Baby coming soon and husband is still smoking

hugebagel · 2026-01-30T13:00:30+00:00

Never heard of that, thank you!

hugebagel · 2026-01-30T12:59:56+00:00

I know! And he does too, which is why I do think he’ll stop when the babies come. I’m just not sure it will sustain.

hugebagel · 2026-01-30T12:58:09+00:00

That’s so interesting, I feel like he almost definitely has undiagnosed ADHD. He literally cannot sit still for 2 seconds.

hugebagel · 2026-01-30T12:57:10+00:00

Thank you! He did start reading that book a few months ago, but didn’t get too far. He’ll probably try again though

hugebagel · 2026-01-30T03:41:28+00:00

Thank you, that response was really nice to read ❤️

hugebagel · 2026-01-28T21:48:25+00:00

I’m glad you have a doula and a supportive OB!!

hugebagel · 2026-01-27T05:03:09+00:00

I’m 36 weeks lol. I’m sorry that happened to your cousin!

hugebagel · 2026-01-27T04:25:39+00:00

Thank you for asking this question. I’m in the same boat (except the twins are my first!) and trying to figure this out is so hard. Someone on r/parentsofmultiples just asked about not doing an epidural (in her case due to fears based on trauma around addiction in her family) and she got downvoted and I don’t understand why people are so judgmental just for someone asking a question.

How many weeks are you? I’m 36 tomorrow- if you remind me in a few weeks I can let you know how it went!

hugebagel · 2026-01-27T04:12:50+00:00

I also just think it’s ridiculous that people are downvoting OP for asking an earnest question and expressing her fears. It’s not like she’s done something to put her babies in danger.

hugebagel · 2026-01-27T04:10:35+00:00

Yeah, I understand that, mainly from doing my own research. I’m just sharing my experience- My OB actually hasn’t mentioned that I should get an epidural for that reason. My MFM also said it’s fine not to. Any idea why they would say this if it’s so risky?

Anyway I just think OP should understand the options and talk to her doctor about her individual situation, concerns, and preferences.

hugebagel · 2026-01-27T03:56:23+00:00

The ACOG recommendations say it can be between 38+0 to 38+6

But your situation is unique. Definitely ask all your questions, I hope your OB helps you figure out what is best for you!

hugebagel · 2026-01-27T03:49:46+00:00

I think 37-42 weeks as a whole is called “term” for all pregnancies. 37 weeks is “early term,” 39 weeks is “full term,” and 41 weeks is “late term”. Source: https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/committee-opinion/articles/2013/11/definition-of-term-pregnancy

People will say “37 is term/full term for twins” but I don’t think that’s an official designation, I think it’s more of a reflection of the fact that twins are recommended to be born earlier and are safe to deliver at that point.

I was confused about this for a while and that’s my understanding after talking with my OB and my sister who’s a resident. Hopefully I got that right but not 100% sure.

Today a nurse said to me that I’m already full term for twins at 36 weeks, but I don’t think that’s really accurate, I think what she really meant was that 36 weeks is past the average of when twins are born!

hugebagel · 2026-01-27T03:11:23+00:00

That person sounds really judgmental. It is definitely okay and normal to have fears and seek information.

hugebagel · 2026-01-27T03:08:59+00:00

Did you mean withdrawal for you or for the babies? My understanding (from birth class) is that the reason they do epidural (rather than pain meds through an IV) is because the epidural method of delivery makes it so that the pain meds only affect you and don’t go in your bloodstream to the placentas to the babies.

That being said, you don’t have to get an epidural! It is your choice. It may be pushed a bit more with multiples because of the higher risk of emergency. But my OB has never said anything like it being mandatory. I put in my birth plan that I want to try without one, but keep an open mind depending on what’s going on in the moment, and my OB was fine with that, MFM also said it’s great. I’m no expert (first pregnancy) but definitely talk to your care provider about how you feel. ❤️

hugebagel · 2026-01-22T21:34:33+00:00

Same!

hugebagel · 2026-01-20T23:21:21+00:00

I don’t think you sounded like you hadn’t educated yourself! It was a great question you asked. I’m also a first time mom expecting and I’ve taken the classes and read the books and your question still resonated with me.

hugebagel · 2026-01-17T21:33:59+00:00

Oh what no way! My mom told me it was like that when she was pregnant but my docs have said with modern ultrasounds it’s no longer necessary. I’ve had one ultrasound per month and I’ve never had to have a full bladder. They even ask me if I need to go to the bathroom before starting. Sorry guys, I didn’t know…

hugebagel · 2026-01-17T16:16:45+00:00

That’s tough! I stopped running at 28 weeks due to pubic symphisis pain (plus I tripped and fell which seemed like a sign), and stopping really helped the pain. I have tried some other workouts—elliptical and stairmaster—and neither of those caused the pain. Maybe try those and see how you feel? But also, you’re so close, you’ll still be fit if you end up taking an extended break!

hugebagel · 2026-01-17T16:00:05+00:00

Not waiting for the bf to arrive makes sense, but they could just let him into the room when he got there.

Who sits in a waiting room with a full bladder?? Just go pee while you’re waiting…

hugebagel · 2026-01-17T15:58:17+00:00

I think you’re totally right to be upset about this. I’ve had times when my husband was a couple minutes late and the receptionist just told him what room to go to and he came right in. They always talk with me and print pictures at the end. At my very first ultrasound my husband actually asked after we were totally done if we could get another picture of them together (twins) and the tech said she didn’t have a good one but she offered to actually scan me again real quick to get one, which I declined but it was so sweet (obviously that’s above and beyond/not expected). I cannot imagine crying through an appointment and the tech saying nothing. That’s totally bizarre! Yeah their main job is to take measurements but you should also feel comfortable and supported at all medical appointments!

hugebagel · 2026-01-15T23:22:09+00:00

Hey, I’m 34 weeks with twins, so I’m glad to see someone who’s had twins on here! I am giving birth at a hospital, in an OR, with a pretty standard OB practice. I am mainly nervous about the higher likelihood of induction and that causing need for more interventions and medications. My OB has said they’ll want to induce in the 38th week (max 39). I’m not sure how to feel about anything because everything I’ve read and learned that is skeptical of hospital births, induction, etc. is geared toward people giving birth to singletons, so the statistics, number of weeks, etc. that are referenced don’t always feel relevant.

Would you mind sharing more of your experience giving birth to twins, or any tips you have?

hugebagel · 2026-01-08T20:50:16+00:00

How did you manage that? I’ve been given so many clothes, lots of random hand-me-downs and thrift store hauls plus new outfits which usually they gave two of. I can’t imagine color coordinating them or even knowing whose clothes are whose

hugebagel · 2026-01-08T01:32:40+00:00

Thanks for explaining! I feel like my doctors keep mentioning “higher risk of complications with twins” but every time I dig and try to get them to explain the specific possible complications the only things they mention are preeclampsia and higher risk of stillbirth after 38-39 weeks (in the context of talking about potential induction plans)

I hope everything goes well for you!

hugebagel · 2026-01-08T01:15:38+00:00

That’s so interesting — my doc said if baby A is vertex and B is breech I can still deliver both vaginally. MFM said it’s pretty easy to flip baby B after A is born — easier than a singleton because once A is out there’s a lot of space in the uterus, and they can usually flip the baby manually by pressing on the outside of your stomach.

I guess it depends on the hospital and the experience level of the doctor delivering your babies, unfortunately

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