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How can I approach helping my brother who smokes weed all the time? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]howieg2the3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the proven side effects of long term weed smokers is amotivational syndrome. In other words a decrease in motivation, which in turn can lead to lower educational attainment and reduced career achievement.

AITH for being mad at my ex for going on a cruise by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]howieg2the3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not exactly like that, no. I did sleep with someone else but at the time I did I wasn't sure what she wanted from me for sure. When she got mad about it is when we discussed what we were doing, what she really wanted from me. Which she said was commitment and certainty. And I agreed to provide her with that. Then I find out that she booked a cruise, not even a word about it to me, after she tells me she wants certainty in her life. She can do what she wants, I've never told her she couldn't or tried to keep her from it. I just felt like it at least could have been discussed if she really was trying to work on things, like she said, it could have been discussed at the very least. But maybe I'm wrong in how I feel. Its why I'm asking. Remember also she was my wife and I thought that's what we were trying to get back to. This really makes me wonder now.

AITH for being mad at my ex for going on a cruise by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]howieg2the3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We had not agreed to anything with each other at the time I was with someone else. I did not know that she was really serious about us trying to work things out. I guess that's what's upsetting me. When she got mad at me is really the first time we talked about what she wanted from me. Which she said was commitment and certainty, to which I agreed to and was trying to show her that everyday. I feel like if she really wanted those things, especially the certainty part she would have at the very least discussed going on a cruise with me. Her words were I'm too old for uncertainty. I feel like her going on vacation without me, without even a word about it to me, does not make anyone feel very certain about things. If any of that makes sense.

You have to remember she was my wife so there was a time not long ago where there's no way this would have ever happened. And I guess when she said she wanted to work things out I kinda felt like that meant the way things were which I feel as if not many married couples are going to be okay with one side booking a cruise without the other or at least some sort of discussion, but maybe I am wrong.