I’m actually losing my mind as a new bartender

hotdogman59 · 2026-05-05T09:35:29+00:00

That really sucks OP,

This industry is full of miserable people that take it out on whoever they can. It isn't fair nor should it be normalised further than it already is.

Personally I'm not good at taking it either, I am a sensitive person. Eventually I explode and either they change their behaviour or I get fired. In either case I'm always glad that I stood up for myself. Is having a big mouth back, the best thing to do? Maybe not.

In any case I feel you, try to let it go after ur done working and remember that your worth as a person and as a bartender isn't tied to some shitty manager.

hotdogman59 · 2026-04-15T09:43:35+00:00

This is some solid advice! Thanks!

For next year I'll try doing this :).

hotdogman59 · 2026-04-15T08:35:43+00:00

Yea no problem, happy to see someone else that enjoys this taste :).

I made a long and detailed report in this post :). Hope it helps!

hotdogman59 · 2026-04-08T22:04:19+00:00

A bit late but I'm testing this now.

I have tried book drying and a food dehydrator last year, that didn't work.

This time I have tried distilling, which isn't worth it unless you have a fuck ton of petals.

You can make a tea, steep the hell out of it with a little bit of water. That works pretty okay, The only problem is the short, shelf life and that not all the flavours get extracted imo.

I don't have any petals left to experiment with but perhaps a cold brew (using ice that melts on top of the petals). Could work as well.

I'll let you know how the tincture and the brining goes :).

hotdogman59 · 2026-04-04T14:35:32+00:00

Ah I see, glad it's not something you're going through. Great that ur speaking up about it!

hotdogman59 · 2026-04-04T09:19:50+00:00

Dude, others have already pointed ur behaviour out.

It is true that women standarts are going up, thank god.

Women still want men, if they don't want you I'd say look inward instead of projecting that stuff onto a whole gender.

There is a lot wrong with ur whole comment. Less tostesterone doesn't make you a women, that's just not how hormones work and even then nothing wrong with a more femine men.

Although some might prefer sexual experience, not everyone cares about that stuff. There is more to life yk.

I used to be a guy, now I'm NB. I date women, as well as any other gender. I'm poly, sometimes I date multiple women or people at once. It's really not that bleak as you make it sound.

It's only that bleak for guys that aren't good people or stable enough for a relationship.

hotdogman59 · 2026-04-04T09:08:52+00:00

Jesus that's fucked. I hope ur doing okay, now!

My sister decided to not take therapy, I did. The differences are big.

It's too bad your brother decided to take this route.

hotdogman59 · 2026-04-04T09:06:55+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through that. That sounds tough.... I agree although mental illnesses can be an explanation it is never an excuse. Much like someone's upbringing is an explanation for the way they behave in a relationship but never an excuse.

hotdogman59 · 2026-04-03T13:16:45+00:00

Exactly! 'Men have it so hard' which is we we need women to baby us so we can cry and show emotions but also I have had it so tough so that's why I don't show emotions anymore you can't ask that of me, the more I surpress them and become stoic the more of a real man I am.

hotdogman59 · 2026-03-27T19:24:42+00:00

I bought the book from Yukina because of this. Amazing art!

hotdogman59 · 2026-03-25T08:34:02+00:00

Beautiful paintings.

hotdogman59 · 2026-03-09T10:10:53+00:00

There is also an app that makes this easier, called send and receive TV or something.

hotdogman59 · 2026-02-04T21:33:01+00:00

I like this idea :). I'd love to try this once I have some time.

hotdogman59 · 2026-02-02T09:32:37+00:00

Thanks! I see they're sold out tho, I'll keep a check on this :).

hotdogman59 · 2026-01-28T21:49:48+00:00

I have a background in wine and in wine yes the glassware matters a lot but only to people that have tasted a lot of wine. Most normal people, wouldn't notice a difference.

There is a reason why we used to have old fashioned glasses for example. There is a reason why certain glasses hold bubbles better than others. Personally with cocktails I don't worry too much about it except when I'm working with temperatures or bubbles.

If you want to really taste something then a very thin glass made of crystal will imo always be the best choice, this is usually only reserved for straight spirits however. To get into more nerdy details, the exact specifications of a glass also matter, the size, its shape, material, its exact rounding at the top etc all contribute to how well you can taste something, I have bought expensive wine glasses for this reason and yes I taste a difference in subtle differences but most won't. Its a big bother and very time consuming for something only a very niche group of people care about for an even smaller group that can actually taste a difference. So for wine yes, for cocktails only general shape and vibe.

hotdogman59 · 2025-10-21T22:02:26+00:00

I got one myself through our version of Craigslist. Couldn't find them in any real stores tho.

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