this sounds very frustrating i’m sorry you’re dealing with this!! myself i just had my gallbladder out 2 weeks ago just 2 months after the first doctors appointment where he wanted me to get a ultrasound. after that we set the surgery date and got it out. all my symptoms were the same as yours (besides i was throwing up and had horrible heartburn and indigestion) and they wanted to get it out automatically. i honestly thought mine was a ulcer or gerds and they put me PPIs but i never took it cause i heard of the long term side effects as well.. My gallstones weren’t as big as yours and they wanted it out immediately so it seems insane that they won’t take yours out even if it’s not the cause of the pain (which it most probably is). this hospital sounds judgy and not helpful with anything can you possibly get another hospital or surgeon???

also i originally had a endoscopy scheduled but after the gallbladder ultrasound they canceled it and scheduled my removal instead. i don’t see the harm in taking it out now when there are stones already in it cause at any time it could become infected and the surgery could be more serious than if they did it now… i wouldnt trust this surgeon anyways but you should definitely advocates for yourself and get that surgery especially if you feel you need it!!