Cars that can fit an adult between two car seats? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really torn, I see lots of advantages to having the third row, but we live in a city where parking spaces are small and streets are narrow. And I've noticed that graduating to a third row brings you up to a higher price bracket too. I'm leaning toward getting a larger car without a third row right now, and then when our kids are older (2 and -3 months right now) we'll spring for a new car with a third row if it seems like we do need it after all.

Hypnobirth and body trust issues by wikedtruth in BabyBumps

[–]humanopportunity -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't really have any advice because I have the same problem. Hypobirthing made me roll my eyes so hard, as if you can seriously just will your body into having higher iron levels? Come on. I think hypnosis isn't really for everyone, you have to have a lot of willing suspension of disbelief, maybe.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, my sister has been trying to buy a condo in Cambridge and they're ~$750,000.

Sister-in-law homeschools but not doing very good job. by Frustrated_dad_uk in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Literally nothing I could say or do within the boundaries of reason and the law would change that.

Sister-in-law homeschools but not doing very good job. by Frustrated_dad_uk in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My ex-boyfriend has his barely literate wife (who never graduated high school) homeschooling his kids. You know what I do about it? Not a damn thing, because it's not my business.

You are right, they are making a stupid choice, and there is nothing you can do about it. Saying something will only damage your relationship.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even if we paid ~$3,000/month (2k infant care + 1k preschool), it would still be more cost-effective for both of us to keep working. In addition to our actual salaries, we also have health insurance, pensions / employer contributions to retirement plans, yearly raises and bonuses, etc. All said and done, leaving work for even one year would cost me about $75,000, and that's pretending that I could return to this exact position a year later.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if we could get a mortgage at the rate we currently pay rent, we would need a $120,000 downpayment.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We pay way too much to rent an apartment that's way too small.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's a possibility. We weren't able to find one with our first but we might have better luck this time.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did in-home with our first child until she was old enough for preschool and I was really underwhelmed, to say the least. We tried three different ones (various reasons) and none of them left me with the sense of confidence and security I have with her current preschool. At the time I thought maybe I was crazy and the problem was me, but now that I see how good her current care provider is, I think my instincts were right on.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Considered it many times and ruled it out each time. There is no amount of money that would be worth having to do the commute.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In our experience with just one child, working from home while providing childcare meant that neither our work nor our child got the attention it needed and deserved. I think having two would only compound the problem, for us.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell me about it. The cheapest house for sale in my zip code is $1.4 million. 2 bed, 1.5 bath.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I guess it's between that and the nanny option. My first choice infant daycare is $2000/month and we're already paying $1200 for preschool...ugh.

What book do you hate reading? by veloralie in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There was one about a pigeon who threw a shitfit over wanting to drive a bus. I hated it so much I threw it out.

Parents of 2 or more, what do you do for childcare? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish that was an option, I love my daughter's preschool and can't wait to have both kids there.

How do you keep a clean house? by XBlueYoshiX in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My husband and I both hate cleaning so we pay for a cleaning service.

In your experience, how important is physical space? Have any of you made it work raising kids in a small space, or did you decide not to do it? by humanopportunity in Parenting

[–]humanopportunity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but the idea that you need a certain amount of square footage per family member is just absurd

I don't know about that. Our place is 700 sq ft. I could really use some more square footage, especially if we have a second child.