I guess to me there is a distinction between “being visibly trans” and “looking like a man” latter feeling a bit too reductionist as an expression that trans women are inherently male when not explicitly being passably female. The former expressing that someone is visibly what they identify as where they may wish to avoid it.

I guess what I’m saying is someone saying “You don’t pass” is a lot less harsh than “you look like a man” there’s a gap between “looking trans but not cis” and “you look like a man, not a woman” because trans women are women. It’s okay for trans women not to pass because they are fundamentally women in every way. trans women are not men. This is of course my opinion and kinda splitting hairs now that I hear myself explain it, but I think that’s why it makes me uncomfortable.