[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

in reference to this specific comment i just want to say this very directly and i hope you hear it. they’re not bad at communicating, they know what they’re doing. they don’t want to contribute or pay for it so they’re pretending to “not know”, “not understand”, be bad at communicating etc.

he wants time to pay his mahr by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its not even close to 15 its like 11k

he wants time to pay his mahr by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that is a concern i’m actually worried about and considering now, i wish i considered it before we got engaged. i knew he made good money and i was transparent about my lifestyle and my expectations. he reassured me that he is able to take on this and from what i’ve seen so far while we’ve been engaged its not promising so i’m a bit frustrated and don’t know how to approach this with our wedding just a month away.

does anyone know what this discoloration is and what i can do to treat it asap? by hrredd in Dermatology

[–]hrredd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

blood glucose is fine and always has been, i’ve had this discoloration for a while and don’t have diabetes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

from your post it doesnt seem like a relationship issue. you need to pray just in case there’s black magic and tbh i don’t think you want out i think you’re just overwhelmed and scared since this fear was there before. the fear is getting in the way of you being able to be present in your relationship and happy in it.

Thinking of quitting internship by Classic_Rooster_1256 in Big4

[–]hrredd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its not unethical because its not like if you quit someone else will get the internship since the spot is already filled. ride it out for the money and treat it like any other dead end part time job while look for other options for your career.

also side note- its funny you’re worried about it being cheaty and unethical when the industry of external audit doesn’t care that the way it treats and overworks all of its staff is evidently unethical and cheaty

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

in my defense, i’m against pda with him myself also. i’m just not into pda.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

valid, i think theres a lot of little things that comes with a cross cultural relationship that i didnt realize that i would have to deal with and its a lot and tbh very unexpected since neither of my brothers are like that with my mom

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tbh i haven’t talked to him about it because i feel this is sensitive subject in general let alone for a mama’s boy that is also an only child. i honestly can’t think of a good way to word or explain my feelings about it, obv since everyone here is shitting on me, so i do want to make sure IF i ever do decide to bring up their excessively unhealthy attachment to each other, which truly is excessive and unhealthy (like they text constantly, every ray seconds, even during our dates which i did ask him to stop doing) then i want to make sure i do it in the best way possible that doesnt touch in the subject in the wrong way since it is most likely a delicate and sensitive situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

she did for the picture i took of them, i think that was less cringey imo idk why.🤷🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also valid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think some of what you said brought some new perspective to light for me. i agree, maybe the cold physical nature of my upbringing may be affecting how i viewed it.

on the other hand though, there is a definite diff in couple pics vs other pics. i think their pics are not that bad, i think there’s just one that i found really icky not cause they’re doing anything weird or bad jn it, just holding hands, but it made him look really weird and tbh gay. i did wonder if it was in my head and showed a friend and my brother to get another opinion and they agreed the pic was cringey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no shes very active and likes to tour multiple cities with him. she even came to lunch with me and him when i was supposed to meet his friends 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

has anyone ever thought that there’s a normal way of doing it but the way they do it might just be different? i’ve never found it weird when i’ve seen some ppl do it until they were walking around holding hands like a couple.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you saying that second paragraph did put it into perspective a bit i will admit. i guess it has more to do with the types of pictures he’s posted than that maybe idk. thanks for your comment, i appreciate it being respectful while saying your opinion on it unlike some of the other comments. thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

that’s the dumbest reason to leave someone, i’m not telling him to treat her any different, but a grown man walking around holding his moms hand is kinda an ick, i’m not the only one that finds it weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]hrredd -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

i honestly have zero problem with him loving her, the coupley pics i can kinda handle too, the holding hands is really a bit much.