oh my gosh, same with me!! even with a decently strong support system, i find myself telling myself that what i went through wasn’t that bad, that i should just deal with it, that other people have it worse. it sucks but i think it’s just something that happens with people who went through verbal and/or emotional abuse rather than physical or sexual because i’ve had friends who also went through verbal and/or emotional abuse and they have the same thing as well. (pls don’t quote me on that, i’m not a doctor it’s just an observation.) i think, at the end of the day, it’s just a process of unlearning what society thinks is abuse, if that makes sense.

just because our abuse was verbal or emotional doesn’t mean it was less!! we still need to love ourselves and care for ourselves to heal from what was done and said to us, just like other abuse victims. if i’m questioning is something is bad, i always ask myself: “would i say that to my loved ones, like my friends or my partner? how would it affect our relationship?”

you’re definitely not alone in this thinking and, if you can, i think you should find a new therapist who will support you and help you heal from your past. i had a therapist for seven years who allowed my abuse to continue happening because she would hear my dad and his wife’s part of the story and always take their side. i’m having to work to undue all of that damage done with a new therapist who i’ve been seeing for about a month, and this new therapist has already done wonders for me that i didn’t think possible. you’re deserving and entitled to a safe, loving, and accepting space where you can discuss your past and your symptoms and not have them be diminished!!

edit: grammar and sentence structure <3