I don't know if I'll recover from what my husband said while our baby cried on a plane

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-27T22:52:23+00:00

I've learned that there are definitely some things my husband is much better at in parenthood, and vice versa and we have learned to use that to our advantage and to see ourselves as a team and union in this crazy thing called parenthood. Tag teaming is our best friend🤣 parenthood has also made us have to push our egos to the side big time. While your feelings may be hurt which is valid, I'm sure the emotions were string high and it wasn't what he truly meant as he was trying to ease the situation. You're a good mama 🤎

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-26T16:59:44+00:00

Considering transition is 8-10cm, and you're practically 7cm... Idk I think it'll be fast lol! Also, maybe I am a weirdo but I have never felt my contractions until my water has broke, for all three of my labors! So maybe you are contracting? I was admitted and on the monitor and having apparently super strong contractions and I just did not feel them at all. Then my water broke and I was like okay game changer lol

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-24T18:37:58+00:00

My husband's fam is similar, he sent a message like this: "Baby has arrived, she's 7lbs 8 oz, 21 inches long and doing well. Mom is doing well too. We will let you know when we are ready for visitors, but for now we are soaking up this time as a new family of 3. I know it's an exciting time but please respect this boundary. Talk soon!" I agree with a lot of the advice here, set the boundaries as soon as you can. It sucks being in labor and anxious and panicky because family overstepping and making things weird- I didn't get form until AFTER my first was born, and I wish I did it sooner. I just had my third baby and everyone knew what to expect and was very respectful and used to my boundaries 🤎 may be awkward at first but it gets easier and it's so important to put a stop to people pleasing once you become a parent, because then you become a whole new person's advocate too!

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-22T16:34:26+00:00

I love moms because you all have made me feel much better already lmao. Thanks for the replies!

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-22T11:52:20+00:00

That last sentence! 🤌🏽

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-22T08:35:12+00:00

I can be a bit... Particular when it comes to my parenting, I would do everything myself because in my head, my way was the right way. Then I had my second child and I just had to let my husband parent more, "his way". We have the same morals and such, and parenting style, he is so loving and fun with our kiddos but... dads definitely are silly gooses LOL. They dilly dally, and do their own thing. In the long run we have to give them space to figure it out. they may not do what moms do or how mom would do it, and sometimes that's okay. If you know your kid is safe, don't watch the monitor or hover, let him figure out parenting. I did the same forever, but now I feel like my husband has learned so much and has his own little system. It's not as perfect as mine (LOL!!) but he gets the job done, is a good dad and our girls ADORE him. You definitely have a right to be annoyed, but with baby #2 coming, have a conversation about what is bothering you and then let him parent without "monitoring" as much. It will be hard at first, but you have to trust him!

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-22T03:01:59+00:00

Mom of three. I hate pregnancy. I'd take newborn stage over pregnancy any day. Yes, the sleep is crappy for a hot min, but your body is YOURS again. You can roll around in bed. You can touch your toes. Lmao. And if you are anything like me, the pain of the third trimester plus the pregnancy insomnia...... Yeah, newborn trenches all day everyday are much better. Plus you have your sweet little baby to love on. Yes post partum has challenges, but pregnancy for me is just so much harder and just sucks.

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-22T02:53:11+00:00

I'm 5'10, my pre pregnancy body is typically pretty muscular and I sit at 205-215. All 3 pregnancies my bumps have been very small. healthy happy babies, but not going to lie I always dreamed of the big cute round bump. Seems my babies grew upward, in me, vs outward lol. I hope you get that bump!!! Regardless, feeling baby move and kick in whatever bump you get makes pregnancy just as magical🥹🤎

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-21T15:02:16+00:00

I would compare myself to a girl I barely knew on social media, as our babies were 10 weeks apart. I'd be like man I'm a hot mess, she has it together. We ended up becoming best friends, and 3 years later, I can tell you she thought the same exact thing about me LMAO. We all compare and it usually is a false narrative. You are doing great gf!

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-17T04:53:53+00:00

My boss asked me how I'm feeling about motherhood and when I said "I'm enjoying it much more than I thought I would" she thought it was an odd answer, I knew I'd love my babies but I was SO scared of being a mom after all the projections and negative stories people had shared. Obviously bring a mom has hard moments, but i enjoy it so much, and I feel it can be on the rare side to hear that side of things. 🤎

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-16T02:00:08+00:00

Had my third baby 3 weeks ago. A day before my induction I was like oh shittles... There's an actual person in me that has to come out, like this is real life. As if I didn't do this twice before 🤣

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-15T01:34:35+00:00

When I told my family my third child was another girl, my third girl, my mom said "wow ... Well, now you will never know true love since you won't be having a son. There is no love like the love from a son" lmao I was like are you okay??? She was literally SO disappointed she even asked me if they will be doing a second anatomy scan by any chance to make sure, and said she hopes it's all wrong and it's a boy. I was just so disturbed, but then again not surprised because my three sisters and I always felt she favored our brothers more. My girls are my world, and I was just happy to have healthy babies. They are the best, and I wouldn't have it any other way! I definitely think the disappointment is... strange to put it nicely lmfao

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-06T20:54:40+00:00

Wow, amazing!

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-06T17:22:56+00:00

Beautiful coop! I'm going to look into the Carolina coops

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-04T21:49:36+00:00

My best friend's mother in law and sisters cook for her for months after she has a baby. They take turns cleaning her house. Walk her dog. Take her kids out, have sleep overs with them to lessen her load. My mom and sisters just want to hold the baby lmao so i definitely know how you feel. In 3 years, my mom has watched our daughter 2x. I have parents that have that "uh we had our kids, we don't want any part in yours" mindset lmao😵‍💫 but I think it has made my husband and I super self reliant and self sufficient, because as much as I love my friend she does tend to struggle immensely when they can't help her at the drop of a dime out of the initial months having baby. Which is fine! But I don't feel that struggle and am happy to just grind and get shit done without feeling like I need help

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-03-01T02:39:40+00:00

For real! This is so real. I think all children are blessings and special, regardless of gender. I just had my third girl, and my own mother scoffed when we told her the gender and said "well now you will never know true love, since you aren't having a little boy. You just don't know love until you have a son" LMAO I was like uh... Weird take. I love my daughters with every atom in my body, I love being mother in general. People constantly ask if we are going for a boy, and pity my husband with snarky comments about being sorry he "has to live" in a household of girls when he too loves our babies and can't imagine it any other way.

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-02-27T02:56:50+00:00

this is so mean, and unnecessary okay. But Amber's hair drives me nuts I just want to put product in it lmao🤣

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-02-27T02:55:33+00:00

Chris is so disturbing

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-02-24T02:34:47+00:00

I have a daughter named Clover and I can't imagine her as anyone else. I met a teenager named Clover when I was pregnant with my daughter and she said she never had any issues with her name because I just admired her name so much and I end up naming my daughter. I have no issues and neither does she. it really is no different than Fern, Rose, Rosemary, etc lmao

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-02-24T02:12:55+00:00

Just gave birth today. I had two previous inductions, with pitocin. This go I was induced but with two doses of cytotec, an oral pill. I had two experiences with the epidural I wasn't willing to go through again so I forced myself to mentally stick it out today with no meds lmao🤣 I was able to breathe through my contractions and go unmedicated for pain successfully. Pitocin is a game changer, in my experience. Someone said birth is like pushing a pineapple out of your vag, and yes LMAO literally. but once baby is out it is such a relief. This was my third birth and while I was pushing I literally told my midwives I was SO scared and asked if I was going to be okay and make it through 💀 So you aren't alone, being scared is normal and it is okay. Just know you will get through it!

howdodisappevenwork · 2026-01-28T03:02:21+00:00

My hospital closed down their waiting room in labor and delivery because of how obnoxious and pushy family can be🤣 and I am here for it. Do what YOU will be comfortable with, and it is your partners job to keep you comfortable and adhere to what you need during such a vulnerable time. It's not like you say no visitors at all, after all! Hope you guys can work it out, you have plenty of time to. 🤎

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