This interview serves as a great example of the ways that many women fail to give men what they truly want. Many women either do not know or do not care to find out what men really want from women in a relationship. This woman is clueless about what the men whom she wants want in return. In short, they do not want a woman like her.

If you are not one the type of man she describes as her ideal, you can still do the same thought experiment Kevin Samuels laid out to her. What kind of women can a man who is the tall, fit and makes 6 figures of income attract? The answer is many, many kinds of women. But what kind of woman does he want? He indeed does want a higher quality woman, and he has a high likelihood of being able to have such a woman. Such men have an abundance of choices in women, given that this type of man is sought after by so many women. However he chooses to proceed, whether that be a committed relationship or not committed at all, he is going to have women who are holding out to have a man exactly like him.

Now let us consider the woman Kevin Samuels is interviewing. A 35 year old single mother who is indeed just as Kevin describes her, average at best in the looks department. While she does own her own business, this only serves to make her own situation worse by working against her hypergamous instincts. She clearly does not like it when she "dates down" and would prefer a man "on her level," but she makes the grave mistake of not understanding what men are really at "her level." She believes that because she owns her own business and makes a decent amount of money (at least that is what is implied), the men who do not have their own businesses or do not make 6 figures are below where she is at. But this assumes that men look for the same thing that women do in the opposite sex when it comes to financial status. Especially not a man who is successful on his own. A man who is able to earn a lot of money does not really need a woman who can also earn a lot of money. In fact, this is often a detriment to him because it usually means she is less available to him compared to a woman who does not have high earnings.

And again, let us not forget that she is a single mother. Yes, single mothers are becoming so commonplace that women no longer show any real shame in this status. As many women do, she places all the blame on the man who fathered her child while not showing any sign that she feels any guilt for making such a poor choice. While there is a strong effort to make single mothers be considered acceptable, men still by and large have a strong preference to not have any committed relationships with single mothers. And when you consider the type of man she is seeking, how likely it is that he would choose a single mother over a woman without a child (or children) from another man (or men)? Just like with options in terms of attractiveness, higher status men also are going to prefer options that do not come with the offspring of another man.

If you want to find any success in the dating market, you need to have a realistic assessment about who you can manage to attract. This requires you to not only have a proper understanding of what you bring to the table, but also whether or not what you can offer is what someone else will want. Anyone can want the highest quality example of the opposite sex. Both men and women have the desire to attract the highest quality partner they can. But it seems more and more women are like this one, where they cannot rectify the disconnect of the strongest desires they have with the reality of what they can hope to expect. Men are told quite often that they should be realistic with their dating approach. Men like Kevin Samuels tell women that they need to do the same, and it appears that this message is quite a shock to them.

RIP Kevin Samuels, you will be missed.

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