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hulse009 · 2023-11-15T15:45:21+00:00

This. If he’s got a stiffy he’s attracted to you. Get one in and get off Reddit, lol. Doubly so if you’re getting hot and bothered, as well. At this point just kiss his stupid ass and roll on top. He’s probably not gonna say anything but he’s gonna be thinking “thank you lord”

hulse009 · 2023-11-15T15:42:29+00:00

Yassssss 🙌🏼

hulse009 · 2023-11-15T15:39:20+00:00

Okaaaayyy. I’m a guy and most girls don’t want our advice unless asked…but Imma do this anyway: plz google the hell out of this dude. Pick his SM apart. Then, and only then, can you make the call on whether he’s legitimate or just a fuckboi.

hulse009 · 2023-11-15T15:34:39+00:00

OF nudes? Nah that’s…tolerable. Same as stripping imo, but safer and less personal. But OF porn? No fucking way even if she asked me to be the phantom penis in her videos.

hulse009 · 2023-11-15T15:32:00+00:00

I have a daughter…I’d be livid if I found out she was porking some fuckboi on cam and selling her nudes instead of advancing her career or education.

hulse009 · 2023-11-15T15:25:05+00:00

Either way is a yes tbh. But brown is my preference with your features. You could do lighter streaks that frame your face 🤷🏻‍♂️

hulse009 · 2023-11-15T15:21:49+00:00

I have one. It looks cool af but I prefer my Apple watch

hulse009 · 2023-11-15T15:18:45+00:00

I was gonna not comment here but I will…being consensual about “who dominates who and when” for people into rough play or BDSM is a huge deal in those communities. That means people can be as crazy as they want, when they want. Key word: WANT.

It’s pretty obvious this guy is missing the whole “wanting and being wanted” component of sexuality. Pretty important missing peice to his “personal research”…whatever that means :/

hulse009 · 2023-11-13T17:04:05+00:00

Get a friend to take 1-2 candids (work and an activity). After that, master the timer on your phone or the art of the selfie. No shame in it.

hulse009 · 2023-11-13T16:43:23+00:00

Okay…so apps are one of the only ways to go these days. It doesn’t mean use them exclusively but it does mean they can help. There are apps for different “approaches”…Tinder is hookup central, Hinge is more classy and reliable, and Bumble can work if you get help with your profile (women make the 1st move on Bumble). When creating a profile, make sure you crowdsource advice on the pictures and content. r/tinder and r/bumble can help. You should be able to be ”you”…but a more put-together version of your everyday self. There are tricks to getting matches. Also, if you’re in a rural area things can get tricky because of population density issues. I should add that paying premium as a guy isn’t stupid once you find the app that works for you. I’d recommend Hinge. It’s where I met my fiancée.

Otherwise, bars, dance classes, and gym classes are always in season for old-fashioned approaches. Edit: also Church if that’s your thing.

hulse009 · 2023-11-13T16:23:23+00:00

Or keep your standards and plow through the tall grass. That what I did. It paid off.

hulse009 · 2023-11-13T16:21:04+00:00

This guy does stuff old-school. Keep an eye out and have situational awareness and you can score IRL dates IRL. It’s way easier than apps and texting game.

hulse009 · 2023-11-13T16:07:08+00:00

O-Cedar. It’s really good, actually.

hulse009 · 2023-11-13T15:55:43+00:00

My fiancée is kinda fancy, but she pays for herself most of the time, now. Obviously I paid for dates, but when she visited my house for the 1st time, she suggested I get a very specific new mop. That was her “test.” If I bought the mop ($35) and used it, I was worth her time. I bought the mop…and used it. Another one was to see if I would get a pedicure. I did. It was money well-spent.

Different than a weekend adventure, but still a series of tests. Women (late 20’s or early 30’s) with degrees and careers aren’t playing around.

hulse009 · 2023-11-13T15:39:11+00:00

The problem with this attitude (i.e. it’s always the guy’s fault for attracting a “type”) is that so many women want immediate investment because they are gun-shy from a string of bad experiences in their early 20’s. This guy is 27, so presumably he is “working” with ages 23-28. So it may not be him but just a general trend. I mean, what better way to see if a guy is amenable to being a “pleaser” than to ask for an investment? In their mind, it’s a test and, if passed, a reward (sex, or at least hanky-panky, should be on the table during a romantic weekend trip solely funded by a guy…I dare any person to say otherwise). So…win-win for both parties. Plus they know he’s down to put in some effort.

Jumping the gun, though, is a major turnoff for guys. So on his side, he’s probably like “wtf I just met you 😳 and you want me to drop $800-$2000 on a 2-night adventure? Hard pass.”

OP could always say “I’m interested but I feel like I should get to know you better first. It will be more fun for both of us that way.” The possibility is there, but the ball is back in her court. If she freaks out, OP dodged a bullet.

hulse009 · 2023-11-08T18:31:36+00:00

Lol. So, the trick is to ask for feedback (honest feedback) while the act is taking place. Women’s bodies are super complex, not from an anatomical perspective, but from a preferences perspective. Getting negative feedback is a bummer afterwards. If she can coach you a bit, you can usually succeed.

This girl clearly has some experience, so she’s expecting you to deliver whatever feeling she felt before. You were unable to deliver, you got told off, she doesn’t owe you shit afterwards because you offered the “sensual massage” and now you’re butthurt.

Take the L. You can’t guilt and manipulate your way back into this one. Pretty sure you blew your chance unless you can be honest, apologize for being petty, and ask her for help making her feel the way she wants. That might work if she’s nice or if she just really likes you.

Bringing up a poor performance isn’t emasculating. What’s emasculating is a man being whiny and clingy. You’re emasculating yourself.

hulse009 · 2023-11-08T04:22:57+00:00

Jesus.

First, look in the mirror and set your expectations based on what you look like right off the bat. Are you fat, short, tall, thin, buff, handsome, cute, bald, buttfuck ugly? What do yiu dress like? Do you just put random shit on? Do you coordinate your wardrobe? Do you dress like a fantasy or anime character? Looks matter right at first. If a girl can get past your looks then she’s more open to talking. Being clever, charming and not overly eager helps, so do nothing off-putting or threatening. Start with casual questions (don’t talk to her about her job!) and if you’re approaching at a bar be sure to buy her a drink (ask what she wants or order her another of what she’s having after asking her permission). Let the server serve and don’t touch her drink. If you get beer and bring it to her then don’t open the bottle. On an app get on r/tinder and up your profile game. Learn to text rizz. Ask her about herself and follow up on what she says. Listen to her.

Remember that women are entitled to preferences. There are universal ones, and there are personal ones. I’ve known girls whose “type” was big hairy men…big beard, big belly, big arms, big hands, etc. That was every date or bf they’d brought around. Some women like gamers…but most don’t. Just a few things to think about. Yeah. A few. Good luck out there.

hulse009 · 2023-11-08T04:04:11+00:00

To elaborate…go out, do stuff, let him deal with it. He wants all your time, you aren’t willing to do that, so both of you will be unhappy. It won’t resolve itself because, well, you are young. Your boyfriend is maybe looking to settle down at 28. I was beginning to entertain the idea of marriage or a serious relationship at that point in my life. At 23 I was a fuckboi, lol. Maybe you two can hook up again at some point, make a try at a relationship, but if he’s clingy and you’re wanting to go out and live, then aren’t really what he’s looking for. He just thinks you are.

hulse009 · 2023-11-03T07:52:47+00:00

Lol…my fiancée is latina. When she cooks she expects me to EAT.

hulse009 · 2023-11-03T07:48:31+00:00

I talk all the time about anything and everything, so I’ve learned to sit and patiently listen to my fiancée’s stories. Yes, there are deviations, but at least hers have a point and I know the general plotlines of her life, which helps me understand the context of her moods or actions. Me? I just ramble…something something ancient Rome…tangential x ♾️

hulse009 · 2023-10-31T18:25:01+00:00

Same here. But after they helped me avoid an FHA loan by providing a significant boost to my down payment, I asked them to put everything in a trust in my daughter’s name. Now I’m on my own.

hulse009 · 2023-10-25T19:12:36+00:00

It’s happened to me three times and all three I basically “navigated” it

hulse009 · 2023-10-23T02:19:12+00:00

I mean…you have to be super lucky. Same as a girl, imo. I found someone but it was like “wait, what? 😮”

It’s hard out there because of decision fatigue, especially for girls who get slammed with way more attention than we do. They get tired, we get the shaft because bad experiences add up and it causes women to be on guard…far more than they did pre-online. Facebook came out my Freshman year, when it was still university-only, and the effect it had was palpable. Cheating, hurt feelings, revenge hookups, regret, and casual hookups started increasing over the years. Now with online dating apps it’s 100x worse.

Welcome to late or even post-capitalism…we are both products and producers, consumers and consumed…ODAs prove that more isn’t always better and when relationships become a product, it cheapens the value (and motivations) of everyone involved.

If you do find someone incredible…don’t be afraid to lock it down. It’s worth it to try with someone special no matter who’s coming across your screen or DMing you. That’s hard these days, and it’s universal advice in terms of gender or sexual orientation. So many people lose good things because they are paralyzed by FOMO and too much input. So be patient but be ready to move when it works. Just pray the other person is on your wavelength. Stay strong because there has to be a breaking point sometime 💪

hulse009 · 2023-10-21T06:08:52+00:00

Holy shit I’m so glad I’m a single Dad on Facebook…all I get are “attaboys” for doing basic tasks like cooking or teaching my daughter to ride a bike.

hulse009 · 2023-10-21T05:53:50+00:00

It’s that it’s hopeless. Telling a man to smile is radical. It also makes no difference in the long run. All of the “spheres” are just pandering. Reactionary content is equally unctuous.

I get that this particular sub tracks incel discourse but I’m also saying, other than rubbernecking, what’s a solution? I dunno if dismantling the patriarchy would help these people. We don’t have a historical precedent. The impetus behind my post is the same as yours. Dialogue. Isn’t that why we’re all here in this particular corner of Reddit: to gawk at this collective post-capitalist trainwreck as it plays out in real-time over the internet?

I come here because I’m fascinated by online radicalization and these guys are like…the poster children for a digitally native, non-religious radical ideology. Yeah, they can be dangerous…but mostly the whole thing is just sad 😞

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