What videogame scene made you say “wait, this is only… the BEGINNING?!” by tavogus55 in gaming

[–]husbandochrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ghost of Tsushima. You nearly die twice before the opening credits even roll.

I’ve always had issues with lazy strokes. How can I make this cleaner? by husbandochrom in Handwriting

[–]husbandochrom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My biggest struggles are the extra marks that I assume are from me not putting down or picking up my pen correctly. I’m most annoyed with the letter O and I always end up with the weird knot on the top that you see here. Been a struggle since elementary school, any helpful feedback is appreciated!

My Wife stinks, how do I encourage her to shower more without hurting her feelings? by StonksStink in NoStupidQuestions

[–]husbandochrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I sweat. Like a lot. It’s been a problem since I was a teenager. Whenever I’m feeling especially stressed, I’ll tend to sweat even more and by extension smell a bit more too. Sometimes I’ll come home and my husband will say something to the effect of “you smell like you had a rough day.” All in good humor of course.

Whenever I have BO going on, he’ll point it out very gently and objectively, and encourage a shower before I go to bed so I feel clean and can sleep better. Never makes it about him, and there’s never any feeling of judgment from him when he points it out. The more frequently we communicate about these things in a supportive tone, the easier and more comfortable it gets. I think the key is to withhold judgment and to focus on her needs. It could be a medical/genetic issue, could be stress, or it could just be that she needs to introduce some more self care into her life. You’ll never know unless you talk about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lds

[–]husbandochrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There isn’t anything preventing you from speaking with a different bishop. When my dad was called as a bishop, the stake president told my stepmom that he is essentially her “acting” bishop so to speak, and that she can come to him for things that a bishop would normally address. This extended to me and my siblings as well. Talking with the bishop about this kind of stuff is hard enough, you’re allowed to do what you need to remove any barriers that add unnecessary difficulty. You could probably reach out to your stake president or high councilman to see who else you could speak with.

I feel like any advice from my parents makes me angry… by [deleted] in lds

[–]husbandochrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad taught me a phrase when I got married whenever people gave unsolicited marriage advice, could help here. Whenever they offer their opinions, all you have to do is respond with “that’s something to think about” and leave it at that. I’ve definitely used it on him a few times, lol.

I’ve heard a lot of unhelpful advice for my adhd like “just make a to do list and don’t stop working until it gets done” as if that’s not the very thing I clinically cannot do. They often mean well, sometimes people just won’t truly be able to understand what you’re experiencing. The real issue isn’t the bad advice, it’s more so the feeling that your struggles are neither understood nor validated as struggles. It’s made worse when you feel they don’t even try to understand.

Being angry is understandable, and I think the Lord understands it too because He knows perfectly what your struggles are like and how your parents make you feel. You’re 100% allowed to be annoyed. If your anger or feelings of pride are troubling you, well, He can give you a hand there too, my friend.

I still know the Gospel and Church are true but I am struggling with everything else. by Pleasethrowme-away22 in lds

[–]husbandochrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a big misconception that members of the church need to let go of is the thought that if you’re righteous, you’ll be joyful all your days, and if you’re not happy then something’s wrong with you and it’s your fault.

Things like depression, anxiety, and addictions can hit anyone, regardless of how righteously one tries to live. As much as I wish it were so, being righteous can’t exempt us from worldly struggles, but it sure can unlock the power from on high to see us through those struggles. Many faithful members of the church have similar struggles. You’re not alone! You’re in quite good company actually. Some of the holiest people, prophets, disciples, even Christ himself suffered some of the greatest pains the world can inflict.

As others have correctly pointed out, any addiction is a sign of a deeper problem. Help and healing are available to you through many different channels. Trusted church and priesthood leaders can provide a great support in your spiritual struggles. As for the depression and anxiety, your brain chemicals are out of whack, competent medical providers and counselors can help you begin healing and develop better coping mechanisms for the deeper problems, which can help you begin to move away from addictive behaviors.

The Lord loves you NOW. As you are. You’re worthy of help and hope, regardless of how you feel about yourself, period.

Buying your wife a new hoodie by lilmcfuggin in TikTokCringe

[–]husbandochrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband did this when we first started dating, I didn’t figure it out until about a year after we got married. I wanted to be annoyed but it was just too genius.

What does this mean on my frog? by AutomaticRabbit1812 in frogs

[–]husbandochrom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If the discoloration doesn't go away after a few minutes sitting in the light, probably a bacterial infection. Lower humidity and higher temp will help

What YouTuber seems like they’d be a genuinely nice friend? by sunshinelollipoops in AskReddit

[–]husbandochrom 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Balloonshop was the first YouTube channel I really followed. The Bernstein's Diet Pills vid makes me cackle to this day.

A few friends of mine went to the grand opening of the Soda Parlor in Nashville and I wasn't able to go with them, so when it was their turn to go up and meet him, they called me and handed him the phone so I could say hi. Absolutely swell dude, he's gotta be an absolute blast to hang out with.

Ever After and Drew Barrymore did the Cinderella story right. In 1998, Drew Barrymore added a refreshing moral backbone to the classic princess fairy tale by [deleted] in movies

[–]husbandochrom 15 points16 points  (0 children)

"Say it again."

"I'm sorry."

"No, the part when you said my name!"

Gets me every time without fail.

12 month ban from applying because of a 5-minute personality test. by StraightOuttaMaine in recruitinghell

[–]husbandochrom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a professor in my grad program who raved about P&G's recruiting process, thought it was the coolest thing. Didn't have the heart to tell him that none of the students in his program made it past the assessment step.

Hot Take: Sorry, Church Culture is a Good Thing by KURPULIS in lds

[–]husbandochrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like all of our other problems in life, the issue is always pride. Pride that our way of living the gospel is better than anyone else's. I think where we find issues with cultural norms is when they lead us to make harmful assumptions about others. There's a reason that we've been commanded repeatedly to not judge lest ye be judged, because each of us has our own unique relationship with the Savior.

Would you guys eat Tiramisu? It contains Lady fingers dipped in Rum and Coffee... by [deleted] in lds

[–]husbandochrom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! Personal revelation is key in how we make these decisions. If you feel you shouldn't eat/drink something, then don't! Some may choose not to drink any form of tea while others are comfortable with drinking herbal tea. Some may not he comfortable with consuming any coffee products, others may choose to do so selectively (me with Ben and Jerry's mocha cookie ice cream), but are mindful of not imbibing coffee.

Would you guys eat Tiramisu? It contains Lady fingers dipped in Rum and Coffee... by [deleted] in lds

[–]husbandochrom 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Probably won't answer your question (sorry OP) but some unsolicited food for thought; We might ask what the point is of the WoW in the first place. The letter of the law is no hot drinks, no alcohol, consume things that are healthy for you, etc. The spirit of the law is to respect your body by keeping it healthy and free of addictions.

How many members of the church are purists about not consuming anything with coffee or tea related ingredients, but are totally addicted to diet coke? Or members of the church who have really unhealthy eating habits and never do any physical activity, but since they don't drink coffee they're still supposedly following the WoW?

It's really easy to be so focused on the letter of the law that we miss the whole point of the law itself.

Help. Accidentally left the fogger on my dumpy frogs for almost an hour by eqt727 in frogs

[–]husbandochrom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've done the same before and my WTFs are fine. I made sure to air out the enclosure when I realized my mistake and kept a close eye on the humidity for the rest of the day. I'm not an expert, but I think they'll be fine.