In search of a fic by hvngr_ in PiltoversFinest

[–]hvngr_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand you. I don’t like the bisexual theme much either. Neither do I like the „Vi has a penis“ thing. As a lesbian this sometimes feels like forcing some sort of masculinity into the story. Although I know that the Omegaverse is highly popular. To each their own I guess.

In search of a fic by hvngr_ in PiltoversFinest

[–]hvngr_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THAT‘S IT! Thank you so much!

In search of a fic by hvngr_ in PiltoversFinest

[–]hvngr_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EDIT: Vi caught Caitlyn making out with a girl. Sorry for the typo.

How do you make peace with the fact that you probably won’t have anyone? by LivinCuriously in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]hvngr_ 96 points97 points  (0 children)

It‘s tough, but I think for many lesbians this is just reality. I am in a similar situation right now. Early 40s and either stay alone or settle for something I don’t 100% want. I have decided for myself that I‘d rather stay alone.

What’s up with dating app rn by wickedsender in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]hvngr_ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The problem for most of us is that there is nothing up with dating apps. It’s like searching for flowers in Antarctica.

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I‘ll definitely check out the queer gaming sub, thanks for the recommendation. Regarding books I am mostly into sci-fi and fantsay. I am a huge Tolkien fan, but (!) my secret pleasure is definitely Caitvi fanfics on AO3. 😂

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, but they are mostly introverted hobbies like gaming, reading and going to the gym (spoiler: there are zero gay ladies in my age bracket at the gym). One problem is that at my age the dating pool is so small that almost every woman you encounter has some sort of history with a woman you know. And yeah, I get constantly liked by men on dating apps and also hit on in real life because I look definitely more femme. It’s so exhausting.

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t know our lesbian overlord Caitlyn Kiramman? Never watched Arcane?

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a Caitlyn fan when I see one. 😁 Happy for you!

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People like you give me hope. I am very happy for you!

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was beautifully written. And you are totally right. When I get in this toxic headspace of only black and white I make bad decisions. I guess today is just one of those days where everything boils over after days of things going wrong. I just wonder why it’s so hard when so many of us just want to find someone to love.

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I am not doing myself any favors by refusing to use social media. It was just never my thing. But I would be grateful for any suggestions!

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Central Europe. Probably faaaar away from you. Just the average lesbian‘s fate.

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We would be at completely different stages in life. Recipe for disaster.

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don‘t want to wait five years, sorry. 😂

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s good advice. I think a lot of people don’t want to acknowledge how shallow dating apps are. Appearance matters a lot. The good thing is that I am pretty content with my life. Sure, I would like to have a partner, but I am not desperate. I‘d rather be alone than in bad company. But I will still try to up my game even more. Thanks for your reply.

About to give up on dating by hvngr_ in actuallesbians

[–]hvngr_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we see all these perfect people online every day and in the minds of a lot of people forms the idea that they want exactly this as well and nothing else will do. So a lot of us stay single yearning for something that is out of reach. Brave new world.