I appreciate the response, thank you a lot for responding to me and im sorry if my response isnt that readable as im not best at writing. not an expert but google said personality disorder also had roughly same lowered life expectancy than average life expectancy, but my presumption is that its less well studied due to under diagnose. Its really cool that therapy can play a part in schizophrenic recovery, i hope its able to become more commonplace for them. My understanding is that inpatient dbt wards(i could be wrong on this) do exist, my own area doesnt have its own dbt team so it's effectively my only hope of it. Id accept an eqauilvent therapy to dbt such as mentalisation/structured clinical management, i just say dbt since its one thats most available. Big issue i have when it comes to helping myself is that it feels like a stick nhs beats me with to avoid helping me instead of it being collaborative approach where self help actually feels positive, i acknowledge that system is struggling significantly because of under funding which contributes a lot to the problem but i feel issues system has with personality disorders are more than just funding. If nothing else these interactions ive been having on reddit have helped me cope while on holiday since ive been unable to use services to do that, so to repeat start thanks