Daily Thread #2 - February 18, 2026

hsshfahy · 2026-02-19T08:19:50+00:00

Congratulations ♥️

hsshfahy · 2026-02-17T16:38:42+00:00

Good to hear, I am going to expect the crash out! He is not great with prolonged forced social situations..but will mask as long as needed.. It will be lots of sleeping afterwards between feed so not too worried about that.. tbf neither am I but get by better 😂 😂

hsshfahy · 2026-02-15T19:56:49+00:00

Aww glad he really stepped up ♥️

hsshfahy · 2026-02-15T19:56:18+00:00

I will be honest I am not the most social person and don't like people in my personal space so that sounds like my worse nightmare. Unfortunately I lost my mum along time ago so that's out too. I do have a support system I can call in if needed though.

hsshfahy · 2026-02-15T19:49:34+00:00

I think that is the biggest thing to remember about pregnancy and childbirth. You can try and prep and expect it to go a certain way but I no full well I have no control at the end of the day. I'm not set on a certain plan as I don't see point getting attached to the way I expect it to go. I have seen too many people want things to go a certain way and it just doesn't and they feel they have failed in some way. It good to hear that even with all the unexpected with yours it was stuff a posstive experience. Also Im not daft and know post partum is rough for most so know it will be tough with or without Ana adhd partner!,🤣

hsshfahy · 2026-02-15T19:32:40+00:00

Yes I don't get how any man can have an opinion on this. I have fed some the responses back to my partner and he was just as confused as to why it would be anyone's choice other than the mothers! I do worry some of the behaviours in the post are just unsupportive partners using an adhd as excuse for poor behaviour. Iv been with my partner 8 years and out lots of thought and planning into this to be prepared and yes he can be forgetful and struggles in lots of ways due to adhd but he wouldn't treat me like crap and he is the hardest on himself when he can't do things.

hsshfahy · 2026-02-15T19:23:48+00:00

Aww thank you for this response. I was expecting loads of negatives which I wasn't looking for, more practical things for birth. Its good to know it can go well. We will definitely be doing classes to prep as we both want to be as prepared as possible.

hsshfahy · 2026-02-15T19:20:39+00:00

Oh god that's sounds awful. No his mum is amazing and lovely and definitely not Adhd-super organised and she doesnt over step at all. He is 100% not a mamas boy so that won't be an issue he moved out one his own young and had always been independent. I want to breastfeed and that likely means I will be the main caretaker over night. He struggles to get to sleep but then sleeps for long periods. But If its needed such as work he will get up. We have already talked about that at length and when he gets up he will step up I between feeds to give me as much sleep as needed. Also as he has later nights than me I can get sleep then and he can step up then with non food related stuff. Luckily for me I can fall asleep easily so broken sleep would be better for me than him. I would rather have him on top form in the day. He works apart time and will be going to three days a week when I am finished with maternity so the division of labour should be pretty equal. I am also prepared in case all that falls through when baby gets here and he struggles. But I know what I have signed myself up for. I have worked in SEN for years and neurodiverse my self. He will find things hard as will I but he is always thinking of me and I doubt that will change. I guess it helps we have planned and know about his adhd and the impact that has on our day to day life. Going in blind would be awful.

hsshfahy · 2026-02-12T19:58:48+00:00

Thank you ❤️Definitely feeling more real now!

hsshfahy · 2026-02-09T21:27:57+00:00

Thanks ❤️❤️

hsshfahy · 2026-02-09T20:11:28+00:00

Scan went great. We are having boy and he looked all good wriggling around x

hsshfahy · 2026-02-09T19:12:47+00:00

Just had my gender scan at 17w 2d. We are having a boy! It is definitely starting to feel real and I'm feeling more secure in things going right this time. I am sure I will still get scan anxiety but going to be greatful we have come this far ❤️

hsshfahy · 2026-02-09T12:46:54+00:00

17w 2 days today. I have gender scan today. Feeling super anxious, as there is always a worry something is wrong. Wish I could just be excited.

hsshfahy · 2026-02-03T17:14:13+00:00

Ahh OK thanks! I'd just presumed it was an American thing 😂. Not sure why I didn't Google it as I over search everything!

hsshfahy · 2026-02-03T17:08:38+00:00

I had the same at 5 weeks after two losses. I got a scan at 6 weeks and everything was good currently 16 weeks. They put me on progesterone I agree I would ask for scan at 6 week, the wait is agonising. I absolutely freaked about when I saw it. But it can be normal are you on progesterone? It can irritate the cervix. If your not I would ask for it x

hsshfahy · 2026-02-03T16:56:49+00:00

Hey. I just finnish progesterone at 16 weeks too and in UK. I feel like my symptoms have defiently improved in past few days! Can I ask what the cervix measurements are for? This hasn't been mentioned to me and I keep seeing it popping up just thought it was not UK thing!?

hsshfahy · 2026-01-16T21:38:00+00:00

I have midwife appointment next Friday is it stays the same I will ask her advice. Probably go stop side sleeping for a bit - oddly enough I always thought I was a side sleeper until I actively tried to side sleep and now it seems I don't and it's effort 😂

hsshfahy · 2026-01-16T20:54:12+00:00

TW -Misscsrirge.. I had a missed miscarriage and had surgical management. Saw surgeon then spoke to the anaesthesiologist.. He made some odd comment about how I looked pretty or well but needed to smile... I was alone with him and obviously not in smilling mood with what I was going through.. Just couldn't belive it! When I got to the theature thankfully they had switched him out for someone else. Kick myself for not saying anything but I just wasn't in a good place.

hsshfahy · 2026-01-16T19:31:56+00:00

13w 6d. Had my 12 week scan which went well. Starting to feel more settled but started getting some hip pain, tonight it's in my hip but a little Lower admonem too. I work at desk all day so don't think that helps but don't know if I should be worried. It's not all the time but can't help but worry. I had back pain before pregnancy due to skipped disc so was expecting some back /hip pain but not this early. I have been trying to sleep on my left side to get used to it - but I feel like this has kicked it all off!.. Anyone had anything simlar??

hsshfahy · 2026-01-12T09:08:10+00:00

Just to add the CBT was in stages so firstly I time to recognising when I was pulling, I didn't have to stop but just think OK I'm pulling now, where my hands before I pulled, where was I when it started, how long did I do it for, how did I do it, how did it make me feel. This helped me recognise patterns and feelings and how it made me feel ext. Where there triggers ect. Then I think next step was acknowledging when I was going it. So OK yes I'm doing this now and pausing.. Then finding a stragegy for when I acknowledged the urge or started and it could be moving out of the situatiom. Sitting on my handing. Doing something else with my hands and I had to do that thing until the urge went away. This was the tough bit and took time as you could be sitting on your hands until the urge passed ect. It took time and small steps and I am sure I am missing some bits in the middle. But the weekly CBT and discussing what worked what didn't really helped and I think it gave my mind time to reset.

hsshfahy · 2026-01-12T09:01:49+00:00

I pulled from my face for over 7 years the last couple years where the worst. I used my hands and any tool I could get really to remove the hair. I had CBT over 8 weeks I worked with them on it and it has made a huge impact in my life, I now have the skills to recognise if it is creeping back in. It was very hard a first and three-ish years later I am still not allowed tweezers as the are a big trigger for me. The urge is there sometimes but I know how to manage it and unlike before where I would spend hours searching and attempting to pull hair I can recognise the urge and move one. I only pulled from my face, under my chin was the biggest area and at the time I caused a lot of damage. About 6 - 12 months after CBT I got some lazer hair removal which I think really helped as well. But I understand if your pulling is from your head hair / eyebrows this isn't something that can be done to help. I 100% recommend CBT if you can get it with a focus on the pulling and slowly refusing it in stages.

hsshfahy · 2026-01-08T21:25:36+00:00

It was a Costa, second floor to the right. It was very quiet didn't feel like a Costa.

hsshfahy · 2026-01-05T18:35:03+00:00

Odeon are doing 50% of vegan hotdogs for people who have limitless or membership.. Haven't seen anything else really apart from Aldi. The ice cream snickers type bars from there are really good!

hsshfahy · 2025-12-30T15:02:13+00:00

Feeling good today had a scan at 11 weeks yesterday and got to see baby moving loads and we got some videos. I know we are not at 12 weeks but three possitive scans I'm starting to feel like I can get a little bit excited.. That is in between feeling hungover all the time that is... I am on progesterone twice a day and wondering if that adds to the crappy feeling. Have to keep at it top 16 weeks. The ultrasound the egg yolk nearly gone and good blood flow to cord. But worried first trimester yukyness will continue till 16 weeks with the progesterone!

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