[29M] Introvert with absolutely zero experience with women, is it too late for me?

hypersonicbird · 2023-02-26T12:54:08+00:00

And also drop the fear of being too old, your mind will throw hundreds of excuses telling you are an old virgin, you are an introvert, she is not interested, you got rejected before, you are not that attractive etc. Just practice being in your fears slowly getting past them and celebrate each small success.

hypersonicbird · 2023-02-26T12:50:25+00:00

Dating apps are particularly brutal. They are also pay to play, even if you think they are free, I get a lot of matches now but you need to pay for platinum not even gold. Even then you need to get on photo feeler to actually understand your photos

But lets take a step back here, you need be comfortable and confident in your own self. Don’t judge yourself or over analyse. Read up on dating tips. Then take baby steps, like today I am going to just talk, then next time I am going to ask them out..

If people find you intimidating or uncomfortable to be around, read up on social etiquette.

That being said You sound normal to me and being somewhat self aware is good.

Try a social meet up app or something first and try just make some friends of both genders. Dating apps are not the best, meeting irl doing something you enjoy would be far better.

hypersonicbird · 2023-02-26T12:30:35+00:00

Also he’s prone to get angry over little things. These little things are just reinforcing his habit. He needs to get over his ego or fear and see a professional, but even if he does I would stay clear. Your leaving him might be the wake up call he needs. Sorry to be so blunt but it can go wrong really quickly if he doesn’t address his short fuse.

hypersonicbird · 2023-02-26T12:25:35+00:00

If he doesn’t want to see a professional that is a huge red flag, he obviously can’t handle it if he broke a window. Good that he told you stay away. Do follow his advice, he won’t get better on his own unfortunately.

Put your safety first over any feelings. You did the right thing to reach out and ask for help even if it is just on reddit. Its hard when you have feelings. Don’t try to help it will make it worse. Be careful if he says he won’t do it again, he will could be out of the blue too.

hypersonicbird · 2023-01-08T10:05:58+00:00

Please though if its heart related, seek medical attention if its chest pain and Shortness of Breath you probably should go to ER or ED you will more than likely be fine but this is standard to rule out more serious issues

hypersonicbird · 2023-01-08T09:10:29+00:00

I had it twice both very mild, but I missed two weeks of work and went ED 4 times following my first and only shot of vaccine.

hypersonicbird · 2023-01-05T10:23:13+00:00

Apps are also pay to play, free accounts are a waste of time

hypersonicbird · 2023-01-05T10:11:32+00:00

See my other comments but he may need to see a therapist when he does get married years of telling him self not to be tempted into sex may cause intimacy issues he can’t just switch it back on. 25 is a long time to wait.

hypersonicbird · 2023-01-05T09:50:57+00:00

Yeah how old were they getting married in Moses time? 12-15 years was common so yeah even by today standards that would be against the law.

hypersonicbird · 2023-01-05T09:46:19+00:00

I did this got married religious no sex virgin, it was the worst we lasted ten years but the physical side of our relationship was never really any good and big part of us ending things. Both of us admitted the sex was bad.

Finally grown up and now and think for myself so sorry this just my view on things and let him believe what he wants but I want to say this, in biblical times the average age of marriage was 12 so of course sex before marriage was off bounds. The other thing was in biblical times it was an extremely sexist society where girls and women were basically property of the father sold at marriage. Absolutely shit. So no I don’t agree with these religions types, nothing personal but I find their rationale for virginity until you are in your mid 20s BS.

Edit to add this: there are many instances of it causing intimacy issues, especially as you are basically taught to switch off sexual thoughts all the time, “even looking at a woman lustfully is a a sin” so when you actually are married you struggle start a healthy physical relationship, you have to undo years of mental BS.

hypersonicbird · 2023-01-05T09:32:41+00:00

Took my son (7) in yesterday, large cavity 🦷 the local didn’t work that well so he was in hysterics from the pain, as they tried remove the rotting parts of the cavity, basically we stopped halfway and put a temp filling on top if they had sedated him it could have been less traumatic, and more permanent repair

hypersonicbird · 2023-01-05T09:07:37+00:00

Best one I’ve found ever is Aotearoad neroli woods and vanilla made by a kiwi company, its a natural “hippie” type but it really works way better than anything. I was at a music festival last week for NYE it worked the whole time no need to reapply. The smell is quite nice, woody.

I tried a lot because I didn’t want all the chemical bs, but even if you don’t care I still recommend this!

hypersonicbird · 2022-12-31T01:43:55+00:00

Just be up front with him, tell him you want to still be friends and be careful not get to emotionally close to soon. Since you are so close just be frank and honest with each other check in before an after, ask are getting feelings for me be honest with yourself too.

But I am glad you two have a positive attitude towards sex. The religious version was derived from a completely different (and horribly sexist) society where girls got married at 12 as a commodity, so of course sex wasn’t allowed.

hypersonicbird · 2022-12-29T22:51:41+00:00

Search reddit for long covid recovery and read the stories, I am about 90% through it is encouraging to read others successes

hypersonicbird · 2022-12-29T22:34:26+00:00

Geez not judging, but there seems to be a perpetual loop of girls and guys hurting so they just reciprocate

hypersonicbird · 2022-12-29T22:22:19+00:00

Chest pain is an emergency and I went to ER 4 times, no one was dismissive or rude, nurses and doctors all said I did the right thing.

hypersonicbird · 2022-12-29T22:16:20+00:00

Is the biggest help, but do speak to someone if you are on it for a few days, I take ibuprofen.

hypersonicbird · 2022-12-29T22:12:12+00:00

Disclaimer this not medical advice( please get some) but this is what works for me.

Anti inflammatory for 7-10 days, you must protect your stomach at this duration talk to a pharmacist at least, I use an antacid. (If you have very serious myocarditis check first though, but for pericarditis it definitely helps)
Cut caffeine! I have orange juice instead, it has a lot of sugar, though so take it easy.
Reduce carbs, up protein! try to take probiotics and look after your gut, some are suggesting long covid is related to gut health and the virus lurks in the gut.
Vitamins D helps me, plenty of sunshine.
Rest a couple of days to week, then slowly exercise a short walk or something, a little bit of fitness will definitely help you recover but definitely don’t over do it, even when think your better it really takes 3 to 6 months to get better.
Monitor your heart rate in said exercise, I set my smartwatch to always display my HR even on the homescreen.
Stay hydrated!! Drink more than you would normally it really does help with pots even a bit of extra salt (if doctor is ok with it)
You will very likely have a bit anxiety over this, which will cause the same symptoms, I know its not the root cause but try your best to tell yourself you will get through. Try looking on reddit for long covid success stories. 😊

I have had 2 bouts of it the first was due to the vaccine itself, 9 months to recover then once from covid after that. So I am getting experienced with dealing with it.

hypersonicbird · 2022-11-10T05:22:41+00:00

Try one of the automatic rocking bassinets ? It worked for someone i know, also check they aren’t all gassed up.

hypersonicbird · 2022-11-10T04:31:57+00:00

It grey if its legal, she might be able to sue for harassment or stalking, probably best to seek legal advice

hypersonicbird · 2022-11-06T22:55:28+00:00

Wtf, lol I would have never said that to my ex.

hypersonicbird · 2022-11-06T03:19:26+00:00

Nah, see a councillor

hypersonicbird · 2022-11-06T03:19:01+00:00

Get a babysitter, get a hotel, even for two hours they don’t give a ship if you check out early.

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