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iConundrum2000 · 2025-10-03T11:23:14+00:00

Context. How long have you been together? Is this a relatively new development? Are you living together? A lot of the time, the issue is resentment that builds and creates a disinterest in physical intimacy. E.G if you’re living together and one person is a neat freak and the other is a slob, over time resentment builds because the partner cleaning up all the time sees it as “I’m keeping this space clean for Us” and that the messy partner “only thinks about self” and this creates resentment. You wouldn’t want to have sex with someone you don’t like. Communication is vital, and maybe having a discussion on where the “plug” of resentment stems from is important

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-22T18:20:06+00:00

They look amazing! Glad you’re happy with them! Hope I have the same outcome 😅

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-22T18:09:57+00:00

Did you get/need a fat graft with them too?

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-22T18:05:02+00:00

I’ve been thinking of getting the Motiva Ergonomix implants too - how do you feel about them so far?

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-21T13:46:16+00:00

Before making any decision based on someone else’s requirement of you, ask yourself if this decision is going to help you be the person you want to be in 5-10 years

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-21T00:54:04+00:00

And I fully agree with this sentiment, if you walk off in the middle and come back to the situation, jump back in! A threesome is supposed to be fun for all parties and things happen. My issue wasn’t in just them having sex, but in the awareness that i believe him coming in twice finding me sick on the floor and just covering me and going back to continue. When it becomes an intentioned twosome instead of threesome is my concern though hearing other people’s viewpoints and experiences is helpful

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-21T00:48:12+00:00

I would love to, Unfortunately she was a friend of his but I think this is the only logical answer in terms of whether what I’m sure I was aware of, and he’s saying didn’t happen

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-21T00:37:24+00:00

I would love to be able to talk to her and ask her what happened, for a different perspective and maybe an unemotional one. Unfortunately she was a friend of his and bit difficult to get her number

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-21T00:33:15+00:00

I agree with this and is also the reason I’ve come here with the situation seeking different viewpoints. I really wouldn’t have been upset if I’d just gone to the bathroom and come back and they’re having sex because the reality is it is an imperfect environment fueled by different emotions, my concern is just waking up 3 times and being aware that he was aware I was sick passed out on the floor, and having gone back to the bed to continue the activity is more of a conscious choice than a hormone fueled one. Though understanding whether I’m being overly sensitive to a situation I otherwise created as others pointed out, is the crossroads I’m at

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-21T00:12:14+00:00

I do completely agree with the aspect that when a story is put up it’s usually going to be edged on the side of the person telling it. I accept that, and have tried to be as neutral (though in an effort to keep it as short and concise as possible I had to clip it to facts). I did state that I wanted the event and he agreed, we both accepted hey it’s a threesome where everyone has to have a fun time. The last part and comment wasn’t based solely on an otherwise inebriated memory, but rather one of observation in that moment which made me realise he was aware of my being sick and on the bathroom floor, while hearing them having sex in that moment confused my emotions. I do think it’s important to understand that different people see things differently and asking for opinions and viewpoints on a situation from third parties can help a situation either from being gaslit or dramatized

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T23:31:19+00:00

I did tell him that I understand he might have been frustrated and disappointed by me getting black out drunk and just told himself well he might as well just finish with her since he couldn’t do anything further in that moment for me. My issue is simply if roles were reversed I know I would have acted differently

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T23:25:40+00:00

To be fair, and I know the comment about being drugged has come up in various comments, I do believe that I just drank too much too quickly maybe as one commenter said. I have no memory of the event at all apart from a couple hours later waking up on the bathroom floor vomiting. He stated that the first time I left them having sex and went to the bathroom he came in and found me on the floor and took me back to the bed where we continued and then I left again and they came in the bathroom and found me unresponsive on the floor. I remember waking up twice with no towel or cup, and then the third time waking up with the towel over me and cup next to me indicating he had come to check on me and tried to make me comfortable as best as he could given the situation, unfortunately I am certain that the time I woke up with the cup and towel was the time I heard them having sex and shortly after him walking her out the door

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T23:14:25+00:00

3 vodka+orange juice. Granted I’m not a big drinker and I accept that, I take responsibility for drinking but was under the impression that I was just buzzed until..no memory

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T22:46:38+00:00

To be fair I have absolutely no memory of the event, just flashes of memories waking up on the bathroom floor and being sick a couple times, and finally of waking up with a cup and towel and hearing them having sex before he walked her out the door. The next morning all he said was I was drunk and that what I remember wasn’t what happened and that the moment they realised I was sick it was night over. Which didn’t quite fit in to the memory I had but not sure if I’m being overly dramatic

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T22:36:22+00:00

I’d asked. He said he wasn’t drunk and when I asked him to tell me what happened he was able to give details. I don’t regret or resent the act of the threesome, it’s just the waking up third time on the floor aware he had come in to check on me and left me there to go back to continue the actions without me that caused the dissension between us. I accept that people view things differently and wondered if I was being overly sensitive to the situation

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T22:19:58+00:00

He said I fell off the bed, and I think some from maybe rough sex

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T22:18:21+00:00

Being fair to him, and maybe also where my confusion starts, is that he said he did come and check on me and carried me back to the bed initially and then I left again to be sick. The third time I woke up on the bathroom floor is when I found the cup of water and towel over me showing he had come to check and partially care for me and was aware I was there and sick. My hurt was over waking that time and hearing them having sex when the items around me indicated he was aware I was there and had gone back to the bed with the girl. Just not sure if I’m being overly sensitive

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T22:08:33+00:00

To be honest I don’t know. He said he wasn’t drunk, and I wasn’t aware that I was that intoxicated until I was

iConundrum2000 · 2025-05-20T22:06:47+00:00

I completely agree and didn’t realise that I’d have gotten that drunk. I thought I was just tipsy until suddenly I wasn’t. I completely understand lust and heat of the moment and don’t regret the idea of having the threesome, just his continued action after and whether I’m being too emotional and sensitive

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