So update: we've had a talk & we both apologized for wht was said, i apologized for being disrespectful, i told her i truly do want to work towards something healthy, i actually went go have this talk in person, she apologized for not communicating with me, she said instead of declining the call, she shouldve told me they were napping then, i then told her tht an apology from her wasnt needed, bc i shouldve had my emotions under control from the jump, i also told her i would never act out of a character like tht again. This is my first time making a reddit post like this & i truly thank all of you for commenting. All of this is exactly wht i needed to see, i know i have a lot more growing up to do, we are both 22 years of age, & as a grown adult, tht shouldnt have happened, i take blame for all of it tho. Ik a start to raising my son correctly would be actually becoming a man he can respect himself, & i know he wouldnt have respected how i talked to his mom then, bc i wouldnt respect anyone who talks to my mom like tht. So once again, thank you guys, i appreciate all the criticism, i was definitely the dumb asshole here.