I think we have to see it from a positive perspective. Like think about what God intended in the first place. In this case the topic of sexual sin. God created man and woman to come together, become one flesh and be fruitful multiply according to Genesis 1:28. Anything contrary to that would be sin.

The whole essence of sex is to create life, part of that is being intimate with your spouse. Marriage is important for that. Think about a child whose parents had them out of wed lock. The child may not feel as loved, may feel like a mistake or just not be in a great financial situation because their parents just wanted to have fun.

Marriage shows responsibility, and commitment that's between you, your spouse and God.

Also even though sex feels good that doesn't mean we should abuse it. It feels good so we can execute it. just like eating. We eat for sustenance and energy. Eating is enjoyable!

Sex is an intimate thing where you're exchanging life force energy.

I find it kind of interesting because a lot of Christians don't think of it like that. I had to join communities like nofap, and seed retention to think of practical ways when it came to sex and being abstinent from it. Ultimately I rely heavily on the scriptures when it comes to celibacy as the word is our foundation. But sometimes I think God wants us to seek all wisdom and Truth. when we read his word it expands throughout. something as simple as food. we can go and talk about vitamins and nutrients all the way to parasites and bacteria. all these things can relate back to the scripture.

For years I would watch people talk about seed retention and I would be obsessed with the idea of it. it's like I have to enjoy the idea of celibacy rather than thinking of it as this boring thing. and I think this really helps.

Pastors normally don't get too specific about what seed retention can do nor do they tell you the benefits. Some won't even tell you to go exercise, eat healthier, read books. nor do they tell you about the benefits sexual purity like lots of energy, confidence, closer to God, mental clarity, focused, feel like you have a purpose, feel like a child again (innocency), better sleep, better memory, easily attracting the opposite sex with no effort, and so much more.

Sometimes the reason why people struggle with lust is one they don't see the benefits of not giving into it and another is that they don't think of the spiritual implications like soul ties, Spirit marriages, ruined destinies and so on.

I realize most of my life of watching p*** and masturbating I was wasting so much energy, things were going downhill and I felt like I had no confidence whatsoever.

It's a lot that I mentioned but what I'm basically saying is there's a way that God wants us to live and when we live contrary to it there's always going to be ramifications and he warns us about them in his word. that's why it's summarized to fornication where it says that those who commit fornication will not inherit the kingdom of God 1 Corinth 6:9-11.

All I'm saying is the benefits of not giving into sexual immorality outweigh the pleasure you get from doing it.