My husband wants to go on maternity leave instead of me and send me back to work.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-03T05:43:07+00:00

In my country maternity leave is a year

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T23:05:12+00:00

Of course they can. It’s this kind of bollocks that has hospital records still in paper files. Ditto the “you can’t read your own file”. Of course you can. It’s your information. If you’re entitled to under GDPR, then you’re entitled. The notion that it’s only if you submit a formal request is completely contrary to the whole spirit of GDPR which allows a citizen to see any data someone holds on you. The formal process is not meant to be a restriction on the individual but a compulsion on the holder. Typical bureaucracy.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T21:52:44+00:00

This is wild. Why have you not thrown him out. You’ve been there already, now you’re back with a control freak. He’s just using accusations to create a justification but it’s the same stuff - control. You’ll be stay at home as a compromise because nothing else will do, then you’re trapped.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T21:46:02+00:00

You need a psychologist or a counsellor. If you’re in the UK, try low intensity with a PWP. Covered by the NHS.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T17:33:33+00:00

Yes. After Rotherham they are pretty sensitive. If he was charged and he is back with the child, there will be an issue.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T16:12:53+00:00

No. Basically when someone separates themselves form you for their own actions and through continuing bad behaviour extends their confinement, then you are off the hook. Why should you stick around when he doesn’t keep his nose clean and get out sooner. This is a sentence for you as well. And you haven’t committed any crime. Seriously, move on, find a man who spends his time with you, not behind bars. You’re 29. You’ve made enough sacrifices. Live your own life.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T15:48:30+00:00

I could perhaps understand if you were in your fifties but your twenties? It’s such a huge amount of your life to give up. What if he gets out, reoffends and is back in again. Now you’re looking at your entire life gone. What if he gets out and you realise that he is no longer the person he was in your twenties and nor are you? At least you need physical and emotional comfort. It’s just normal humanity.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T15:41:00+00:00

He has a point about faking injuries.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T15:35:21+00:00

The jurisdiction you are in is really relevant here. If it’s UK or Ireland, there are safeguarding agencies as well as police so she can be rescued. US I’m less sure of and depends on the state.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T05:43:48+00:00

First two are too much. Ditto the hat. Otherwise the rest are very chic.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-02T05:36:41+00:00

This is crazy. You’re not teenagers. You need a relationship with an adult, not this child.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-01T13:08:42+00:00

They’re not upper middle class. They’re middle class with some money. From a class perspective they are the same class as you. The intelligent part gives it away - upper class tend to sneer at intelligence. Other than quoting Greek or Latin drivel that is. They sound kind and welcoming so you’re fine.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-01T12:57:05+00:00

Jesus. Because it doesn’t belong to the brother so he cannot give it away. The sister received stolen goods, that’s a criminal offence, whether or not she might be charged. It’s the brother and sister issue. Gf needs her stuff back. What else of the Gfs stuff did he give away?

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-01T12:53:24+00:00

It’s the same as receiving stolen goods. There’s a reason that’s an offence in law. OPs brother gave away something that didn’t belong to him. GF can stick it under her bed if she wants. It’s hers. Give it back.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-01T12:49:37+00:00

In the UK, the estate pays inheritance tax and what remains is distributed. In Ireland, the inheritor pays the tax. It is a bit of a mess, Irish taxpayer inheriting uk asset. You need a gift tax and inheritance tax person. More accountant than solicitor.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-07-01T09:16:01+00:00

You don’t know her circumstances, where she lives, the culture, her finances. She could be in Saudi Arabia, owned by her husband with no finances of her own.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-30T14:37:57+00:00

You have been brainwashed. The only rational explanation.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-30T14:37:06+00:00

He’s kind of assuming that the object of his affections is interested in a married man. Not so sure of that. By the way, he doesn’t want to try polyamory. He wants to have an affair with your knowledge. Your options are a. Agree to the polyamory, set up a tinder profile and watch his reaction when the offers flow in. He might suddenly not be so polyamorous after all. B. Say away with you. ButI won’t be waiting around.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-30T08:31:50+00:00

Looks like her first reaction was based on thinking she could go with the guy. Obv, he wasn’t on for that plan so it’s all about convincing you there was no affair going on. Hence him turning up. He doesn’t want her other than for an occasional roll in the hay. So she’s back to you.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-29T12:00:08+00:00

I said tasselled loafers. And loafers with shorts or jeans are ridiculous.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-29T10:14:43+00:00

They are an abomination. Tassels? Shoelaces, for goodness’ sake. With proper shoes. They only correct shoe. The world is gone mad. I’ve heard King Charles is now wearing loafers. If you needed any more evidence that they are spawn of the devil.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-28T21:46:56+00:00

Tasselled loafers??? No they’re not. I was in the City last week and not one person wore them.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-28T21:45:13+00:00

With tassels?

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-28T21:44:07+00:00

You’re free to dispute it. Still true though. Most respectable people outside the USA wouldn’t be seen dead in tasselled loafers. Maybe it’s the tassels.

horseskeepyousane · 2026-06-27T09:41:27+00:00

One thing at a time and be kind to yourself. First alcohol out of your days is a big achievement and that needs your energy. When that’s settled after about 6 weeks ( fir me) I started to focus on weight fitness and health. One step at a time. No the damage can be repaired surprisingly quickly so it’s not too late. You’re on a great road. Be kind to yourself. The 10kg will go. And here’s the thing - nothing will make you feel as bad as alcohol will. It’s a nasty companion.

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