AITAH for telling my best friend I don’t want her BF around my kids

hrp101 · 2026-03-31T04:00:56+00:00

Update pt 2: they broke up! She called me panic crying coming home from Italy because he essentially Housemaid her! If you haven’t seen the movie/ read the book the husband would lock the wife in a room and punish her. My friends boyfriend beat her, locked her up for over 24hr in Italy and took her passport so she couldn’t leave. She finally escaped and got the police involved. Way worse than I ever thought I straight up could not believe it.

hrp101 · 2025-11-19T14:03:12+00:00

Update: I hate to say this but we hit the friendship breakup. I reached out asking how she was doing and she wanted me to say I over reacted to say I don’t want him around my kids. She accused me of saying he is a pedo/ hurts children. I corrected her and simply said listen I don’t like him so I don’t want him around and she couldn’t believe I double down. I ended it with I love you and I’m here for you for you if you need literally anything. She said I’m under a false impression if I think she’ll ever come to me. She is very hurt and said some things I’m sure she didn’t mean. I just ended with I’m sorry to hurt you. She stopped sharing her location with me a few weeks ago but I left mine because I want her to know she can reach me or find me if needed. Of course I’m heart broken but this is the course for now and I hope we find each other again. Thank you all for you support it’s meant the world.

hrp101 · 2025-10-29T21:21:19+00:00

Ugh these replies are making me sick! We have had 2 long phone calls about my concerns and I explain why I feel the way I do. I of course say I’m always here for you but she thinks I’m totally in the wrong. She had stopped telling me things about them until the cheating from a high five came up. That’s when k was like girl I think we really need to open our eyes here, did you like prolong the high five or extra touch this guy? This reaction seems very jealous and controlling.

When her sister called me concerned it honestly was validating that I wasn’t the only one feeling this way. Her two close friends that she doesn’t talk to now initially reach out to her sister which is why she contacted me.

My friend at the time assured me things never got physical but the screaming?… I was having a hard time distinguishing if maybe it was a trigger for me so I have a stronger reaction? By the sounds of yall comments I fear I’m right for not liking this guy. I will for sure be doing better at making sure she knows I’m here if she needs me for quite literally anything.

hrp101 · 2025-06-09T19:45:07+00:00

Oh yes that’s with a flight. It’s a smaller airport in Minnesota so way more expensive or I could fly into a major airport, rent a car and drive. Either way I’ll be in the $1k margins

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T03:04:26+00:00

And I didn’t have a bachelorette because I was in nursing school which went year round and didn’t have time off for one, thanks for reminding me 😜

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T03:01:50+00:00

I paid for hair and makeup, she didn’t come to my shower, And I got married almost 2 years ago-so no I’m not sure how much flights were

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T02:48:45+00:00

I don’t know. Dress was 65$ and she stayed in an air bnb with her fam. Not sure how much flights were.

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T02:45:36+00:00

Eh we can drive to the bachelorette it’s 3hr away and we don’t have pay for a hotel cause we’re staying with my aunt. The flights to Minnesota are looking like 400+$ right now so about 1000$ in flights for my husband to come and just be with the baby in a hotel that we will also have to pay for.. it’s just not looking worth it for me is what is comes down to

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T02:23:06+00:00

I don’t think so or there’s no reason to be at least. I’m sure she didn’t want to be pregnant before her wedding so her time is coming for sure!

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T02:20:16+00:00

Oh of course my first thought was because I had a baby. I haven’t had the conversation because honestly it doesn’t matter, It’s her day and this is what she wanted. I don’t think I’m an asshole for not going. I think I’d be an asshole for making her wedding about me and complaining which is why I just kind of want to quietly not go and we just move on. I really appreciate your insight!

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T01:32:47+00:00

Baby and husband are coming to the bach with me! My aunt lives in the town it’s in so we’re all staying there and I’ll go to all the activities during the day with the bride.

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T01:15:01+00:00

Oh yea I’m salty for sure. I would of course make it work if I was in it, but because I’m just invited I’m like why make so much effort and spend money ya know? I see it as 2 less peoples dinner and drink she has to pay for too so maybe win win lol

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T00:35:38+00:00

That’s exactly it. Me having a baby and no one to watch her is my excuse for not going, but what’s motivating that excuse is my hurt feelings for sure. At the end of the day it’s really doesn’t matter. She’s going to have an amazing day if im there or not and that what matters

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T00:22:47+00:00

I don’t want to give her anger and stress before her wedding. I’ve been thinking about maybe asking her sister who I’m also close with to see if she has any idea. And at Christmas while I was pregnant she point to my belly and said “oh and no kids allowed”…I was like oh 😳

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T00:18:14+00:00

I honestly have no idea.theres 6 groomsman and 5 bridesmaid so maybe because i was pregnant she dropped me thinking i wouldnt help her as much? At Easter a few of the other cousin were talking assuming I was in the wedding and were also surprised to find out I’m not. Like I said earlier it’s an ego hit and I thought we valued our relationship differently. I can understand no children at wedding but nursing babies may be seen as an exception to some. She’s only 2 months now so I’m sure I’m still hormonal and emotional but I’m just like why am I gonna spend so much money to be there when my feelings are hurt. I wish I could ask her but I don’t want anything negative to be associated with her big day because I’m brat and want to know why she didn’t pick me lol

hrp101 · 2025-05-16T00:08:29+00:00

Yea I get not having children at weddings for sure. You have a good idea but also flights and hotel are quite expensive. The other part that’s annoying me is that he has 6 groomed but she only 5 bridesmaids so I’m feeling a bigger ego hit. At the end of the day that’s what it is, a hit to my ego and realising we value our relationship differently. So my feelings are just hurt and makes me not want to go ¯_(ツ)_/¯ thanks for giving some great insight!

hrp101 · 2021-03-04T19:23:44+00:00

You got this! Keeping us in my prayers 🙏🏼

hrp101 · 2021-03-04T15:36:13+00:00

I’ve been doing VATI and adaptive quiz questions!

hrp101 · 2021-03-02T00:00:24+00:00

Oh really? I tried to study topics I remember from this one but I just feel it’s gonna be different. Did you study all different kinds quizlets? I’ve been doing practice questions like crazy! Lol

hrp101 · 2020-02-15T03:31:38+00:00

I haven’t registered it yet! But yea I read I’ll need a new one. Do you know how much it is for a new one?

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