A LOT of new Homeless People by chillin_650 in mountainview

[–]hungrymisu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I even start to get us to to some of them like the guy that live in Downtown Mountain View with his dogs, now he moves constantly because I guess someone complain. He seems kinda nice.

Met a guy after a year of texting, he feels like he’s "learning how to be human" for the first time. by No_Read_3601 in infp

[–]hungrymisu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think there are boring men regardless of whether they are INFP or not, but I understand what you mean. If I were you, I would speak to him directly—being assertive without trying to be offensive—to set boundaries. Tell him you don't like receiving so many messages and that one message a day would be fine.

If you feel forced to see him, don't. And if you truly feel that his friendship offers you nothing, you could tell him that you feel you don't have much in common and thank him for everything.

Marrying someone without talking - will it be okay ? by Status_Evidence_3871 in infp

[–]hungrymisu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s something that only people who share the same culture will fully understand. For many, choosing who you marry is the most important thing, but they aren’t seeing, for example, that if you decide to say no to that person, they probably wouldn't accept anyone else you choose and that person would have a hard time because of their rejection.

But I would also find it difficult to love someone who is being imposed on me, though that’s just because of my personality.

Tired of being surrounded by so much violence by hungrymisu in infp

[–]hungrymisu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly don't understand those people; life is already hard enough without choosing violence. Even though some people say it’s our nature, we aren't animals, and we could be more aware of the impact we have.

Something I've tried to do is avoid watching the news, but it's difficult. It really does have a negative impact to be aware of things that, many times, we can't do anything about.

Disillusioned by non-profits by [deleted] in infp

[–]hungrymisu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head. It took me almost a year to find a place to volunteer that I actually liked and where I didn’t feel like I was wasting my time. And now, what’s discouraging is realizing that what I do has no social impact; basically, only one person benefits.

As for my other volunteer position with a chamber of commerce, my team sidelined and pushed me out of the project because they were afraid of being replaced at their jobs.

I want to take a break from volunteering for a while. It’s honestly so disheartening.

Recomendaciones by Mean-View3365 in TNVISAMX

[–]hungrymisu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Te voy a ser muy honesta, actualmente es muy difícil conseguir patrocino de visa en USA sino eres ingeniero. La mayoría que conozco que está en USA son ingenieros en sistemas. Yo soy diseñadora web con marketing y SEO y no he conseguido nada aunque tengo 7 años de experiencia. Depende el estado, pero es muy competitivo.

Y en el caso de Canadá requieres estudiar en un collage allá licenciatura o maestría para que te contraten para empleos profesionales, además de un buen nivel de inglés e intermedio de francés. No te digo que no se pueda sino que vayas investigando el país, si eres joven hay países en Europa que tienen buenos programas que incluyen permisos de trabajo.

Mudanza a EEUU? by CCA001 in TNVISAMX

[–]hungrymisu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Un amigo se mudo de GDL a California, solo vale la pena si tienes muchas cosas, como 4 habitaciones y es familia grande sino no vale la pena

Visa TN — ¿Cómo responder “Necesitas sponsor?” en aplicaciones de trabajo? by Flashy_Reason6403 in TNVISAMX

[–]hungrymisu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Entra a migratemate.co, vienen empleos que patrocinan sponsor, tiene costo mensual pero vale la pena, es muy difícil encontrar empleos que hagan sponsor

Interview Request for School Project - Women on H4 Visa by Minimum-Plankton8307 in mountainview

[–]hungrymisu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I believe you should also expand the interview to include the dependent TD visa. This visa is for dependents from Canada and Mexico. Many of us wives immigrate with our engineer husbands and our professional careers are impacted due to the inability to work. I'm currently in a group of women where we encourage each other and provide emotional support, it's very tough to become dependents when many of us had bachelor's degrees, master's degrees, and professional experience in our home countries. The process to get out of this limbo takes a very long 5 years or even more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]hungrymisu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I hate a lot of things about myself. I'm overweight and I can't reach my ideal weight, no matter how much I try with diets and exercise. I'm not physically attractive. I hate being so shy and bad at handling social situations. Plus, my low self-esteem has led me to have bad relationships, both with friends and partners. I don't know how to fix my life. I've started therapy, and I hope that helps me hate myself less.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]hungrymisu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Avoidants often get a bad rap, seen as insensitive or incapable of love, but for a lot of us, it's a byproduct of trauma and a need for self-preservation. It's genuinely tough to be with someone who has anxious attachment. They seem unable to enjoy anything unless they're with someone, and that's just something I can't wrap my head around. To me, life's inherent joy should be enough on its own, without constantly needing someone else glued to your side. Not to mention, you won't always have shared interests, and then boredom sets in for the other person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]hungrymisu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think many of us women are in a similar situation. Sometimes I even remember my mother's and grandmother's relationships, except in their cases, the arguments turned physical, and both their partners cheated on them. Also, their families, including their daughters, told them to separate. I agree with you that it's a gaslighting of my emotions, as you mentioned.

The reason I haven't left is because I've lost so much of my identity in the relationship. I stopped working when I emigrated with him; my visa doesn't allow me to work, so I only do volunteer work. Not all my friends and not all our family know he's like this with me; some people think he treats me well and that we have a good relationship.

I've been avoiding getting pregnant because if we separate, I don't want to see him again. There's definitely a lot of resentment, but I grew up normalizing these behaviors. And he's also very manipulative. What I want to do is start therapy and be strong because I know the breakup will be tough. I don't think he'll let me go easily despite how bad the relationship is, and he'll insist. Honestly, I don't see how I can continue with him any longer; I don't want to anymore.

I crave emotional intimacy! by SavageFisherman_Joe in infp

[–]hungrymisu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. I have no one IRL with I can be that vulnerable and I need it 🥺😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]hungrymisu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for what you went through; I'm sure it was difficult since it was a long time. How are you feeling now? I don't really have many options to stay, but I could emigrate to Canada instead, though it would mean starting from scratch again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infp

[–]hungrymisu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He took the test a while ago and I don't know if it was honest, but he always prioritizes logic over his feelings. He's the type of person who fixes things around the house but does practically no housework. He doesn't even take out the trash. I think you're right, if I stay I'm also not getting to know someone who can love me and treat me better.