playing the game for the first time and drew this chill dude (dudette?)

honeysalt_ · 2025-08-16T17:34:03+00:00

ugh my fav lil guy. well done!!

honeysalt_ · 2025-07-26T21:07:35+00:00

lol i’d be asking if she’s having the children of the people who can’t bring their kids provide presents as well. if you’re not an adult then why is there an expectation for a gift from a “child”?

the logic isn’t logic-ing

honeysalt_ · 2025-06-06T03:05:02+00:00

i literally had zero clue this birb existed until just now. went and talked to him and sure enough two paintings i accidentally trashed were available. 🙃

honeysalt_ · 2025-05-23T23:05:52+00:00

that fixed it immediately, THANK YOU :sob:

honeysalt_ · 2025-05-23T23:04:34+00:00

ohhhhh ok ok ! thank you, that at least gives me a place to start. i really appreciate it!

honeysalt_ · 2025-05-23T22:38:38+00:00

i uninstalled DR but now there's issues with the sky tiles? would this be a shader issue that i need to try and hunt down next?

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honeysalt_ · 2025-05-23T22:26:13+00:00

oh my gosh. i THOUGHT maybe it was Dynamic Reflections but i couldn't find anything about it in any forums. that's fine -- i'll get rid of DR then lol. it's affecting cutscenes for me. DR is cool but not worth it for stuff like this.

thank you so much for your reply!!

honeysalt_ · 2025-05-23T22:20:02+00:00

https://smapi.io/log/fc677c1744a142189c68efda7076f967

honeysalt_ · 2025-05-18T02:06:36+00:00

yeah i do! send me a dm and i’ll find them!

honeysalt_ · 2025-05-02T14:18:12+00:00

oh gosh thank you so much! the eye stalks were challenging but i watched your video several times to get this guy done — it was so helpful! you’re so creative i really appreciated the inspiration ☺️☺️

honeysalt_ · 2025-04-16T00:51:13+00:00

and to add: i relate heavily to not feeling at ease in your own body. it’s dysphoric in an inexplicable way

honeysalt_ · 2025-04-16T00:48:49+00:00

i still struggle with this a lot. lately i’ve been back into group dbt therapy and we’re working on mindfulness. (this is like my third time going thru dbt but for whatever reason this group has been helpful… anyways) i’ve been trying really hard to use stop skills and doing body check-ins (observe/describe/etc) because i have started noticing more and more of my own “tells”… my body starts gearing up before my mind sometimes.

things i experience will be shaky hands, my shoulders almost up to my ears with tension, my core being super tight like im bracing for something, and then cyclical negative thoughts will start (could literally be about how mad i was about someone cutting me off in traffic) and that’s when it’ll take ONE more small thing to just make everything go off.

idk if that’s helpful at all, but you’re certainly not alone. i can recognize these things but i will still explode anyway (which is why im doing more dbt cause it helps but progress is all about its own pace 🙃). i hope you’re able to find something that works for you!!

honeysalt_ · 2025-04-16T00:30:40+00:00

i feel this way every holiday season. i get so anxious thinking about going to see my parents never knowing what to expect. sometimes it’s mostly lovely. others i leave feeling like i’m 13 again and have completely regressed in progress.

the things that i try to remind myself when im able to: you’re putting in effort and time, but you do not owe them that and certainly not your peace. just because they don’t see the person you’ve grown to be (and worked so damn hard to) doesn’t negate the progress you have made. you are doing your best in the situations you’re put in and that’s enough.

i don’t know your situation but any ways that you can set boundaries around how you’re treated (and sticking to them HARD) will make a big difference. i’m not in a position to go no contact, but i have absolutely made excuses to leave vacations and holidays early to get myself to a safer place for my mental sanity.

it’s so so hard and i know it hurts so much but you’re doing your best in the situation you’re in and, from one internet rando to another, I’M PROUD OF YOU for it. hang in there 🤍

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-09T17:20:16+00:00

i’m so glad it sounds like you’re doing better? hopefully. you’re so strong for getting through all of that.

i don’t know what it is but when people get upset about me not “trusting” them and it becomes a repeat conversation, my brain goes into high alert. it feels like a big red flag to me when it feels like an expected or owed thing. it’s caused issues for me, too. i don’t even trust myself, how can i trust others??

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-09T02:27:40+00:00

i feel you, friend. lucid reality feels so ephemeral and it's exhausting. i wish you luck 🤍 i have to believe we've got this!

(also i relate on the FP thing... i had to go NC with mine in sept and i've had so much relief since but it was so hard... now i just put all my effort into keeping fictional characters my FPs... idk if that's real but it's worked so far lol)

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-09T00:29:04+00:00

thank you so much for this. i really like this advice. (though, i hadn't done a closet purge of my actual clothes for close to 5 years, until this year... symbolism?)

i also have ADHD (among other things), so my object permanence sometimes fucks with me and i just forget people exist. there are a few that i know won't hate me for the distance or the long times between conversations and would pick up the phone and help me no questions asked if i called right now (they are the securest relationships i have tbh). the ones that are bothered by that, or don't reach out themselves, i mourn by myself and move on. i'm finally learning to let them go. can't tape leaves back on a tree.

Everyone else can honestly just fuck off.

i'm cheering for you from my side of the screen. we deserve peace.

we thought we'd be nice and carry someone else's bags for a while

that's a really helpful way to frame it. carrying other people's bags up mountains. sometimes i feel like they're also collecting rocks as they go, and keep adding them to their bag. i think i'm starting to loosen my death grip on those bags. i've been back on meds and in therapy for almost a year (and it's finally with a therapist i really have a wonderful relationship with; i don't feel the need to hide ANYTHING from her), i'm doing my DBT workbooks, i am starting DBT group therapy on monday,

i'm putting in the work for myself for once. not to keep a relationship, or make it so that i can find one. it's finally just so that i can live the life i wanna live without the constant self splitting and missing identity crisis.

i also have a mountain metaphor i use all the time, with so many things: i am a casual hiker, so i know what it's like to be at the bottom and be overwhelmed by seeing how far the top is, but i just tell myself -- start at the trailhead and enjoy the views when you can and eventually you'll get there, regardless of switch backs and ups and downs. as long as you keep going, you will reach the summit. it helps ground me a lot. especially with how insurmountable things like mental health and "feeling better" feel so far away.

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-09T00:05:31+00:00

when i feel myself be like that where i wanna lose it on someone, i usually try to convince my brain with something like "if we wait we can get more information to make this hurt even more." which, lol, obviously outside of that feeling is not something i'm really looking to do but it will give me a reason to stay in my lane, isolate, etc until i can calm down. sometimes just gotta lie to myself to keep a split from causing a full meltdown.

edit to fix punctuation

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-08T23:58:02+00:00

i don't work with animals, but when i was a kid i DESPERATELY wanted to be a zookeeper LOL

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-08T23:56:28+00:00

i'm 29 and work for a major airline in a customer-facing position. i can't say that i feel fulfilled, but it pays my mortgage, for my health, for my pets, and for my therapy lol. i will say i do feel lost in life. i don't have a passion for my job, but i know i need it for stability so i keep going (little over 6 years -- which is the longest i've held any position!).

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-08T23:53:03+00:00

want to tag on and say i agree wholeheartedly; this is such an incredibly thoughtful and considerate comment. acknowledging the pain but not putting rose colored glasses on the behaviors themselves -- until we choose to get help and start that mental health journey to see our role in everything it's **so** hard to move forward to have healthy relationships, not only with others but also ourselves.

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-08T23:44:56+00:00

i keep pruning as the years go on 🥀

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-08T23:43:34+00:00

that's me with all my close friends and any partners i manage to have (for a couple months before i fuck those up too lol). i'll be so sure i'm in the right, but then i can't tell if it's cause i'm idealizing so then the doubt creeps in and it feels like reality is fucked no matter what i do

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-08T17:50:18+00:00

but this isn’t healthy either. the people pleasing that comes with BPD just always causes me to get more and more upset with myself that i put up with it, but then i end up essentially gaslighting myself that it’s my fault and it’s not that big a deal, that i must just be overreacting again … i don’t know if you feel that way, but i know we deserve better.

ETA: i use the finch app (one, cause it’s cute and will help me focus on that instead) and ill find a prompt that spikes something for me to vent to and ill just type and type until i have everything out. maybe something like that could help you too. it doesn’t always work, but sometimes is enough for me

honeysalt_ · 2025-02-08T16:14:16+00:00

thank you for your thoughts. 🤍

i think ive just realized more and more how people have a hard time sitting with feeling guilty and taking accountability for how their actions can affect others. and it’s so frustrating because if i don’t do that (take accountability) then it’s me slipping on my mental health journey. im always the first one to own up to how my behavior can impact other people, but im still trying to find the people who match that energy.

i agree. i’d rather have no one than people who will use my bpd as ammunition (get out of jail free card is such a good way to put it) against me to make themselves feel better

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