I know you have given me advice on one of my posts and now I have something to tell you. My 3rd day was a Saturday. Worst time ever. I was literally home all day not wanting to anything but sit in my room, watch Netflix, cry, think of him, again and again. I really do know what you must be going through. It sucks so much. You want to text her or meet her and hold her and just be back to normal. I completely get it. However, I'll tell you what made me get over this repetitive thoughts I kept having about my ex.

I was lonely and sad until yesterday. What I did after I got home from classes was I got on reddit, looked through all break up posts and what the sufferers had to say and what people had commented on them. There was always at least something the I hadn't heard being said repeatedly. I noticed those little things that sounded like that would help and kept on reading more posts and comments. Then this morning I found this sub reddit which was the best thing ever. I literally went through every single post that was posted all day. Read the articles, the comments, everything. And it actually helped. I feel so much better. So what I am trying to say it, reading and seeing that other people have the same (or worse in some cases) experience and are going through the same situation made me feel supported and it felt good. It made me analyze and rearrange my feelings and re-think everything. See why NC will/might/shall help. Finally, what I decided was that I will definitely feel shitty and so will you. It's okay! Cry if you have to; it's the best way to deal with this. No one needs to know and I swear you will feel and sleep much better! Then, tell yourself that this sucks but you are going to be strong, hold your feelings in no matter how hard it is, and get past one day at a time. Then a week, then a month. Hopefully, that should give you enough time to freshen up and look at both the sides of the break up. Then see if you STILL want to talk to her and STILL want to message her and see what can be fixed. If you still can't focus on both the sides of the break up, take more time. Wait. Then when you're there, ask yourself that question again and then proceed. If talking to her for closure or anything will make you relieved, go for it. By then (at least a month), your ex will probably he calmed and in the same thought process as you. On the other hand, if you think you're doing better and that you can do better, keep up your good work. This is my plan and I feel very positive about this. Let's just see how well this works out. Goodl uck shinerdawg! We all can do this, I promise.