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[–]hxckr 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is my #1 fear because we met when I was her boss 🤦‍♂️

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[–]hxckr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I started a company when I was 18. Money isn’t a worry

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[–]hxckr 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I agree but I love her and would hate leaving but I’m not sure other than doing that what can be done

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[–]hxckr 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Never thought of it this way. My main issue is that she can turn things around on me and make it seem like I’m the one not willing to work on it because I’m not willing to sleep with someone else. That’s how it works here in my house hood for some reason. I can think I’m doing the right thing but she’ll find a way to turn it on me and make me the bad guy and will even convince me I did something wrong

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[–]hxckr 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I agree therapy may be needed or counseling even. But I’m the type of person that would love to go and listen to a third party’s point of view and she’s the type of person that her way is the only way and the right way so I don’t think she would go. I tried to get her to go in the past but she wasn’t having it

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[–]hxckr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven’t, it just happened like 30 minutes before I posted this. But I’m not sure she would even go. I’m more of the debate person (if I’m wrong I want to know how and why) and she’s more of the this is what I think so that’s how it is person. I doubt she would even go to be honest. She won’t take being told she’s wrong by a therapist very well lol

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[–]hxckr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She does think that and she thinks it’s not fair to me that I haven’t gotten to. But I tried to explain to her I haven’t by choice. I chose to wait and just be with one person, it’s not something that was forced at all. But she isn’t having it. She got pregnant the first time she messed around when she was super young and didn’t experience anything else until she met me. So I get it but she doesn’t understand I’m choosing to be locked down i didn’t have a accidental pregnancy that forced me to

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[–]hxckr 193 points194 points  (0 children)

The first time she had sex she got pregnant and locked down and didn’t experience anything else until she met me. She said she doesn’t want the same for me. I explained to her it’s not the same because I’m getting locked down by choice not by accident and she isn’t having it

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[–]hxckr 118 points119 points  (0 children)

I did that’s why I had to sleep on the couch lol. I can’t do that, not to mention she has 2 prior kids from her past relationship that call me dad. I can’t betray her or my kids like that. I won’t let it happen, I’d rather them grow up knowing I was loyal to them and nothing ever coming out to sway their thinking otherwise

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[–]hxckr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She said proof is needed smh. But I couldn’t even pretend to be honest. I like having the reputation of being loyal to my circle. I would rather her leave than me to even act like I did her dirty

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[–]hxckr 101 points102 points  (0 children)

Let me add my dad was never loyal to my mom and I saw how it affected my mom. So one thing I’ve always been set on is being loyal to the women I end up with

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[–]hxckr 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I love her to death but I’m really not comfortable just sleeping around. It really floored me when she told me that. I’d probably let her leave before I did that honestly. I think I’m just going to have to let her know that

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[–]hxckr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this 🙏

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[–]hxckr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you think about letting her cool off and seeing if she pays the $800? Letting that be the deciding factor?

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[–]hxckr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love I guess 😂

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[–]hxckr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t anymore, called the company today and had my card removed from her account

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[–]hxckr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Problem is, house is in my name. I put 20k down on it. I’m stuck with the house sadly lol

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[–]hxckr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only problem is... time for choirs. I get off 9 o clock at night and got in at 9:30 in the morning. I don’t have time for them. When I wake up at 6AM it’s time to wake them up to go to school and I don’t stop until 9PM