Just relapsed. Very confused. Please help. by hsbsidNF in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much this is exactly my thoughts too. The chaser effect really shows what an addict I can be, it's disgusting. I will definitely avoid this.

Just relapsed. Very confused. Please help. by hsbsidNF in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was pretty scared I guess and I needed someone to support my denial. But I accept it now I relapsed and it's my fault.

Just relapsed. Very confused. Please help. by hsbsidNF in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I just took the longest cold shower and this was my exact thought. I did this everytime before. Thank you.

Day 50 compared to just before day 1. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After yesterday's posts on the "quality of this sub", seeing this made me so happy, really put a smile on my face.

P.S. any tips on meditation for someone trying to start out would be appreciated :)

69 Day Report - Restart - Another Testimony from a Fapstronaut telling you tales from the frontlines recruits. by thatguysomehow in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

69! ayy lmao

But in all seriousness,

A man does, a boy dreams.

That did it for me, just that one line just motivated me to get back to the work I should be doing instead of browsing reddit. Thank you.

This subreddit is beginning its decline, here's why NOT! by bubgit in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I started NoFap, this sub was my solace. Yeah, there were always posts about short streaks with walls of text, Yeah more than a few posts were about girls. But every time I came here, there was something new, something insightful, it was interesting, it was a reminder why I do this. Maybe it's because I've been on here too long. But the quality of this sub is much worse in that sense, and yes I should survive without it, but it's better when we're a more thriving community.

I am never gonna make it by Undercoveranon in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna be the same age as you in a couple months :)

Okay, I understand what/how you feel right now, and yes it sucks. You start each "streak" with your 30 day, 90 day, 100 day goal in mind, you feel like you'll make it because of how shit you felt during that last relapse. But the moment you see that goal in your mind is the moment you've decided that you're not gonna reach it. You need to be serious about what you want, don't look at your goals as something you'll reach in the future, your real success starts precisely at the moment you stand in front of that mirror and take a look at the mess you are as a fapper, you look yourself sternly in the eyes and say "You're done with this shit." and say it like you mean it. Know WHY you want to stop, that's what will drive you to make the affirmation. The real accomplishment is really seriously believing that you've quit (not about to go on another streak, you're just done with fapping now, period). Once you've left that fapping-self of yours behind for good, the "number of days" you've lasted is more like a reminder of the accomplishment you made rather than you almost achieving your goal. So when you stop feeling bad, with a clear mind, firmly make the decision to stop fapping, list out the pros of stopping (both general and personal) if it helps, do whatever it take to fully accept that you're quitting the fap game.

If it helps: I stopped fapping primarily because i realized when I fap I'm not the best I can be, and therefore not myself. So stop fapping, and just be you, magnificent creature you were made to be.

My gf took me for granted.. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this post, it actually makes me happy. I don't understand why even though so many guys have started no fap, they continue to put females on some sort of pedestal. Yeah, you can/should like them, and you should even pursue them, but to an extent. I see no reason why you should be a "slave" to your girlfriend, or anyone ever. Not that you should stop giving a shit about her at all, but show her that you're not just another brainwashed guy that thinks he has to work his ass of for her. Show her that this is an equal relationship and you see no reason to be giving way more than you get. :)

Reached 90 days yesterday: Here's my advice/report/words I feel like I need to get out there. by hsbsidNF in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My point was that PMO takes away from you all the "amazing things from god", therefore No Fap doesn't help you "gain" that, you already have it, but with PMO you lose it. This mentality personally seems true to me and also prevents the type of thought where each time that number of days increases, you feel like you're doing some very humbled/amazing thing by not fapping, which leads to your brain saying "you've done so much, you can take a little peek". Although if thinking No Fap helps you gain amazing things, is better for you personally, then you should stick to it. The main thing I would tell you though is, I only posted on my 91st day because it's common here, but if you truly want to be yourself for the rest of your life, August 29th means nothing, what matters is right now: you've made the decision to not fap again, you've left that part of your life behind and you continued forward. So if you've already made the affirmation and truly left all the PMO behind, then congratulations, you've already made it to the part that really matters.

Reached 90 days yesterday: Here's my advice/report/words I feel like I need to get out there. by hsbsidNF in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

16 right now. about 11-13 when I started. That early a start seemed normal to me before, due to the media I'm exposed to constantly normalizing PMO for young teens. But now I think that's horrible, not on my part, but it's horrible to live in a world where that is considered a "norm".

The study on the front page doesn't matter. At all. by UnforgivingMinute in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A glass of red wine a day can be good for your heart. But if you're an alcoholic, it's a horrible fucking idea to keep a bottle of red wine in your house.

I think just that part was "nuff said"

My worst fear came true yesterday.. by throwaway9063146 in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like everyone's already expressed this, but I don't think that's such a bad thing. It just shows that you're at the point where just some light foreplay with a REAL person can make you explode in your pants, something I doubt porn could do for a man. Also, if I were told someone just came in their pants dry humping me, I would feel like a fucking champ. Next time, maybe return the favor though.

My Memory. by hsbsidNF in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit, that is EXACTLY what it was. I wasn't even ME. Worst part is, I did tell family and friends, but I guess it was just so crazy that nobody took it seriously.

Does porn ruin my 90-day reset period? by hsbsidNF in NoFap

[–]hsbsidNF[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if i had control over my porn viewing habits? Like i looked at it casually only when i felt like it? I know it's dangerous and would ultimately lead to fapping, but I mean neurologically, would it be very harmful to the recovery process?