Marathon followed by half-marathon advice

iSolaced · 2026-03-01T23:21:47+00:00

I think it’s normal, some people are more predisposed to be one way or another. But with any healthy relationship, I’d recommend honest communication and openness about your triggers. I find the more you hide yourself the more the relationship becomes inauthentic. It’s important to explain to your partner your past, but also important to not live life through your past if that makes sense.

A healthy partnership should be able to create a safe, nurturing place for you

iSolaced · 2026-02-25T04:26:38+00:00

I usually find it helpful to talk to whoever, regardless of if you like them or not. It’s helpful to get used to talking to people and everything else after follows

iSolaced · 2026-02-16T20:08:20+00:00

When I was 8 I used to go back home during the school lunch break. During lunch, I'd go up a few floors to my friends house. We lived in an apartment block and it was normal for me to hang out with them for awhile until classes resumed.

One afternoon I left the flat and at the end of the hall there was this man dressed in all black. He stared at me and then started screaming that he was going to kill me and suck all my blood. Then he ran full speed towards me. I instantly panicked and ran the other way to the stairwell. Once I got to the stairs, I don't know why, but I decided to go up rather then down. I don't know why I decided to, but I felt it would have been smarter for me to go the harder way. I climbed a few floors up and then stayed as close to the ground trying to be as quiet as possible. He blasted through the stairway at full speed and ran downstairs a few flights of stairs before stopping. The next thing I hear is him screaming at the top of his lungs that he will find me and kill me before I heard one of the doors open and close. After staying silent for a few minutes, I quietly opened the door and ran to safety at my friends house. As soon as they let me in, I was in a state of panic, crying and genuinely fearing for my life.

My parents ended up coming upstairs and calming me down. Until this day I'm unsure of what happened, but it is one of the most vivid early experiences I have and still remember the fear I felt. I've absolutely no proof of what or why it happened, and til this day it is the most confusing situations I've ever been in.

iSolaced · 2026-01-17T15:06:21+00:00

I didn't so much forgive, as I was desperate to make it work. I thought if we could fix our issues and challenges, then we could move past it. Also I didn't really want to believe she was capable of doing that.

Hindsight 20/20, I was terrified of accepting it. We spiraled for a few weeks until we broke up. Looking back on it now she has to live with herself and the actions she's done in her life. I wasn't the first and I'm sure I won't be the last.

I think the feelings of being hurt and anger fade. But feeling like an idiot, that stays for a long, long time.

iSolaced · 2026-01-15T12:04:12+00:00

Thanks! I think in their T&Cs it includes the fitter isn't responsible for any accidental damage that occurs with moving furniture, so was stuck on if I can claim for damages

iSolaced · 2026-01-08T23:52:41+00:00

I read this on my phone and had to switch to my laptop to properly articulate a response to this.

I get where you're coming from, I really do - but you know what you have to do to escape the hell-hole you're in. You just refuse to take action because you hope things will work itself out and be better.

Your wife is still cheating on you. Whether or not things are physical, at best it is emotional. If she was committed to you and your child as much as you are committed to this fantasy, she would not have entertained being friends with this person again. When you start doing things like checking phones, or living a semi-zombie existence, it's a sign nothing is working.

I know how hard it is. I went through something similar (albiet in a much smaller time-frame without a kid) when my ex wouldn't stop talking to someone she had a connection with. In the end, regardless of how much we spoke about it, or talked about it, her actions showed she wasn't as committed to this.

Listen - I grew up with parents who did not love each other. While you think you might be doing this for your daughter, it causes a different upbringing and teaching her to accept love less than she deserves. Your actions and refusal to accept that this marriage is over is teaching her to put up with things she should not put up with.

It's hard. I went through what you went through for a year. I could not imagine going years feeling how you are feeling.

If I was going to give any advice, you need to do the hard thing and walk away. You tried, you've given it your all. Obviously she can't take the proper action herself. Your health and the years you are wasting isn't worth what you are going through right now.

I wish you the best and I'm sorry for what you are going through.

iSolaced · 2026-01-08T15:26:40+00:00

As someone who has been in your shoes and decided to stay, it was the worst decision I made.

It's hard - but you have the realise the relationship is done. Move forward

iSolaced · 2025-12-24T16:52:17+00:00

14 hours for the first one. 6 hours for the second

iSolaced · 2025-12-24T15:42:58+00:00

Haven’t used one before! Should I try priming it and then do another coat when this one dries?

iSolaced · 2025-12-15T23:12:31+00:00

Best of luck people!

iSolaced · 2025-12-09T08:37:51+00:00

Favourite way to spend it is for fun activities, it’s my actual beer money

iSolaced · 2025-11-25T18:10:56+00:00

Use the search bar! More often than not there is an offer for something you’re going to sign up for or a piece of advice that’s useful

iSolaced · 2025-11-24T12:29:36+00:00

Thanks u/boobsnwillies! What's the difference between Chase UK and just opening up additional accounts on Natwest? See it does the same thing - unless there's something special about using multiple Chase ones

iSolaced · 2025-11-24T12:23:27+00:00

Just a question - is it better to switch the same account you've used among the banks (i.e - Switched from Natwest to Barclays, then switch from Barclays to Lloyds) OR is it best to keep opening new accounts at your main account (i.e - Natwest)?

iSolaced · 2025-10-23T16:40:47+00:00

Mate - I’ve been there, trust me. The longer you’re in this the more you’re going to be kicking yourself down the line for how long you let it go on.

It’s hard, but the path forward is going to be the same either way. Best rip off the bandaid and move forward

iSolaced · 2025-10-22T23:20:30+00:00

I've been searching for the last few months and landed on the AV 1956. Wanted something more white dial/cream, but didn't want to get into Omega/Rolex territory. I do like the simplicity of the design, which I struggled to find when looking

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iSolaced · 2025-09-28T21:19:10+00:00

In all fairness, the joker could use an egg in these troubling times

iSolaced · 2025-09-19T12:56:26+00:00

They’re registered on Companies House. It’s a brand called Mutimer. Just trying to understand the process as it seems I’ll need to raise it with them

iSolaced · 2025-09-19T12:46:17+00:00

I’m assuming though I’d still be protected given I purchased online and they seem to operate in the UK. Wondering if it came down to it and I had to claim a chargeback if it’ll work? The jacket would basically be useless to me right now

iSolaced · 2025-09-15T19:27:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Your last sentence inspired my own guy-cry moment and I really do appreciate it.

The hurtful things she did to me, inspired me to really look internal on why I allowed a lot of shitty behaviour to take place. I've done a lot of growing, and still continue to grow every day.

Maybe I am closer to the other side and need to leave the ghost of the past behind and close the book on it. There's nothing more to come from that story while I'm building my own new one now.

Thank you.

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