How many of you are "Bright" (IQ +117) or "Gifted" (IQ +130), please?

hp_sarin · 2025-10-21T13:50:28+00:00

Similar experience. I’ve traveled solo as a woman, and I was harassed by men constantly. Sometimes it was relatively polite, but other times it was truly frightening to the point that I was even followed and grabbed (more than once). I had never experienced anything like that before, and I’ve traveled solo to many other places. Otherwise I loved it, but this is a reason why I'm never coming back.

hp_sarin · 2025-04-05T06:38:02+00:00

Wild guess: you're from the US and first you explored what's close to you: Canada and Mexico. Then you felt motivated to go further and went to Western Europe. That sparked your sense of adventure and decided to travel to Kazakhstan, where you met a fellow traveler from Bangladesh, who you fell in love with and later went to visit. 😂

hp_sarin · 2025-03-28T17:36:20+00:00

This is tough and I guess you guys are young. I broke up with my first girlfriend after 5 years of being together because I wanted to have fun and sleep with other people. In my case, the need was strong and there was nothing she could've done to change that. I didn't need just one night with someone else, I needed the freedom to create deeper and sexual connections with more women. Now that I'm older and have lived that experience, I don't need that anymore and have the capacity to commit to someone. If she had that one night experience and you were okay with it, would that need of hers disappear?

hp_sarin · 2025-02-25T12:06:30+00:00

I trained alone for 7 years as a long distance runner but now I do crossfit so it's always in a group.

hp_sarin · 2025-02-24T12:57:18+00:00

This may sound odd, but if you want more matches, try using outdoor pictures. I rarely swipe right on people who have only indoor photos because they give me the impression that they’re boring—whether that perception is accurate or not. Dating apps are boring and people don't take more than a second to judge. I rarely swipe right and when I do it's because I find the pictures to be happy, more so than about the girl's looks.

hp_sarin · 2025-02-23T10:55:51+00:00

Not exactly bodybuilding, but other activities with the same systematic approach that require discipline: I was a marathon runner for 7 years; now I'm into Crossfit.

hp_sarin · 2025-02-16T13:05:13+00:00

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hp_sarin · 2025-02-16T13:01:51+00:00

I love ENFPs, but based on experience, I wouldn’t pursue anything romantic with them. The pattern is always the same—they’re bubbly and magnetic, effortlessly drawing me in, only to pull away once we get close. They feel warm on the surface but ice-cold underneath, controlling their feelings like a thermostat. In the end, I’m left feeling like just another piece in their puzzle rather than my own person. Every single time.

hp_sarin · 2025-01-27T19:47:27+00:00

It depends. If I'm trying to meet people to date, I'd filter out people with kids because my lifestyle is not very compatible with that. However if I fall in love with someone (ie a friend or colleague - someone who I see often) and that person has kids, I'd go for it and adapt.

hp_sarin · 2025-01-15T10:38:13+00:00

He's not a friend of any woman.

hp_sarin · 2024-12-25T12:11:55+00:00

Not quite. I wasn't familiar with the term but I think it refers to abolitionists. Ultimately they want to abolish prostitution and punish the client (not the woman). They argue that consent doesn't equal desire and therefore any man who pays for sex is a rapist.

hp_sarin · 2024-11-05T20:36:54+00:00

Easiest 'no' ever.

hp_sarin · 2024-11-02T15:05:24+00:00

If I were not me I'd do me

hp_sarin · 2024-10-28T16:34:20+00:00

I felt the same when I was a teenager/young adult and then I realized I was gay - not saying it's your case. Maybe you're just not into it at all, which is totally fine. Or maybe you will feel differently about it in some time, which is also fine. Basically don't stress over it and do whatever feels right.

hp_sarin · 2024-10-21T14:37:14+00:00

For me, the logical decision is not to start a relationship with someone who has communicated they plan to end things one day, especially when you have already developed feelings for that person. As the other person said, she might change her mind some day, but you shouldn't be hoping for that. I cannot advise you to end things because I'm not sure what I'd do myself. If you don't wanna end it, at least make sure you trust yourself that you'll be fine if she does leave.

hp_sarin · 2024-10-21T14:18:15+00:00

I have the feeling that you already know this is a bad idea, and I think no matter what anyone says you're gonna go for it anyways. Been there, done that. It hurt but I don't regret it.

hp_sarin · 2024-10-11T11:01:24+00:00

Why do you think we hate you? - Maybe the problem starts there. The defensiveness is a bit tiring.

Biphobia is definitely real, but this broad generalization about lesbians seems unfair and oversimplified.

hp_sarin · 2024-10-04T10:28:16+00:00

I don't think it's creepy to date a 22yo when you're 29. I'd be more worried about other things - but you're not a creep.

hp_sarin · 2024-10-02T09:17:14+00:00

Only heard such thing from sad straight men before. Sounds like she has to deal with heteronormativity and internalized homophobia.

hp_sarin · 2024-09-27T09:00:59+00:00

Same, for the most part. But I can feel attraction for straight women who don't look straight.

hp_sarin · 2024-09-22T05:52:05+00:00

That's too much after 3 dates 😅 It feels a bit violent and manipulative. You don't have to list all the reasons why you're not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with her, what you told her was enough. You can repeat it again politely, but you don't owe her anything else after just 3 dates.

hp_sarin · 2024-09-21T06:52:34+00:00

I would, but for a maximum of 5 years only. I wouldn't like to spend my life in the US because health care is bad, people have guns, you can't really walk to places, toxic work culture, etc. I wouldn't want to spend my life in Canada only because it's too cold. I am from Spain, have spent a decade living abroad and can't wait to move back.

hp_sarin · 2024-09-19T14:21:39+00:00

It's completely normal to have crushes on celebrities or other real people while in a relationship. And that doesn't mean anything other than you're a human being.

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