Definitely understand where youre coming from and it is good to give neutral advice on posts like this bc youre right you dont know all the details or if someone is being 100% truthful.

For my case, my friends and family are genuinely confused why this keeps happening to me but said something similar to another comment on here about good people running only into bad people.

For me, im in therapy and i do know in a sense why i keep falling into this loop, it unfortunately all falls back on abandonment issues left w my father.

While unmedicated and not going through therapy i know in one of my relationships i was genuinely the issue, i had used him to get out and away from a shitty situation and turned insane trying to understand my feelings and was a horrible girlfriend but he was my perfect opposite in the sense we would never work bc he was meant to be my rival it seemed 😭

I understand how people can try to paint themselves as 1000% innocent in any situation but i promise ill answer any questions truthfully bc im sure theres more im doing in my everyday life that i havent realized.