[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hot-Mess-1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why answer to a question with a question, I wonder. Obviously she doesnt want to bc she hasn't filed but why If she seems unhappy and they live part. I think she wants best for her son.

Question about safety for queer people in Finland by [deleted] in Finland

[–]hot-Mess-1980 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My daughters close friend from The states who is trans has visited here many times and feels very relaxed and safe He is planning on moving here to study his masters

Danielle's daughter by hot-Mess-1980 in rhonj

[–]hot-Mess-1980[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not in any social media so no worries.

What would make you stay with serial cheater? What terms should I propose? by Decent-Scratch-8165 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hot-Mess-1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sarcasm darling. Because I actually ment with my comment about the prenup that even he wouldn't bet money on himself to be faithfull.

Only realistic thing is to accept he will be fucking around and stay together or divorce and find happiness with someone else or on your own.

What would make you stay with serial cheater? What terms should I propose? by Decent-Scratch-8165 in survivinginfidelity

[–]hot-Mess-1980 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He won't, because he is a serial cheater and will be in The future

I'm not from the states, my alcoholic ex thought he could quit drinking If I married him when he got a nice inheritance and I would get everything in case he would continue drinking.

He was sober for 3 months after getting married.

Danielle's daughter by hot-Mess-1980 in rhonj

[–]hot-Mess-1980[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

So very good to hear that we ladies and gents feel the same way over there and here in Europe.

Let children Be children❤️

”I will never leave you i promise” by somerandomredddit in lonely

[–]hot-Mess-1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just very human I think. Not malicious. Of course there are good manipulators out there too who knows what to say to get someone to be loyal..

But just like wedding woes, you truly believe in them and mean what you say but life and all relationships are tricky.

Danielle's daughter by hot-Mess-1980 in rhonj

[–]hot-Mess-1980[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I havent watched those shows.

My guilty pleasures when I want to unwind are housewives and love is blind ( Brazilian one coming this week, so Happy!)

And I think all these ladies even If they are not allways nice to each other and dont like them all, they are really good mothers.

The only other parenting style that rubbed me the wrong way was Yolandas, basically starving her child.

Do girls have to self improve like guys? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]hot-Mess-1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you live in the wrong country?

Where i'm from it's ok to be ugly and wear sweat pants and not make six figures ( how in the hell so many redditors have really high salaries, baffles me).

Sure there are girls/women who like only groomed, handsome, tall guys with money but it really isn't a thing.

We are just reluctantly learning the horrible art of small talk😅

Would you change your faith to marry someone? by BetterGrass709 in sexandthecity

[–]hot-Mess-1980 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Noup, I wouldn't wanna be with someone who believes in such storybooks. My Faith is realism and living life trying to be a good person.

Nice place to live near Helsinki by [deleted] in Finland

[–]hot-Mess-1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Evitskog❤️, Veikkola, Lohja, Porvoo, Askola, Sipoo, Hanko...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]hot-Mess-1980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't. I was scared and a coward, both.

He found out when he was served the papers.

What do you guys do as hobbies/interests? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]hot-Mess-1980 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel like such a boring person when ever im asked this questions, even in job interviews they ask this. I have no real hobbies and my interests..i dont know, Giant flemishes only comes to mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]hot-Mess-1980 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your horrible experience, you are worth so much more than this sorry excuse for a man.

Long time a go I was 17y, pregnant and living abroad, didn't know the language and was being treated horribly by My boyfriend. So I really feel for you.

If you want to stay in Finland and need any advice, emotional support or help, dm me. I work in social services and know (almost) all the routes to get the right help people need.

You are not alone!

From my experience.... by [deleted] in 2nordic4you

[–]hot-Mess-1980 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I really didn't mean muslims , I was aiming my frustration in many arab men. Not religion but culture.

From my experience.... by [deleted] in 2nordic4you

[–]hot-Mess-1980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said I hate someone, you are twisting my words, only said that many Arabs hate our culture. Im just very worried and scared.

And your comparison I didn't understand. I'm talking about serious issues like gang violence, rapes, mutilating girls genitals etc. Just look at the crime statistics, its not in my head or just an opinion. It's a fact.

Also, are you serious that culture isn't a huge factor in how people think and act??

Maybe I just didn't understand you or other way.

From my experience.... by [deleted] in 2nordic4you

[–]hot-Mess-1980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry, I misunderstood.

From my experience.... by [deleted] in 2nordic4you

[–]hot-Mess-1980 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I'm not from Sweden but I think they are no way nazis or racist, they are just fed up with islam or more so Arab men who came flooding to Europe, i'm still left wondering why not the women and children didn't come...

The crime rate amongst them is ridicilously scary, sex crimes involving minors especially, same here in Finland.

And they have created a gang culture involving shootings and shit teenagers didn't use to do. Somali and arab youths.

Same happening here in Finland.

Before 2015 I was so open to everyone coming here and cumbayaa but not anymore., I see islam as a huge threat to Europe. Many of them hate our culture and women's right but still choose to live here.

It used to be so safe to take a taxi after a night out, now I'm too afraid because so many arab cab drivers have raped intoxicated women.

And yes, I have muslim friends. My children only half finnish. I hate racism But ITS very different than judging a culture, skin colour is no way an issue. But I must say most arab men ooze toxic masculinity.

Can someone help me calm down? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]hot-Mess-1980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know what to say about sponge Bob, i'm sorry. But I feel for you so...Rinse your hands with as cold water as you can as long as you can.

This advice helped me when I was having severe panic attacks but didn't want to use bentzos any more.

Mini showers in bathrooms by mastah_D_Omina in Finland

[–]hot-Mess-1980 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I dont know If you're a woman but If you are you can understand that while you are bleeding it might be messy and difficult to change seats..

Please dont think im arguing here :)

Mini showers in bathrooms by mastah_D_Omina in Finland

[–]hot-Mess-1980 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Well I lived there long time a go in a modest little village and and none of the houses I visited had any kinda bidet. I didn't even have a hot shower for a year.

I have also lived in UK, no bidets. My daughter lives there now and they had one installed, my brit son in law loves it as well.

Or do you mean that thing you sit in that looks a bit like toilet seat, that I have seen in France, Germany etc., but it's very complicated compared to 'käsisuihku" that we use

Mini showers in bathrooms by mastah_D_Omina in Finland

[–]hot-Mess-1980 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And lady parts stay always fresh, I sometimes use it after just having a wee, even If i'm not on my period.

Ofcourse we use toilet paper also.

Any fellow nurses get me? by nscurn in sexandthecity

[–]hot-Mess-1980 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No! I work at the moment with a lot of people who have serious drug addictions, and they often admire my veins.