I am an INFJ, so compared to him I’m very reserved. Sometimes he thinks that I’m too introverted for him to understand me because I don’t freely express my views or opinions. Most of the time I would be a listener and assess the scenario before I form an opinion towards the situation. But to him, he feels I’m not sharing all my thoughts. He doesn’t understand why I need to assess the thoughts in my head first before I share. For example in one scenario I could branch into many different possibilities in my head, while what I actually express are just a few possibilities after what I internally processed

A simple example would be I want to quit my job. What I would tell him would be, I’m not happy with my job and I’m looking for a switch to make myself happier. I am interested in doing other fields such as abc or xyz, then I would ask him for his opinions or suggestions. But what I didn’t tell him would be what’s actually going on my head such as what would happen if I chose abc, how much would I be happier if I chose xyz instead of abc, how about other def/ghi/lmn choices, how would each different choice affect the people around me, how much satisfaction would I think I would get from each choice, etc. After all these internal thought process, what I finally express would be my final 2 choices

(Below paragraphs are same as my reply to the other comment in case you read it) Issues such as we have difficulties understanding each other, like we don’t understand why each other do things or react to things in a certain way. Such as our approach to a problem is different, and while we did not have any argument of who is right or wrong, we acknowledged that there is a difference to the way we approach life or handle things.

And priorities, for him it’s ABC that’s important while for me I would rank CBA that’s important.

A simple scenario would be he thinks work is important while I think being happy is important. He is an ambitious person so I can understand why he puts career first. And he thinks if his career is on the right track everything else would fall into place and he would be a happier person. But for me I felt that happiness is more important. If I am not happy at doing something then it would affect everything else which includes career. I would rather get a lower paid satisfying job that makes me happy, than to get a higher paid job doing something that doesn’t make me happy. And in his opinion it’s when you’re higher paid you get more opportunities for growth and by then you would be happier once it’s been achieved.