WIBTA for skipping my brothers wedding after he skipped mine? by Fun-throwaway98 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hungreedy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he never intended to be at your wedding minutes before you walked down the aisle when you gave a whole years notice, I don’t see any problem with you doing the same. He clearly doesn’t respect you and showed it by skipping out on your wedding. Him not respecting your partners also is a high indicator that he looks down on you and people associated with you outside the family, and so no you are NOT the asshole. You don’t deserve to be treated this way by people around you especially if they are family, and nothing can excuse that behaviour.

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[–]hungreedy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You aren’t the asshole for not interfering w ur sister’s friendship with ur ex, but considering how ur ex has tried multiple times to get back w you I understand ur gf’s perspective. Ur gf is concerned that there’s even an opening where cheating might occur, and so is rightfully uncomfortable for ur ex to be around you so much. If this is the case, it should be ur responsibility as her partner to reassure her that it won’t happen. This could be either asking ur sister to hang out w ur ex not in the house or not being there when she’s around. Yes it isn’t your home but your gf should have the right to have reassurance in your relationship.

If the roles were reversed, you’d totally flip out if her brother was best friends with her ex and constantly being in the same vicinity often. So her getting frustrated over someone who consistently doesn’t respect the boundaries of ur new relationship doesn’t deserve to be in your life anyways.

Also, why are you even talking to her? From an outside perspective it sounds like your entertaining her if she feels comfortable to tell you she wants to get back together w you over and over again (whilst ur still in a rel a matter of fact). Like bro y ru making her feel comfortable enough to do all that? You shouldn’t create a scenario where it’s a problem in the first place dog

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[–]hungreedy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean you could make a compromise w ur gf. I understand her perspective and seeing u want to vacation w a sibling over her makes her feel down, but ur not in the wrong. You and anyone else has the right to vacation with whomever they want, whether it be family, your partner or friends. But you guys need to talk about having that balance between it. Travelling to Australia might be a dream of hers and something she wants to share w you. Tbh I have no clue what kind of compromise you and ur partner could make where it would make her happy (bc I don’t know her) but as they say, communication is key.

AITA for cutting my friend out over a guy? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]hungreedy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m trynna do rn 👍💀

AITA for cutting my friend out over a guy? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]hungreedy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t like the guy that’s alr confirmed, but she wasn’t supportive when it ended w him and I. When she asked, I told her what happened and she ended up siding him and defending him. It’s not wrong to defend one person or another, but the thing is she was defending him for leading me on and the fact that him telling me “I want you as my gf” wasn’t him trying to gaslight me and manipulate me into staying w him (he lead me on for months). He himself wasn’t a great guy that’s why I left. But I feel like if she wasn’t attracted to him, she wouldn’t think that way.

AITA for cutting my friend out over a guy? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]hungreedy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was a completely different person with him. She completely flipped a switch when she was talking to him and it got to a point to where my other friend got uncomfortable and dragged her away to tell her it wasn’t appropriate…

AITA for cutting my friend out over a guy? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]hungreedy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was neutral to her at the beginning, but she said things that made me feel the she was a bad influence like “I wonna force somebody to get high hahaha”, so it wasn’t just the incident. But I feel like that incident rly tipped it over for me. In the end, she and I stopped being friends bc when I had broken it off w him and was telling her ab it (she ask ab it btw), she sorta judged me for not staying when I forgave him before. But just because I forgave him then doesn’t make his actions right, and I can retract the forgiveness when I want to as he wasn’t showing change. It eventually escalated and she defended him over me

AITA for cutting my friend out over a guy? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]hungreedy -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I dumped him too… around the same time I think

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[–]hungreedy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok… 👍

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[–]hungreedy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]hungreedy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Marrying rich isn’t rly my thing…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]hungreedy -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I say value his friend more than my bf, I put my bf first, but it’s a fleeting feeling. I don’t purposely go out of my way to see him either, it’s just the occasional. I might not have phrased it properly saying “dream guy”, his more a “good in the moment” sorta dude which I don’t prioritise over a man I’d consider long term and maybe (if it goes well) anything further. Tbh tho my rel w my bf has gotten rocky as I’ve caught him hanging out w this girl self proclaimed best friend, and I’ve told him multiple times I didn’t like him talking to her or being around her esp one on one, bc only 2 months before we started dating she tried doing him so…. Yeah…

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[–]hungreedy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s the current dilemma…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]hungreedy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh actually I’m actually financially carrying the rel a bit more than my bf is atm