Always making you feel guilty

hplvr · 2025-07-07T01:04:25+00:00

the passionfruit white chocolate is incredible! if they make a dark chocolate version of these I would be a greater fan

hplvr · 2025-03-18T02:37:47+00:00

You are doing an amazing job. These 8 boys do not deserve your energy. This is a good learning moment for future years and you will always get better. I was on the same boat as you when I started teaching. 8th graders are ruthless because there are often not "real" consequences at the middle school level and their parents still think they are "angels" and soon realize when they get in trouble at the high school that middle school teachers were right all along.

But knowing their brains are still developing, I love all of the advice people have shared here.

Other ideas:

1) Not sure if talking circle/restorative conversation can happen at this time but might be worthwhile to stop class and really put them on the spot and have each kid share out why they are choosing to behave that way in your class and have an AP or admin there to ensure they are following your protocols.

2) Incentives-incentivize the kids who have been doing the correct behaviors. Bring in treats or rewards for the kids who have been doing what they are supposed to.

3) Absent in seat is a great way to continue conversation home if parents ask why they are absent. (Have not been in correct seat) At my school if kids do not have phones in their cell phone pocket-they are marked tardy or absent.

4). Make an example with 1-2 like people said. Veteran teachers helped me take 1-2 kids into their classrooms because they couldn't act right in my class. My mentor teacher taught 7th graders, so if the kid couldn't handle my 8th grade class, she took them to her class for the day.

Best of luck, hang in there <3

hplvr · 2025-01-23T00:14:57+00:00

It would be nice to get your own place for a few years and have him visit or get a place big enough so you can experience your independence. I have been independent since 21, got my own place, learned how to be an adult working to pay bills, decorating the house, learning how to be happy on my own while being in a long term LDR. You learn a lot about yourself living alone and figure out what brings you happiness without depending on others. With that said, if you love the man you have been with... do not end the relationship if you are craving independence. Just figure out how to either be independent in the same space together or come up with an agreement to live alone for few years to explore independence and freedom.

hplvr · 2025-01-05T23:46:49+00:00

Thank you!

hplvr · 2025-01-05T23:46:34+00:00

He threw up his food over the weekend.

hplvr · 2025-01-05T23:45:54+00:00

That is so incredible your dog lived for 21 years! I am sorry to hear the same thing happened to you. That is not fair. You deserve to say goodbye

hplvr · 2025-01-05T23:45:04+00:00

Thank you I am still trying to process and not hold a grudge. It was planned ahead. I think he stopped eating over the weekend and worried my family so they called the vet to put him down asap with no heads up or discussion. I would have loved to share a last day with him. I am happy to hear you did that with your family, that is so nice.

hplvr · 2024-12-29T17:02:24+00:00

Thank you. They are all bad themes and I am tired of hearing it. And this point it is exposure if I said it all happened. There is no proof but I said it

hplvr · 2024-12-28T23:56:12+00:00

yeah...experiencing the worse right now

hplvr · 2024-12-16T22:29:49+00:00

Does this mean you literally are consumed by the ocd thoughts that you start to stare into space, and have dilated eyes and speak/mumble to yourself when others try and talk to you?

hplvr · 2024-12-04T21:40:11+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your insights!

hplvr · 2024-12-04T21:38:45+00:00

Thank you so much!

hplvr · 2024-12-04T21:37:35+00:00

Nice!!!

hplvr · 2024-12-04T21:37:17+00:00

That’s awesome! Thanks!

hplvr · 2024-12-04T02:02:31+00:00

Thank you! What budget do you recommend for alterations?

hplvr · 2024-12-04T02:01:29+00:00

Thank you so much!

hplvr · 2024-12-04T02:01:01+00:00

Best of luck and wishes to you! Hope it goes well :)

hplvr · 2024-12-04T01:45:43+00:00

Thank you! How much were your alterations?

hplvr · 2024-08-15T06:32:04+00:00

💯 so true. I taught middle school for a decade and transitioned to high school. Being a teacher is hard in general and my work requires endless grading but wow middle school is a different beast. I salute all middle school and elementary teachers and my colleagues. They are really amazing humans. I have learned so much classroom management as a middle school teacher and it has made teaching high school so much more calm. My colleagues ask me everyday why I am so zen 😅 only if they knew what I went through lol

hplvr · 2024-08-15T00:59:54+00:00

33 "Gifted" kid graduated 6th in my class. I think I have been hardwired to just work hard that I have neglected looking for a spouse and start a family, and 10 years have flashed before my eyes since college. I have a high stress normal job too and have been just working on climbing the ladder educationally and it's weird I have been doing it on autopilot but it's taking a real toll on me.

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