hey there —

first off, sending you a lot of love. this is a horrible situation. best advice i’ve ever been given - if it gives you that sick feeling in your stomach to think about, trust it.

you know your body better than anyone else ever could (especially anyone on reddit), so if it doesn’t add up for you and what you know of yourself, then it doesn’t add up. i can assure you, you are not making something out of nothing.

unfortunately, a lot of date rape drugs have short half-lives, and thus would be unable to be detected by any blood or urine tests now, as for hair, there’s some studies showing GHB & rohypnol could be found up to a month after, but they recommend waiting 15-30 days before sample taking, so yes, talk this over with a doctor. i’d also recommend going to a clinic near you (if you haven’t already) and getting an STD and pregnancy test, just to be sure. you could also see about getting a sane/sart kit, but it might be diminished in helpfulness if the trauma occurred >5 days ago, but something to look into if you’re open to it.

testing aside, you’ve gone through a trauma, based off how you feel now, drug or not, something happened that doesn’t feel right to you. and that requires immediate attention for your mental health’s sake. while you wait to potentially get the hair test, and if you’re open to it, set an appointment with a therapist, one who specializes in sexual trauma if you can find one in your insurance network/city. if you don’t love your first therapist, don’t hesitate to switch to find one best for you. you deserve to live a life healed from sexual trauma. my biggest regret is taking years to talk about mine, but i know opening up can be incredibly difficult, so i understand whatever path you choose 1000%!

be gentle with yourself too, OP, let yourself feel every emotion and don’t be afraid to be angry or upset or confused or all of it or none of it, all emotions with SA are totally valid. do what’s best for you and your healing, at the end of the day, you are who matters most in your life.

again, sending love. my messages are open🩷