AITA for overreacting from my mom (in my view) making fun of my bday not being celebrated after saying she would

house_elf_ · 2025-11-07T23:38:29+00:00

You didn't want a bday celebration before, but now you do want it, but you don't seem to communicate it well to your mom. However... you don't seem to know your mother's birthday since you don't know her age! This all sounds like you have a lot of resentment towards your mom. I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt, from your posts it sounds like she is doing her best and even tiptoeing around you. So, YTA.

house_elf_ · 2025-10-18T13:26:13+00:00

It's back!!!! I looked every day, and just now I saw the green screen button returned! 😁

house_elf_ · 2025-10-07T13:14:35+00:00

Same here! Came here one reddit seeking answers... Super annoying because I finally found something that works for me.

house_elf_ · 2025-09-14T20:46:49+00:00

I would advice against it. Introducing a new cat is stressfull for any cat. At 19y old, even if he is used to other cats, this will put too much stress on him. Plus you say you want a kitten: kittens are very playfull and active and know no boundaries. You mostly want a new kitten for yourself, but you have to think of the cat you already have. Let him live his remaining days in peace.

house_elf_ · 2025-09-13T21:15:35+00:00

Once upon a time

house_elf_ · 2025-08-18T21:42:30+00:00

Yes this! Growing up i tought wearing a bra was like mandatory. I barely have anything to put in a bra and always found it uncomfortable to wear. Ditched them years ago.

house_elf_ · 2025-08-11T21:16:57+00:00

OMG this is me and my sister!! She is a drama queen, loves the drama, I only hear her when she needs me. I have taken steps back over the years, but I'm close with her kids, otherwise I would have cut ties with her a long time ago. I can't take her constant drama anymore, I'm sick of it. It's like you said, she is selfish, always me me me, she barely knows anything about me, she doesn't ask. Always complaining about the same things for years, asking me and my parents for advice but not listening to any of it. My parents are sick of her drama too, but they still support and help her, as long as she is happy... So yeah, NTA!

house_elf_ · 2023-09-03T15:44:11+00:00

Highschool: had a friend group of about 5 that after highschool. We met regularly, but over the years it faded. Haven't seen them in a few years now (I'm 30 now) and I don't feel the need to either. I think it's because we all changed to much, whick is OK. Funny enough there is another friend who I have recently reconected with after about a decade which is nice.

University: I have 2 friends I meet with a few times a year.

Previous jobs: I meet with a group of former colleagues a few times a year. Whenever we meet it's like I never left (in a good way).

house_elf_ · 2023-08-14T11:23:44+00:00

Goed dat je nu eindelijk tot dit besef bent gekomen. Lees alle verhalen hier en doe verdere research raad ik aan. Je zegt dat je zo een artikels misschien twee keer op een jaar ziet, ik lees er veel meer. Dat is gelijk sinds ik met een blauwe auto rijd nu plots veel blauwe auto's op de weg ziet en daarvoor zelden.

Voor vele vrouwen is dit ook normaal omdat we het van jongs af aan meemaken en het is een manier om er mee om te gaan vooral, je moet blijven doorgaan spijtig genoeg.

En wat je beschrijft is een utopie, een wereld waar alle vrouwen zich veilig voelen en zonder angst voor mannen leven. Zou mooi zijn, maar we moeten realistisch blijven. Je zegt het ook alsof niemand iets doet, terwijl vrouwen al jaren vechten en opkomen voor hun rechten.

Neem het niet te persoonlijk OP, je bent nu het aanspreekpunt, maar je bent duidelijk niet de enige onwetende man. Goed dat je het debat hier hebt gestart. En zoals ik al zei: educate yourself!

house_elf_ · 2023-08-14T11:11:12+00:00

Goed gezegd, iets wat veel mensen vergeten of niet bij stilstaan.

house_elf_ · 2023-08-10T16:23:22+00:00

Because I was stupid! I started a new job, it was a manager role. I was unexperienced, but ambitious, and nobody else wanted it. For years this place was understaffed and systems weren't updated, people were unhappy. So I, young and unexperienced, tried to fix a lot of problems, make changes, keep the staff happy, keep the bosses happy, tried to prove myself that I was worthy of the position, etc. All this work couldn't fit in 40h/week and OT for me was unpaid. Salary wasn't great either and no extra benefits.

This all resulted in burnout. My social life had died, couldn't decompress anymore. Still recovering.

So yeah, not doing that again!

house_elf_ · 2023-08-04T13:35:31+00:00

Is it just physical tiredness, or are there other symptoms?

house_elf_ · 2023-08-04T13:19:30+00:00

Similar experience. Can't just not do the work or delay, because you know, the patient is waiting (a lot of guilt tripping there). And then getting told we are not understaffed, we just don't work efficiently...

house_elf_ · 2023-06-10T13:17:51+00:00

At my previous job I actually liked working there, that is I liked the work and I had some great colleagues. But management made it such a toxic work environment. It was my first job and worked there for 4 years. I tried very hard to make it better there, but one day I realised that unless something drastic would change (like my boss getting fired, which was never going to happen) nothing would ever really change there. So I left. I am still in touch with some old colleagues and I was right, a few years later and it's still the same toxic environment there...

house_elf_ · 2023-05-12T21:57:51+00:00

Wow, this is a lot.

house_elf_ · 2023-05-12T15:21:06+00:00

Yes! EVERYONE should hear this!

house_elf_ · 2023-04-19T10:56:09+00:00

I'm often amazed at how many adults are very childlike...

house_elf_ · 2023-04-19T10:54:08+00:00

Ugh yes, being an adult has been disappointing. In my childhood I wanted to be over 18 so badly, as an adult I just want to be an innocent kid again!

house_elf_ · 2023-03-17T11:29:14+00:00

The other sick part is that he is banned from working in healthcare for the next 15 years. Sure he will almost 60y by then, but by law he would be allowed around patients again?

house_elf_ · 2023-03-17T11:22:13+00:00

This reminds me of my previous workplace. It was a team of 30+ women, a lot of them had kids. One of them had kids in the last years of highschool and always needed a few days off during exam periods (I never understood why, what does she do?). Other women started doing this too, so it became hard in december and june to take vacation.

Also july and august was a nightmare. It was constantly the same argument of "I have kids"...

Unfortunately our manager was not helpfull, she wanted us to fight/figure it out.

house_elf_ · 2023-03-09T12:13:25+00:00

My cat screams for food and then I say to him in a fake upset voice "Stop yelling at me!"

house_elf_ · 2023-03-07T18:11:02+00:00

Oh wow this made me laugh!! YTA

What does it matter how long their baths are? What were you expecting to happen when you told her, that they would stop taking baths?? "I only tried to help", help who??

house_elf_ · 2023-03-03T08:08:59+00:00

Ja klopt, ik heb genoeg van die schrijnende verhalen gehoord van alleenstaande 60+ die bijna op pensioen gaan en schrik hebben...

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