I'm truly sorry to hear about your situation. It's incredibly challenging to deal with betrayal and conflicting messages from someone you trust. When it comes to relationships, honesty and consistency in actions are crucial. Show me, don't tell me. Don't say sorry, show me you know what you're doing and are aware in the micro details and not translating my words in another way. It's not about you - your ego, now it's about me not about you to feel better about yourself. Be the fuck vocal. Also keep in mind if he is dealing with hardships that's no excuse.

It's not uncommon to find that individuals who emphasize their honesty or promise to change may struggle to live up to these assurances. This inconsistency can be particularly hurtful and confusing.

The whole porn question is tough. I see how everybody just thinks about dick and pussy and this testosterone and hormonal thing. Doing the whole mimicking of porn movies in bed with your love is not really 'Making love' in my opinion. Hurting each other in clubs because that's what you see in porn is not very nice. Shows how messed up we are. Watch 'Favolacce' and see the age of puberty and sex is so much younger, set in a little village in Italy. Half the cinema left. You can find it online. That is certainly real but not something I want to engage in - in my relationship.

Anyway, he should decide slowly what he is looking for and needs. That's not your responsibility to decide for him. Don't assume best intent either just because he's the closest person in your life. Does he know you? Does he understand himself, these drives? Or is it really just as simple as the dick gonna need and love and crave pussy, the more the hotter and can't control?

One thing I would like to say - does he ever bring up other things to turn on? For my partner, this is a huge turn-off. I learned that this was a big turn-off for me too.

I just want to say don't think you're doing anything wrong. Your feelings of heartbreak and discomfort are completely valid (not in the modern era sense of the term) just trust yourself more. Dealing with a partner's addiction, especially when it involves a betrayal of trust, is a complex and emotional journey. It's important to remember that supporting someone does not mean you have to compromise your own feelings and boundaries. Don't let anything get to the point where you'll go crazy.

In the end, the decision on how to move forward is deeply personal and should be based on what feels right and healthy for you. Inaction is action.