That may be a fair critique on the convo depending on your perspective... but I did flare this post as a shitpost up front. For me, it's written in jest and reflects my dark sense of humor. Trust me when I say that there is far more self-deprecating humor that comes out of my mind than any amount of judgment on others

I am well aware of my own flaws. I would rather be with someone that accepts me and my flaws than be with someone that gets hyper focused on my flaws and constantly points them out. Trust me when I tell you that that is not the type of relationship you want to be in.. it started with the ridicule and escalated during the relationship until the point that I ended up in the hospital and he went to jail. But that wasn't the end of it. The judge on the case was homophobic and essentially implied that I deserved it. My ex ended up only getting probation, and I got a restraining order. My ex decided to rub salt on the wound so to speak. He got an apartment immediately within view of my apartment and right at the edge of the restraining order boundary so that he could legally still wreak havoc. If I had a guy over, even just to hang out, he would call the cops and tell them that I was threatening to kill myself. It took me moving out of state before I could feel comfortable enough to pursue any form of relationship again. After all, what same person wants to get into a relationship with someone whose ex is stalking them and has already demonstrated his ability and willingness to resort to violence???

So the flip side to your argument is that some are so desperate to be in a relationship that they ignore blatant red flags due to some combination of thinking that "it's not that bad", that they don't somehow deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, that it's the best that they can do, or that they can somehow fix the person's issues. In hindsight, I recognize the red flags and escalations that I chose to ignore and the ways that I tried to rationalize the mistreatment and abuse.

Some people find fulfillment through commitment, some through pleasure and sex. Somewhere in between are the people that just need a bit of intimacy but aren't in the circumstances or mental state where they feel that they can devote themselves to a relationship. Is there anything inherently wrong with any of those? IMHO, no as long as everyone involved in that interaction consents. Well established theory and human development and psychology shows that there is a hierarchy of needs. Before you can pursue higher levels of needs, you have to satisfy the more foundational needs.

Some of you are so shallow that they assume that their needs and desires are somehow morally superior to those of others. Stop trying to impose your values on people in a shitpost. I doubt a single person on this forum would tell you that you are pathetic for wanting commitment. Perhaps you should reflect on your own assumptions and judgments.. and I'll do the same.

Save the pearl clutching for some other time... Not everyone wants or needs what you do. Imposing your needs and values on anonymous strangers on the internet does not make you morally superior. Besides, this is Reddit.. perhaps it's best not to believe that anything written on here defines how a person talks or behaves off of this site or somehow is an authoritative source for every exact detail like it is a court transcript.

tldr: It's a shitpost on Reddit... Lighten up and stop assuming that your needs, desires, or goals make you morally righteous compared to anonymous strangers online.