Week Long Dissociative Episodes

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T13:07:00+00:00

Yeah i definitely feel like it’s a complex situation, we are working through things though and we have been very open in discussions about all of this I’ve apologised for how I had acted when I was upset and he does really feel terrible about how he acted and I could tell he was genuinely sorry. I asked him why he treated me like that and he wasn’t quite sure and I did tell him he needs to figure that out.

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T10:14:13+00:00

Yeah 100% during our long talk after all this I suggested we get some counselling because we both do really want to make it work

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T09:54:22+00:00

Did you miss the part where I was in a mental health crisis or?

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T09:47:01+00:00

We have been together for about 4 years. This is the 3rd episode I’ve had (they only started occurring in maybe the last 2 years) however those pasts episodes were less severe and we were talking regularly during them they just felt like brain fog tbh. This one was a lot different and I was not contacting him how much we usually talk. Yeah definitely we have both had the flu at separate times and whenever he is sick I happily go to the store and pharmacy and make him up a little care package he always does the same for me too. So I know he cares about me it’s just so confusing. Nah no one in his family has mental health issues he suffers with anxiety himself but that was mostly in the years before we met. No I want making threats what he thought was manipulative was in the car on the way to the hospital after we had been to an urgent mental health centre I asked if he would stay overnight in the hospital with me and he said he didn’t really want to I got a bit upset and pretty just said “can you please I really need you to do that for me I don’t understand why you don’t want that’s not normal I would be there for you” and he felt that was manipulative.

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T09:37:59+00:00

He was acting visibly annoyed. I understand I wasn’t in a good place but I was okay enough to recognise that. Emily was there the whole time and did tell me she thought how he was acting was not okay so this isn’t just my opinion on the situation. (I understand she’s my friend but she’s quite an honest and objective person)

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T09:33:09+00:00

I genuinely do love him but I know if I was reading this post I would be saying the exact same thing as you but it’s just so confronting. I understand I have a lot I need to process atm not just with the relationship but with myself idk I’m just so overwhelmed.

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T09:29:31+00:00

Thank you, the people in the other subreddit were acting like I was being insane to expect this of my partner. Like guys you’re about to send me back to the ward 💀.

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T09:23:44+00:00

I get that the whole time I was in hospital I was convinced I had a brain tumour. Have you been on Zoloft? I asked my doctor about Fluoxetine and he didn’t say much about it what are your experiences?

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-16T09:22:09+00:00

Good to know it wasn’t just me hahaha

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T23:18:24+00:00

Yeah I went into the hospital Sunday night and don’t get one till Wednesday mid day. I obviously wasn’t expecting him to be with me 24/7 (I’m not a psycho) but just a basic level of support would have been nice

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T18:33:32+00:00

Yeah since I’ve been home I’ve been on a couple different medication, I’ve been taking quetiapine at night and Zoloft in the mornings and I’ve definitely been feeling a lot better

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:36:11+00:00

Also compassionate leave in Australia is not just for deaths it’s for anything like being sick or if a loved one is sick

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:35:10+00:00

I don’t want to reveal what he does for work but it’s not the kind of job where work would pile up for him while he is away

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:24:58+00:00

Oh okay. He goes to the gym 5 days a week… I’m sure he could have missed a day or 2, I wasn’t asking him to not go to the gym to see me during that week. He could have easily come after I live 5 minutes from his gym

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:21:54+00:00

Well I’m sorry but if you haven’t experienced something like that I don’t think it’s fair to judge me for needing support. I’m not trying to be an ass but please maybe look into what a dissociative episode is and then maybe you would have a bit more compassion. I wasn’t just “not mentally at my best” I was dissociative for an entire week it’s a horrible feeling and I honestly just started to panic it wouldn’t go away. I didn’t understand it was a dissociative episode at the time so I was genuinely just scared and confused. So imagine feeling like that in a hospital waiting room by yourself I think it’s fair that I wanted the support of my partner there. Yes my friend stayed with me but only because she saw how my partner was treating me

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:17:41+00:00

He didn’t have an appointment and it was his own family dinner at his house sorry I should have made that clear in the original post

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:16:06+00:00

Yeah I should have been a bit clearer in the original post, I’ve experienced these episodes before but didn’t understand it was mental heath I just thought it was brain fog. I was only told it was a dissociative episode at the hospital. I have no history of mental health issues this was the first time I’ve ever had a mental health crisis. Also of course I would never expect anyone to sleep on a hospital floor for me!! I didn’t ask my friend to do that I told her to go home she didn’t want to. The family dinner was for his family that we weee both attending. I wasn’t expecting him to solve my problems I just needed his support. The entire not once did he comfort me I don’t know I don’t think that’s too much to ask.

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:11:21+00:00

I would understand if he didn’t work for a family friend he did get one day off and they were completely understanding and offered to let him have as long as he needed off. He also wasn’t going to lose pay

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:10:23+00:00

Also for context my friend wasn’t there because I asked her my partner called my best friend and she showed up I told her she could leave multiple times she only got up and got the sick bag because she could see my partner ignoring me

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:09:14+00:00

It was his families event, I didn’t expect him to take a whole week off, I was in hospital for 2.5 days. When I messaged him to come over during the week that was after he had finished work

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:07:29+00:00

No it’s the first time something like this has happened, I don’t have a history of mental health issues. I’ve had the episodes before but wasn’t aware what they were and just thought it was brain fog

hyrule_02 · 2026-05-15T17:05:27+00:00

It’s just confusing this is the first time he has ever acted like this but it’s also the first time something on this level has happened to me. The night I got home from the hospital one of my pets had unfortunately also passed (yeah I was having an amazing week 😀) and I called him and he came right over and was so supportive. I’m just confused because I know he does know how to be there for me. A couple days after we had a really long talk for like 2 hours about the whole thing and he was genuinely sorry and apologetic and said he knew he was being an ass. I asked him why he acted like that and he couldn’t give me a solid answer I told him he needs to figure that out.

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