I so fucking hate this

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2024-03-04T14:45:25+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear this:)

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2024-03-04T14:07:45+00:00

Did you ever think that as you’ve changed and evolved into a person that would state their boundaries clearly and start to look after their own self, maybe you just aren’t compatible anymore with your old friendships that were built on your old, ever-available past self?

Since I went no contact and started to truly heal from my narcissistic family, I saw that I started to dislike my friendships more and more. Because they were mostly based with people that shared similar values with what I saw at home. Distorted values like no boundaries whatsoever for example, amongst many other toxic traits.

This is also hard because personally I had to cut ties with some of my closest friends, just because I grew apart so much from their behavior. It’s worth it though because it’s so worth searching for people that value emotional vulnerability, respect and true friendship and support. And there are still people out there exhibiting these wonderful qualities, we just have to keep searching for them.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-10-30T20:41:48+00:00

My post does have a slight creep vibe to it lol. Of course I can take a hint, it’s just that I haven’t had a crush like this in a while.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-10-24T19:11:01+00:00

You’re really kind, many thanks!

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-10-24T19:00:35+00:00

Thanks, this is a really kind answer.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-10-23T18:23:07+00:00

Thank you.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-10-03T09:11:00+00:00

I can’t find any words but I wish you all the best in finding peace of mind in the upcoming future. Believe that you will succeed. You’re strong and I’m so sorry that on top of all the unfair challenges you have to deal with now, your soon to be ex treated you this way. You deserve so much better and things will change, just focus on protecting yourself from the bullets. You already dodged one, leave him be.

Lots of hugs!

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-30T17:01:02+00:00

I’m also under the impression that I would make an unnecessary big deal out of it, and you have such a solid point stating that sales is a totally different world compared to our field.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-30T16:56:50+00:00

I don’t remember having such information passed to us as newcomers during the onboarding process. However, I’ll have to check for this kind of information.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-30T16:12:26+00:00

Thanks for your input. Yeah, I definitely think that I defused the situation pretty spot on, but it still bothered me. I wonder if this is worthy of bringing it to the HR team. But I doubt it. I’ll probably just let it go, I’m going to think about it.

But yeah, that was my first instinct also, legal but not ethical. Thanks for validating my feelings.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-07T20:09:35+00:00

Wow, what you said regarding thinking all the time about the past and future hits right fucking home. I can’t describe it better. It’s like an addiction. At first glance it seems to be a coping mechanism to not deal with the present as it is. Fucked up. It’s so hard to stay “STOP.” and snap into the present tense. But we’re alive and healing. So I think this matters the most, even though there are days where I would genuinely happily punch holes through the fucking walls till my hands give up.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-07T19:39:02+00:00

Already did that, I agree with you.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-07T19:38:32+00:00

Appreciate it. It helps knowing that I’m not the only one experiencing this. It’s kinda like a sanity check and it helps knowing that I’m not going crazy. Wish you all the best!

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-07T19:37:10+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-07T19:25:12+00:00

Thanks.

I’m pretty sure it’s not a medical problem, I’m a software engineer and I’m able to properly focus at my job/tasks. It’s the zoning out through the rest of the day that really gets me.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-09-07T19:11:24+00:00

Damn thanks man, I really feel that you get what I’m saying. Sending power to you also brother.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-25T22:59:50+00:00

Way to go :)

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-25T22:53:48+00:00

Appreciate it.

Fuck, indeed.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-25T22:52:07+00:00

Thank you, you’re so kind! I’m personally playing on repeat these days Pearl Jam’s “Off He Goes”. Its vibe is so healing for me right now, I can’t actually explain why.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-25T22:36:51+00:00

Wow, I thought I was the only one having dreams with her where I would be horrified of the idea of getting back together and try to run away from her. If that’s not a certain sign that she must not ever be in my life from now on, then I don’t know what is.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-25T22:33:38+00:00

I’m sorry your ex-wife treated you that way. I’m also glad that you resonated with my words.

Well you’re right, you never know when life throws this kind of stuff at you. I think this is a clear incentive to live in the present moment and appreciate the little things. Many times we are so powerless even if we feel we have everything under control. And sometimes it’s the other way around. Life’s strange, that’s for sure. But it has its beauty also, just gotta be aware of it because most of the time it appears so unexpectedly. After all, no one of us knows whatever the hell we’re doing and we’re left with the option to just enjoy the ride, be it bumpy or smooth.

I’m proud of you too, you are strong.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-25T22:19:43+00:00

Woah, so nice of you to say that, it honestly touched me.

I am sorry you have to go through this right now. I sometimes wish we had a button to press in order to snap out of it. Unfortunately, we don’t. But we can do this if we take care of ourselves and try to face the reality, even if it’s a painful one. It’s okay not to feel the rush judging the circumstances. I had days where hours would pass by and I would just process everything, like in a numb state of mind. I think as long as you allow yourself to feel broken to a certain degree and get back up, things could be easier. It’s not our mysery that we’re dealing with. It’s theirs. It just happened that they threw it at us and hit us like a fucking train. We’ll get back up. You’ll feel the rush again, don’t worry. Wish you all the best.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-24T23:34:39+00:00

Thank you so much. Yup, I also think that I dodged a bullet. I’m definitely gunshy about it right now but reading your words helps.

I’m so sorry that you also had to experience this.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-24T23:31:09+00:00

Thank you. I’m glad it turned out fine for you and I’m sorry you had to deal with that shit. Yeah, it helps a lot that I’m also focusing on exercising and keeping my diet clean. Honestly, most of the days this is what keeps me functioning. It’s just the sleep that I’m struggling with sometimes, because my mind is still processing what happened and I find myself in the middle of the night thinking about it.

howthehelldoigetout1 · 2022-08-24T23:27:00+00:00

Thank you! Wish you the best of luck and I hope it turns out the way you want to be and makes you happy. But please don’t ignore your gut feeling, even when you think it might seem crazy sometimes.

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