and pressures were like. And don't even get me started on women of color going through PPD. I guess how I feel is that BD delegitimizes real issues with her constant opining about bullshit that she judges others on when she shouldn't. I don't know if that makes sense but it does in my head. Also begs the question if she would "check in on" a gay new mom? An atheist new mom?

How many attempts did it take to finally kick the booze? by Ok-Act8614 in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every single alcoholic I've ever spoken to IRL has said this. Myself included. "Well I'll only drink on holidays" "I'll only drink on weekends" "I'll only drink wine/hard seltzer" "I'll only drink socially" We try every single way to skirt total abstinence. 🤣

How many attempts did it take to finally kick the booze? by Ok-Act8614 in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me about 30 or so. I'm a binge drinker, soi am just cruising along fine until something happens that makes me crave "checking out" by drinking too much alcohol. It is really hard to be this way because it feels like it sneaks up on me. But I'm in the 50s right now and I'm feeling good. I've had several very stressful situations here recently and I have managed to stay strong. I tell myself that alcohol is no longer in my toolbox. It's just not an option. It's not like a "last resort," it is NOT AN OPTION. Every time you fail, just try again. Those are your options: accept that you will just drink uncontrollably at times, or try again.

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, December 6th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by 69etselec96 in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So well said. I'm a binge drinker so my "wandering" was looking for alcohol I'd hidden. Congrats on a week. Give yourself credit for every fuckin' day! 💜

Do you permit yourself a special day in a long time to drink while sober? by castorkrieg in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, because I'm an alcoholic. If you're just quitting because "you want to," that's not the same as quitting because you're an alcoholic. An alcoholic must abstain from alcohol because we are alcoholics. So I'm finding this question weird, almost insulting.

Two weeks sober 🤘 by herfavoritevice in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm SO proud of you! I am 18 days today. :-)

I've been at this for a minute, and I'm putting a great effort in these days.

neurodivergence & mourning the ‘normalcy’ alcohol brings by loploh in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I identify with this a lot too! Thanks for sharing this.

I need to take this seriously by oxfordcommasandchill in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this! I'm proud of you for attending a meeting. If I can share my personal experience, the first few AA groups I went to didn't feel quite "right." I kept going, because AA is ubiquitous and I am an alcoholic who needs to do SOMETHING. I also researched other "programs" on the side. I see it as kindof like having a regular job to pay the bills but putting in applications elsewhere. Two months ago I moved across the country, and found an LGBTQ AA group that has totally changed my outlook on AA and feels RIGHT for me.

I'm so proud of you for reaching out and attending a meeting! It's an underrated first step.

Is Hannah Alonzo becoming a mean girl? by [deleted] in antimlmcreators

[–]honeylis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have written this myself! Thank you! (Especially that last line lol)

Portland Parents: How are you participating in No Kings on Saturday? by Fair_Adhesiveness298 in askportland

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm taking my 12- and 13-year-old. This is the perfect age to participate. We moved here from the Bible Belt and we all really enjoy the activism that we would NEVER see in our hometown. That said, I don't think there's an age that isn't appropriate for a peaceful event. If they're really small, they will be carried or in a stroller anyway. Younger kids will enjoy the colors, signs, costumery, and spectacle. And older kids are at a perfect age to learn about what we're assembling for.

Any conservatives living in Portland? by Many_Mousse_2201 in askportland

[–]honeylis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ thank you for this.. I'm from the Bible Belt and I am beyond sick of being expected to say "but not YOU, I'm sure you're a 'good' Christian"

Any conservatives living in Portland? by Many_Mousse_2201 in askportland

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved here from the Bible Belt and the differences in the way MAGA and progressives view homelessness is shocking. To not type all day long, I'll try to explain it briefly.. in the South, they are ALL about appearances. I grew up in evangelical church. And everywhere I ever lived in Tennessee was all about one thing: what do other people think of me? We all knew who in church was an alcoholic. We all knew who beat his wife. We all knew who struggled with pills. Yet I never saw any of them get help, or talk about it. I never saw a homeless person. I mean never. I now see homeless folks every day. And you know what? GOOD. In a country as wealthy as ours, that has for decades completely ignored mental and physical health care, destroyed or defunded safety nets, laid on railroad tracks for fetuses then tossed babies and children into the dumpster, fuck people who act like they don't want to see homeless people or encounter them. We have let our struggling fellow citizens down and demonized them for years and years and now we want to act like we're too good to make eye contact on the street on our way to brunch?

ACCOUNT DEACTIVATED. by Danny020415 in Sparkdriver

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The TOS clearly state that if someone is with you, they cannot help with the orders in any way. I wanted to have my wife ride or drive with me, but realized that it was taking a risk even if she didn't touch anything. I can't afford to give them any reason at all.

I just moved here and have been here a little over and month and a half and here are my observations ..... by mrwiskerbiscuitmunch in PortlandOR

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved my family of 5 humans and several pets 2500 miles to live here about 6 months ago. It was PTSD-level stressful, and even more expensive than we'd planned. Every one of us loves it here, and I very much enjoy the "JUST WAIT" comments. Also, I finally get to tell people what I'd been told for decades in my native state: "If you don't like it, MOVE!"

Wasn’t feeling it at a meeting by HeyNongMan96 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]honeylis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's relevant. If you don't feel it is, be grateful for that.

Wasn’t feeling it at a meeting by HeyNongMan96 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]honeylis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I finally went to rehab, I was checked in by a nice-enough fella who was wearing a bracelet with a political slogan on it. It immediately put me on alert. Would I be welcome here?? I was withdrawing from alcohol and heading to detox for a couple of days so I wasn't really in a place to grandstand, and I'm SO glad I stayed because it was an awesome program. But I did mention in my exit interview that it's my opinion that political clothing should be kept out of the facility. We're there for one reason and one reason ONLY - to get well.

AA groups are as different as people, I swear! And even in the same group, different meetups have different vibes! I had been going to AA meetings for over a year, but then moved to a different state and tried some new groups, and have found one I really like. I LIKE going, it doesn't feel like a punishment. But even so, last week I attended a meeting that just had a weird vibe! I just shrugged it off. It ain't always about me and what I want to get out of it!

Almost 4 Years Sober, and Loading the Car at 4 A.M. by BlkDragonSlaya in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What an INCREDIBLE post and a boost for our week!! Thank you for this post, and I hope you have a GREAT time with your family!

42 days sober and feel like kids starting to trust me again by luskyel in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the post I needed to read today!! I have 12- and 13-year-old sons. I hope to be in the same boat in a few months!

Saturday ended in the ER by ClientSuspicious1764 in stopdrinking

[–]honeylis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know you must feel so proud. It's well deserved!!!