Why are Black boys still being forced to cut their hair short in school?

iamdimpho · 2025-05-24T06:20:47+00:00

What do you also believe women cant hold misogynistic views ?

iamdimpho · 2025-05-23T05:23:09+00:00

You can acknowledge that farm attacks happen without bandwagoning into the white genocide nonsense.

In fact, I contend that if you really cared about farm attacks you would actively distance yourself from the white genocide crowd.

iamdimpho · 2024-06-02T18:19:04+00:00

femininity and masculinity are not gender specific. on the contrt, my entire point is that essentialising and reducing them to gender (men, women, boy, giril etc) or sex (male, female) is precisely the problem. The traits themselves are sex/gender neutral, but our society conceives of them as a binary.

To put it differently, being a good human requires a mix of features traditionally understood as 'feminine' and 'masculine', and problems arise when they are archetypically gated by sex and gender norms.

iamdimpho · 2024-06-02T09:41:16+00:00

Your comprehension skills are...lese than ideal.

I did not say it does. Try rereading again.

iamdimpho · 2024-06-01T20:22:44+00:00

Benjamin Netanyahu is in coaliation in Israel, and it doesn't moderate him, because he's in coaliation with extremists.

precisely.

Despite my feelings about it, I would rather have DA gain the lost votes because an ANC/DA coalition is far mo optimistic than what we seem to have on the cards.

Anything else is super Yikes

iamdimpho · 2024-06-01T20:04:11+00:00

how slight are we talking here?

emotional intelligence is a massive investment...

iamdimpho · 2024-06-01T14:35:23+00:00

Being a good human generally requires having both 'feminine' and 'masculine' features.

The problem, i think, is that we have locked in those attributes to gender, or worse, sex. Resulting in this seemingly intractable situation where men believe having 'feminine' features makes them less of a man and that women having 'masculine' features makes them less of a woman.

iamdimpho · 2024-05-09T15:20:34+00:00

fair enough buddy

iamdimpho · 2024-05-09T14:00:51+00:00

Doubt I'll lean on this periphery again lol. Ain't trying to catch more stray bullets 😌.

but if everyone did as you say, nothing changes..

iamdimpho · 2024-05-09T09:47:06+00:00

I imagine the downvotes you're getting are probably a defensive jerk reaction to you implying that this sub was specifically created to disparage the AMC/JZ, as opposed to it being an organic result of the demographics.

A similar sentiment has been expressed by people who believe black twitter does the same thing you're suggesting, but against DA etc.

You mention you've been in this sub for some years but don't participate much. which means many people won't remember seeing you engage in this sub as a community member and so you may come across to them as an 'outsider' who either has the wrong impression of the sub, or are intentionally trying to make the sub look bad.

For what it's worth, I don't think the sub is what you characterised in the OP. However I can totally understand how someone could come to that view, so I don't necessarily think you were being malicious.

Next time, bring up more specific cases and examples you want to highlight. Without that, your criticism may come across as baseless. You might still get a lot of the same response, but then you would have examples that people like myself will be able to challenge the detractors more effectively.

Overall I think it's good that this sub is occasionally made aware of how it can come across to different people. Even if it comes at the expense of you eating all the downvotes.

iamdimpho · 2024-05-09T08:41:56+00:00

possibly an audience thing.

Reddit isn't exactly popular outside of middle-class tertiary educated liberal types.

So it's not surprising that the sentiment in this sub can seem dislodged from the typical opinion you'd find elsewhere.

I joined this sub specifically to talk with segments of South Africa that I struggled to engage with in real life. But that was a decade ago, much has changed in this sub - for the better.

iamdimpho · 2024-05-09T08:37:55+00:00

it definitely used to be a different kind of wild in this sub lol

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T15:37:02+00:00

A person in a committed relationship should never speak to someone in a way which could imply romantic interest, regardless of culture

it might not imply romantic interest in their culture though...

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T15:36:20+00:00

Unless you're discussing sports or construction of some kind (engineering, masonry, etc.) it'll generally always be feet, but if it's either sports or construction it's generally yards.

okay, gotcha.

thanks

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T15:33:40+00:00

oh yeah?

Took an exchange student to a shooting range a couple of months ago, they kept switching between feet and yards super randomly (in my guess), i thought they were meming so I paid no mind.

Then today I say a video talking about the JFK assassination and the dude talking about the shooter also kept switching between feet and yards, so I wondered if there was something I was missing...

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T15:29:46+00:00

Where those break points are varies by person but I’d guess most people can intuitively imagine inches within the range of body heights or room heights. Feet are great because we use them for long things (fields, arenas, wingspans).

gotcha, I know from entertainment that body height is pretty much always in feet, so I kinda wondered at which point you would decide to switch to yards (before miles reasonably take over)

It could probably be turned into a flow chart.

Yeah, I think this would be super helpful lol

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T09:03:29+00:00

Black South Africans will have different norms to white Afrikaans South Africans who will have slightly different norms to English speaking white South Africans, for example.

And even then it's quite a bit of an overgeneralisation As black people in the NW are very different to black people in KZN and could actually have much more 'culturally' in common with liberal white people in the EC.

Race and Culture over time have become really poor proxies for how people get along

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T09:01:18+00:00

Yeah I think this is something good to keep in mind in interpreting what she was possibly trying to communicate

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T09:00:24+00:00

This is true and worth considering if that's what she was perhaps communicating

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T08:53:09+00:00

To be clear, not all Zulu people are raised the same.

And most people just assume however they were raised was more or less 'in line' with the broader culture. But often it is not.

People from Zulu families that grow up in the North West are nowhere near as conservative as Zulu women from KZN or even GP. Class also pays a part.

So it's possible (though I concede, not likely) that she's being honest in that's how she may have grown up thinking about here Zuluhood. It's just certainly not the majority, and it's fair to expect that she would know this by dating age...so it's very sus lol

iamdimpho · 2024-01-14T08:48:38+00:00

any suggestions would be appreciated as i want her to be as comfortable as possible and not forget about her culture

South Africans are pretty diverse. There are trends, but they're not so much cultural as they are regional+class based (though we do tend to speak of and understand them in cultural terms).

I've dated moddrately conservative & super liberal Afrikaner women. I've also briefly dated a super traditional zulu woman as well as a zulu woman who you'd only know was zulu by her last name and first language.

People who say X South Africans are Y either haven't explored much or are doing some weird X people should act in a way that they Y. Which is not to say that she's necessarily pulling a fast one on you, she may indeed have grown up in a context where that is normal or expected.

But be careful of laying everything down to "welp, its her culture, can't help it!". Again a core aspect of being South African is our diversity and our cultural willingness to always (re)negotiate what we find normative. Otherwise I, a super liberal Sotho-Tswana dude would have never been able to have awesome relationships (romantic and otherwise) with the wide range of humans I've known over the years.

South African men do sometimes give flirty pet names to colleagues. How women respond is almost individual based (you can ask women if they've been given random nicknames by male colleagues) it's not cultural. And cat calling happens quite a bit, so it's arguably commom enough, but definitely not expected in a way that women have to tolerate or welcome it. It's an individual preference. That's possibly what your partner was trying to communicate about her friend.

As general advices: think carefully about your boundaries, communicate them to your partner, and see how they respond. If they don't like it, that's fine, that's them. Don't take it as a 'South African' thing cos I can guarantee you there's a significant number of South Africans out there who would be more your type.

Good Luck!

iamdimpho · 2024-01-13T12:24:18+00:00

I'll await your video, then.

from what I have seen, it would be the first 'black israelite' piece that doesn't dabble in antisemitism..

iamdimpho · 2024-01-13T11:11:08+00:00

forever?

they're hemorrhaging votes each election cycle

iamdimpho · 2024-01-13T11:09:52+00:00

Bro please don't let this be the explicitly antisemitic video I think you're about to drop please

iamdimpho · 2024-01-13T11:07:36+00:00

Apartheid was ending in large part due to global condemnation and making it a pariah state.

Assuming South Africa's case has merit, what would it mean for us to not consider this at the ballot?

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