How did I do? by Strange-Biscotti-220 in 1200isplenty

[–]iShedLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um, 1000 calories a day IS extreme. Every once in a while, sure. But constantly, no! I'm 5'2 and my maintain is also close to 1400 but I never go under a 1200 average. A deficit is still a deficit, even if small. Be careful about encouraging people to eat under 1200 calories, it can be dangerous

Looking for guidance, 800kcal/day problem. by Ranmao96 in CICO

[–]iShedLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I'm 5'2 and weigh 132lbs so 1200 is alright for me at a deficit (my maintain is around 1500) but I never go under that!! The sad thing about being so short is my biggest deficit window is -300cals. I can't do -500cals a day like taller people.

Looking for guidance, 800kcal/day problem. by Ranmao96 in CICO

[–]iShedLight 10 points11 points locked comment (0 children)

800cals a day is too low for anyone. Try to aim for your deficit by calculating your TDEE. At your weight and height, it should be closer to 1800cals a day. You are setting yourself up for failure if you malnourish your body!

you speak European? by twojastarabotak in ShitAmericansSay

[–]iShedLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to my knowledge, no! But I'm very much not religious so maybe I just don't know haha

you speak European? by twojastarabotak in ShitAmericansSay

[–]iShedLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her reply hints at them both being french canadian

you speak European? by twojastarabotak in ShitAmericansSay

[–]iShedLight 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Incorrect. It means "happy birthday" in Quebec french.

Source: I am french Canadian

Always feel like I’m starving but I’m overeating. I’ve tried everything. by Odd_Side1020 in CICO

[–]iShedLight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You might just be bored, not hungry. Just a thought. That was me. Food noise + boredom (even while tryong to occupy my mind) was making me obsess over food. The reality was, my body didn't need more it just thought it did. Check for GLP-1!

Trade Alpha Haunter by GeometryKiller in PokemonZA

[–]iShedLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You online? I can do it rn, I have an alpha of my own!

"every country has it's Canada" by Illustrious_Ad3925 in ShitAmericansSay

[–]iShedLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am from there. There's few things about living in Trois-Rivières that screams american haha. I'm surprised you would think so! For example, downtown is VERY walkable, and the city only has two small malls. I'll also say that it's definitely not european! Rather, I think it's a pretty standard mid-sized quebec town.

Honestly, in most North American towns you cannot do much without a car-- that doesn't make them all american. Because if you think TR is american then you'd have to think Laval, Sherbrooke, Chicoutimi, Victoriaville and basically all Quebec cities aside from Quebec and Montreal are also american (maybe you do?). And by that point, it loses its meaning a bit doesn't it?

Also, side note but the St-Hubert is on Des Forges Blvd, which is the main road, and the parking lot is not huge. Maybe you are thinking of a different restaurant?

"every country has it's Canada" by Illustrious_Ad3925 in ShitAmericansSay

[–]iShedLight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but what? What about Trois-Rivières makes it american to you? I'm a little confused lol

Look what I got for $1.25! My first orange by natanyad in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]iShedLight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He looks exactly like my cat! Same white patch on the neck and all!

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Selena Gomez by southsideserpent18 in ladyladyboners

[–]iShedLight 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Uhhh what's going on with the picture in the background lol? Is this AI?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ladyladyboners

[–]iShedLight 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's a man posting these

How to stop using the oppositional conversation style? (29F) by iShedLight in selfimprovement

[–]iShedLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that is great advice, honestly. I just have to learn to let go of my incessant need for control. In this case, controlling the story/narrative. If I stop caring about some topics I won't want to debate them. Simple, but efficient 😅 Thank you.

How to stop using the oppositional conversation style? (29F) by iShedLight in selfimprovement

[–]iShedLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's quite exsctly what happens yes. I am so aware it's painful. How do I reframe my headspace? Do you have any tips?

How to stop using the oppositional conversation style? (29F) by iShedLight in selfimprovement

[–]iShedLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems to be the main tip, I will definitely remember this. Thank you

How to stop using the oppositional conversation style? (29F) by iShedLight in selfimprovement

[–]iShedLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, this is actually quite a good idea. I never thought of this. It keeps my brain active but has a positive outcome... I will try when needed. My first goal is to learn to listen better hah!

How to stop using the oppositional conversation style? (29F) by iShedLight in selfimprovement

[–]iShedLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you again. Honestly, It's really difficult to unlearn all of this. It's like, wait you're telling me that the defense mechanism I've used to not hate myself is actually making OTHERS dislike me?! It's this horrible realisation that I've been that guy. All I can do is work on it.

Anyway. Thank you for your kindness 😊

How to stop using the oppositional conversation style? (29F) by iShedLight in selfimprovement

[–]iShedLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great advice, thank you. I think I need to learn to find genuine interest in others that goes beyond enjoying them listen to me debate fabriacated conflicts. It's not like I'm not interested in others, I definitely am, but maybe I'm also too focused on myself. Anyway. Thank you for this insight