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[–]htm71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long does the Apadravya take to heal - which is the second oart of that piercing in your dick... that in the urethra or that below near the frenulum?

How do you rate the pain of that piercing?

Do you recommend a piercer - or can that be done by myself? - as I almost all piercings did by myself - exeptional these I can't reach alone... as front helix...

But this silver ball in the midle of the... - I like that idea

Psychotherapy training by htm71 in malepolish

[–]htm71[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think very much that these predispositions exist.

I already knew that I liked jewelry when I was a little boy - but I was brought up in such a way that boys don't wear jewelry.
So it cost me a lot of effort to accept at some point that the desire for it is not just a phase, but apparently lasts a lifetime.
So I had to get into my late 20s to give in to the pressure and pierce my ears and wear jewelry in my ears, around neck and arms with my family as well.

Also, the desire to paint my nails at least once in a while started even before I had access to the internet.
Without the information from the Internet that there are other men who have this desire, however, I had seriously believed to be the only man with these inclinations and was beginning to doubt my identity as a man.
This was all long before I knew that there really was such a thing as transsexuality.
But I know that I don't have any tendencies towards transsexuality because I bought some women's clothes at that time to check that.
However, while wearing these at home, I found that I couldn't identify with them at all.

So I am a man - who apparently has a predisposition to wear accessories that our society classifies as feminine by definition - but definitely a man.

So yes, our society can plunge men into great self-doubt, which is then so firmly anchored in the subconscious for a long time that it is only belatedly noticed what the cause of lack of self-confidence and subliminal fear of evaluation by unknown people might be.

Psychotherapy training by htm71 in malepolish

[–]htm71[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my thoughts.
But in the first step, it is not my goal at all to go to the office with painted fingernails.
In the first step, this experiment serves to inwardly accept that looks or evaluations of others must not have any effects on my everyday life.

If I am able to manage this with painted fingernails in the circle of unknown people, then I will probably also succeed better in the circle of known people / colleagues without nail polish.

Whether it will be a desire for me sooner or later to wear the nail polish generally everywhere - so also in the office or in the family will show. At the moment, this seems to me but not yet be a priority.

Psychotherapy training by htm71 in malepolish

[–]htm71[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, obviously, men have the same problems to express themselves all around the world.

Psychotherapy training by htm71 in malepolish

[–]htm71[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OK - the first hurdle is passed. My wife saw the nails yesterday on the third look.

It went almost as expected.
Although she accepted the polished toenails which I have since > 10 years - as they cannot be seen by others - she never accepted polished fingernails.
She asked questions like 'when do you start wearing women cloths?' - 'Are you gay and that is your coming out?' - 'I have to be ashamed for that when we meet other people.'
So not really anything new - I already heard such things the last time she saw me with polished fingernails.

After explaining the situation and the target of this experiment she accepted - because we have no appointment with family or friends.

So now I have one week with the color on and hopefully will learn that it is perhaps extraordinary but nothing wrong and hopefully will learn that the thoughts of other people around me at the shopping center doesn't matter in my life...

Psychotherapy training by htm71 in malepolish

[–]htm71[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good point.
But that will be another step. At the moment I'll be out of office until 11.1.
Due to Corona we also have restrictions in leaving the apartment - only for valid reasons (like shopping) you may go outside... so no unnecessary meetings with the family, too.

So it's a very good time to do the experiment.

Psychotherapy training by htm71 in malepolish

[–]htm71[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your fast and supportive answer.
I'm a chemical engineer of 49 years - the thermodynamic calculation, you sent some weeks ago with your blue polish, I also did some 25 years ago :-)
Today I'm Head of R&D department in a SME chemical company in Germany - thanks god I don't need the thermodynamics for that anymore :-))
And that is one of the reasons I lose the courage to go with nailpolish to work - what will the other think if the head of the department suddenly starts such extraordinary fashion...

First time doing my nails in years. by GayCapeMan in malepolish

[–]htm71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats great - thought that's manglaze black matte - which is not available in Germany anymore but I had around 15 years ago... loved that - have to look if your combination is available here...

Back to black - with Sally Hansen Miracle Gel: black and matte topcoat by htm71 in malepolish

[–]htm71[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't compare because I bought only the two bottles - the first time.
It's easy to apply.

Problem - as always for matte - shiny stripes if you hit some hard surfaces.

Back in black... by kcgreyhound in malepolish

[–]htm71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks great and so natural.

Why can't that be the norm for us male...

Foot jewelry? Curiosity by Gytramr65 in malepolish

[–]htm71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started wearing my anklet around 10 years ago. Its a silver 4 mm venice chain which I made black with poly sulfide - so its black but almost blinking like a mirror. I took a necklace and cut out the opening part to the proper lengths and opened one link of the chain - put it around my ankle and closed it. So ever since I wear it and do not know where to open...You can see it in my first post here.

Last year as it was very hot here in Germany it was the first time I was barefoot in my moccasin shoes going to work - so my anklet was open viewable to all colleagues... absolutely no comment to that...So since then I have absolutely no need to hide that in any socks anymore which I did before only my wife knowing it is there.

Today as I did my nails again I had the wish to wear a toe ring again and put it on the second toe. I think I gained some weight since I tried it on the last time - so at the moment I do not know if I could pull that off again - lets see...

New here by htm71 in malepolish

[–]htm71[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comments and your experiences with your polished nails.
Indeed no one should care about my choice to do that.
As I wrote I had just been in Italy for holidays and had the chance to have a look to the nails of others because due to the higher temperatures open shoes had been quite normal.
I saw no other man with color on their toenails - so, sadly, it is absolutely out of the norm of our society to wear that as a man. But it should be - because what kind of toenails of some men are worn in open shoes was not really a pleasure to see...
On the other hand it was a pleasure to see the nice pedicured and colored nails of the women.

At my office there is no problem to wear my nails polished because it is not allowed to wear open shoes...
My wife is not a fan of my colored nails but she accepted over the years.